The older generation often says: Only when you eat hard can you become a superior person.
But today's young people don't like to listen to this, and they retorted: "You have endured so much hardship in your life, have you become a human being? As long as you are willing to endure hardships, you will have endless hardships in this life! If you can work, you will have endless work." ”
There is also a hot topic on a certain topic, why does suffering flow to those who endure hardship? The answers of netizens hit the nail on the head, and people were shocked after reading it.
01 Malice will lead to the path of least resistance
If you accept suffering and are willing to suffer, instead of finding a way to fight and change, then the status quo of suffering will never change.
In interpersonal interactions, others release malice towards you, if you turn your face, others will think that you are not easy to provoke and will no longer bully you, but if you endure it silently, others will not let you go, but think that you are easy to handle, and will bully you even more.
Society is like this, not everyone is good, there are some people who are bad, and they like to hurt others for no reason, in order to satisfy their sense of superiority and vent their emotions. You have to harden yourself so that you don't suffer less from what others give.
If people want to change the status quo, they must have a sense of worthiness and unwillingness.
There is a self-proof language in psychology that if you think the future will be worse, the body will unconsciously act according to your expectations.
Be sure to tell yourself:
02 It's a bit bitter, and it's completely self-inflicted
There was a staggering news that there was an old lady in the village named Yang Shuzhen, who was notoriously thrifty. One day, when she was about to cook, she accidentally knocked over the rat poison next to her and mixed it into a vat of rice. Rat poison must not be eaten by people, but a good pot of rice is wasted if it is lost, and Mrs. Yang thought, it would be okay to wash it and eat it again! So, the family ate a dinner contaminated with rat poison, and that night, the family of five all went to the hospital.
Mrs. Yang had a small appetite and ate little, so she was discharged from the hospital on the third day. Pity her wife, she ate two bowls of rice in one go, and she was too old to be rescued. My son's family of three was young and healthy, and they were rescued after three days in the ICU.
The first thing her son did when he woke up was to scold Mrs. Yang and tell her to go home and throw away the rice quickly.
Mrs. Yang still felt that it was a waste, and she thought: People can't eat it, but chickens can always eat it! So she washed the rice again and fed it to the chickens at home.
On this day, the family happened to hold a funeral for her wife, and she wanted to invite the villagers to dinner, so Mrs. Yang stewed the chicken and served it to the villagers who came to help in line with the principle of not wasting it. As a result, none of the more than 400 people in the village were spared, and all of them were sent to the hospital and slipped around the ghost gate.
Some suffering, obviously don't have to suffer, but some people have to take the initiative to eat, such as Mrs. Yang's excessive thrift, which not only wastes more money, but also makes herself suffer.
In real life, there are many examples of people who have to wash their own hands even if they have a washing machine at home; they are reluctant to throw away leftovers and expired spoiled food, which leads to diarrhea and go to the hospital; in order to earn that hundred dollars, they have to work in the fields even if they are not in good health, and as a result, they spend thousands of dollars on a trip to the hospital.
For some elders, enduring hardship is purely self-moving. If you have endured hardship, you can say when your children are not sensible: "Who am I suffering for so much?"
When young people encounter difficulties and struggle for their livelihoods, some people who come here say: How good your life is now, just like when we were young, we couldn't eat enough, we had to work every day, and we had no money to study.
When young people complained about the pain of giving birth, the elders said, "What's so hypocritical, I still worked in the fields when I was pregnant!" In the winter, I had to go to the river to wash my clothes during the confinement period, and the water was cold and cold, how could I be as happy as you are now?
However, suffering is not something to compare and boast about, nor is it a sign of success.
There are those who grow and become resilient in the midst of suffering, and there are those who struggle in the midst of suffering and have their will destroyed.
Suffering cannot be avoided, but it is not worth pursuing, and happiness can only be achieved by escaping it.
03 Many people suffer only to cover up tactical laziness with strategic diligence
There are two kinds of suffering, one is the suffering of spiritual labor and the other is the suffering of physical labor. Most people can't suffer mentally, only physically.
If you just keep your head down and work hard, you will never be able to get out of the status quo without thinking and making changes.
In this society, most people have similar IQs, why do some people mix well and others don't?
In addition to other factors such as family background and personality, the habit of using the brain is also very important. Thinking is changing, change is passing, general is reaching, when the mountains and rivers are exhausted, we must seek change, there are changes, in order to get out of the predicament little by little.
Only by understanding human nature can you let the money flow to yourself
Someone replied: What you eat to make up for something, you can't become a master by enduring hardships, you can only eat people.
You can understand the "eating" here as oppression, plunder, exploitation, corrupt officials, landlords, warlords, capitalists, etc., and most of the people who make a fortune cannot escape this.
Of course, in modern times, this is certainly not possible. But everything is the same, and if you want to make money, you still can't do without studying human nature thoroughly. To do business, you need to study the psychology and behavioral habits of consumers; to do a good job in self-media, you need to understand the pain points, coolness and curiosity of human nature; if you want to get promoted and raised, what is indispensable is the sophistication of people.
In addition to the hardships of studying and exercising, other hardships can be eaten without eating
If a person cannot endure the hardships of studying, he must accept the hardships of life, and if he cannot endure the hardships of exercise, he must suffer from obesity and illness. The greatest meaning of enduring hardship is to avoid more unbearable suffering.
People are not afraid of hardship, but they are afraid of suffering that has no value all the time. What stays up late to read until dawn, only sleeps for a few hours in a row, how long has it been since you had a holiday, if these things are also worth boasting about, then anyone on the Foxconn assembly line has worked harder than you.
Don't let diligence in action cover up laziness in thought.