Family style tutoring is the most valuable asset of a family and the best legacy for future generations. In order to thoroughly study, publicize and implement General Secretary Xi Jinping's important exposition on paying attention to the construction of family education and family style, and guide the cadres and masses to cultivate family and country feelings, cultivate good family style, and jointly create a civilized family, Inner Mongolia Civilization Network plans to launch the special topic of "Family Style and Family Education Inheritance". Today, I will tell you the story of Dong Cui'e's family.
There is such a family in Qingyang Community, Hongmao Town, Liangcheng County, Ulanchabu City, whose husband's name is Li Zhiqiang, a worker of the Party School of the Liangcheng County Party Committee, and his wife's name is Dong Cui'e, a retired employee of the Liangcheng County Rural Credit Cooperative. In 2022, Dong Cui'e's family was rated as the third "Civilized Family" in the district.
Dong Cui'e (first from right) and her mother-in-law took a group photo.
For more than 30 years, no matter how busy Dong Cui'e and his wife are, they have put the matter of taking care of the elderly in their hearts and putting it in the first place, and they must let the elderly eat well and dress warmly. Filial piety to the elderly should come from the heart, because the mother-in-law and Dong Cui'e live together, more of the task of taking care of the elderly falls on their shoulders, Dong Cui'e thinks that taking care of the elderly, so that the mother-in-law has a happy and happy old age is what she should do, and it must be done, so she always does her best to take care of the elderly. When the old man was sick and hospitalized, Dong Cui'e and his wife and family competed to take care of the elderly, everyone understood each other and never made conflicts over trivial matters.
As the saying goes, you respect me for a foot, I respect you for a zhang, people's hearts for people's hearts, four taels for half a catty. Dong Cui'e's family never destroys family harmony between brothers and sisters and concubines because of some trivial things. In the treatment of filial piety to the elderly and many things in life, they have always been in line with the attitude that suffering losses is blessings, and the neighbors are very envious of their harmonious and happy family, and they are always full of praise, and they always smile and say: "Who has no old people? Who does not have old age? We are just doing our duty to set an example for our children." ”
It is said that it is difficult to be a daughter-in-law, but Dong Cui'e silently interprets the true meaning of "filial piety" with her own actions, and truly regards her mother-in-law as a mother. More than 10 years ago, my mother-in-law had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage due to high blood pressure, and although she was sent to the hospital in time, her mother-in-law was paralyzed in bed. She and her husband could only take their mother-in-law home to take care of her, at that time, the old man was eating through the lower stomach tube, and his right hand was unconscious, and after returning home, he could only eat liquid food every day, and insisted on burning his hands and feet with hot water every day to restore consciousness by stimulating the nerves. After more than 40 days of careful care, the right hand has a sense, and slowly the stomach tube and urinary tube are also taken, at this time the most tricky thing is to urinate, just take the urine tube will have frequent urination and urgency, often wet the pants and wet the bed, in order to keep the mother-in-law clean, whether it is day or night, change the sheets, urine pads, dirty clothes, Dong Cui'e will wash in time, often wash the body for the mother-in-law, keep it clean.
Dong Cui'e washes her mother-in-law's feet.
In the Spring Festival of 2020, all units in Liangcheng County are in full swing to arrange various epidemic prevention work, and Dong Cui'e and his wife actively participate in the duty work of the Baolian community. For this reason, Dong Cui'e and her husband can only take turns to take care of the bedridden mother-in-law, in order not to delay the prevention and control duty work at the same time, but also to reduce the burden of taking care of the elderly for his wife, get up at five o'clock every morning, wash and feed the elderly, and then rush to the Baolian community non-stop. In order to prevent her bedridden mother-in-law from getting bedsores, Dong Cui'e has to turn over the old man at least five or six times a day, these things are simple to say, but for Dong Cui'e, it is not easy to do, because she is also a weak woman who weighs less than 90 pounds, and the old man is old, and he has been sick in bed for a long time, and his body is very stiff. Even so, she insisted on turning over the old man when she was free, and scalded the old man's feet with warm water every night to promote blood circulation in the old man's body. Every few days, wipe the old man's body with warm water. Every time she feeds medicine to her mother-in-law, she has to first try whether the water is scalding or not, and then put the medicine in the old man's mouth and use a disposable needle to absorb water and feed the old man. For each of the old man's meals, she used a spoon to feed the food into the old man's mouth, and it took at least an hour for a meal to come down. The doctor said that the mother-in-law could hear them talking, but she couldn't express it, so she often chatted with the mother-in-law to make the old man happy. It has been 13 years since her mother-in-law was paralyzed, Dong Cui'e and her husband have basically not slept a peaceful night, she washes and combs her mother-in-law's hair, takes feces and urine, and never dislikes it.
In 2021, Dong Cui'e will retire, but as long as the unit needs her, she will be on call regardless of whether there is anything to do. In November 2021, Dong Cui'e, who retired, returned to Liangcheng Associated Press to work for two months, and she didn't ask for a penny of remuneration, just because the unit needed her.
Dong Cui'e is an ordinary woman who has not studied education, but she knows that her parents are the first teachers of her children, and her parents' words and deeds directly affect their children. From childhood to adulthood, she did not nag too much, nor did she preach emptyly, but used her words and deeds to influence the child. Under her influence, the child is full of love, filial piety, and self-motivation from an early age. Every time I buy my child's favorite food, the child always gives it to my grandmother first; when my grandmother is sick, my daughter stays with my grandmother all night because she is worried that my grandmother will shed tears; after my grandmother is paralyzed, my daughter often chats with my grandmother and takes care of my grandmother. Now, her daughter has also become a good wife and mother to her two children, in order to reduce the burden on her daughter, Dong Cui'e worked from Monday to Friday before retirement, took care of her mother-in-law, and went to her daughter's house to help her daughter take care of the children on weekends. After retirement, Dong Cui'e wholeheartedly takes care of her mother-in-law at home, but as long as she can spare some time, she will help her daughter take care of the children and do housework, so that the children can work with peace of mind.
Dong Cui'e and her husband pay silently and never show off, just like a big tree with lush leaves, day after day, year after year, in the scorching summer, silently sending a shade and coolness to everyone who passes by under the tree. They have built a harmonious family with love, filial piety and responsibility, although there are no vigorous and earth-shattering deeds, but they have demonstrated the noble character of filial piety and love for the young, love and dedication, and selfless dedication with practical actions.
(Source: Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region Civilization Office)
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