In the past few weeks, in the postgraduate re-examination, Xu, a former student of Southeast University, failed to pass the postgraduate re-examination of Nanjing University due to the impact of the cat abuse incident, although he scored high in the written test, and at the same time aroused strong protests from netizens, and even went to the adjustment school Lanzhou University to leave a message suggesting that the school cancel Xu's re-examination qualifications, and the incident continued to occupy the top few places on the hot search list.
At the same time, in the past few months, one question that I have been thinking about is why Dong Yuhui became popular and had so many "stories" or "accidents" with his old club. It's not about the "inside story of the contradictions" that are not known to the outside world about the relationship between it and the company. Rather, if Dong is really just what Lao Yu said, "an accident that was not planned and a gift from God", then why can Dong continue to arouse the love of fans and support enthusiasm for a long time?
At the same time, as a veteran company that started in education, the people who can open up a new track under the direct leadership of Lao Yu must have screened a group of high-quality talents from the inside. The entrance examination guide believes that this group of people may not be able to say that they are the dragons and phoenixes among the people, but they must also be the elite class of society. I also believe that among this group of people, there must be many people who are better than Dong, otherwise there should not be a direct "top grabbing" incident during the live broadcast, but why is only Dong able to become the focus, and it is a positive focus?
After thinking about it, we can conclude that:
A child's good learning can only be the premise of excellence, and having a good personality or even exuding personality charm is the premise of being truly excellent and successful.
From this point of view, Xu, who abused cats, and Dong Yuhui's team members, are outstanding enough in their studies and talented enough in their personal talents, but why are they all burdened with negative public opinion that is not recognized?
1. There is no shortage of highly educated and highly educated groups in the current society.
As for the root cause of the contradiction between Dong and his old employer, some people analyze it like this: a certain party is full of talents, graduated from a famous school + study abroad background + family conditions are superior = social elite, and Dong = ordinary university (note: Xi'an foreign Chinese is actually not ordinary at all) + born in the countryside. These differences led to the fact that although Dong became popular, the arrogance in the bones of the "elite colleagues" made them look down on Dong Yu at all, which was the reason why Dong was repeatedly backstabbed.
And Xu, who abused cats, compared with his educational background of Southeast University and the score of the written examination for the postgraduate entrance examination, compared with the candidates who entered the re-examination with him, although the score was the first, the candidates in the same batch also showed outstanding results. It can be seen that the current country's education system is becoming more and more perfect, as long as you work hard, regardless of ideology and morality, this society is actually full of talents.
2. It is not talent that can be recognized, but social value.
In the process of paying attention to Dong Yuhui's incident, what moved the entrance examination guide the most was not his gushing literary talent, nor his easy on-stage speech. Rather, it is his relevant statement on "grain cheapness hurts peasants".
In these remarks, Dong not only started from the perspective of growers, but also considered the cost of intermediate purchase, transportation and packaging, and finally explained to consumers the profit margin of agricultural products.
For an anchor with live broadcasts, more words should be "helping fans than saving money", so that there can be more sales and more profits, but Dong is not, no matter which party he is, he has taken care of it in a reasonable and restrained manner, and has been recognized by all walks of life and even official recognition.
It can be seen that a person's social value is not how much wealth he can create, although wealth is an important measurement indicator, but it is definitely not the only indicator, and if it is not recognized in all aspects, then it may only be a passing eye.
This, in fact, we can also draw conclusions from the current comparison between "Brother Belt" and a certain Dawang, and we can also conclude from the social repercussions after the death of the elder Wahaha that social value absolutely needs to be based on the complementarity of individual talents and their own personalities.
3. Personality is the key to social acceptance.
Just like someone commented on Dong Yuhui's old club's team: there are many talented people here, but there are very few people with Dong Yuhui's personality charm, Dong's kindness, persistence, struggle and unparalleled output ability, coupled with the original intention of helping farmers and the sense of mission of spreading culture, are the real reasons why everyone likes them. This point, not to mention that the vast majority of people are working to earn money, and even a few head anchors with live broadcasts can't compare.
Looking at Xu who abused cats, everyone's unanimous reaction was: cat abuse is his hobby and interest, if he has resources and power one day, will his personality and hobbies become abusive?
It can be seen that in addition to talent, in addition to test results, sincerity, enthusiasm, friendliness, compassion, self-humility and self-encouragement, enterprising spirit, innovation and creativity, always thinking about others, self-control, tenacity and open-mindedness, and emotional stability are the keys to giving full play to one's talents, actively exuding personality charm, winning social recognition, and creating social value.
How to cultivate children's personality charm?
If personal talent and knowledge are only the "art" to achieve oneself, then having personality charm is the "way" to achieve oneself. Only by "Taoism" can we achieve self-achievement, and "Tao" must occupy a decisive role in the process of achievement. This is what many people say, small talents rely on wisdom, and big talents rely on virtue.
1. Reading is still the main magic weapon
Since he is still young and has little experience, he has not traveled so many roads, so let his children see more of the roads that others have walked. Draw from someone else's path
2. Practice is the only way to go
When people say that there are less things to do, they will "say that they are worried about the new words", and only "know" has not yet "acted", and it is difficult to develop personality charm. For children, it must be in contact with classmates and friends to slowly achieve socialization, must be in the confrontation with difficulties and setbacks to slowly realize "Mount Tai collapsed in front and the face does not change". This kind of personality has nothing to do with the child's grades, scores, or rankings, but it can determine a large part of the child's future.
Therefore, parents should allow their children to maintain a certain amount of self-space, including social space, play space, independent problem-solving space, and self-reflection space, so that he can transform his successful personality into his own mind, which is the most critical part of cultivating a successful personality.
3. Parental guidance is key
I don't know how many parents, in the process of raising a baby, take the following: do your homework after school + disobedient will be louder than anyone + don't communicate if you have nothing to do. I don't know how many parents have no other way than "national scolding" when they encounter their children's anxiety and self-abandonment. And so on, over time, we ask our children to grow, why?
Since children are not sensible and do not know how to compare their hearts, then parents should be more calm, consciously exchange identities, and regard normalized communication with their children as the top priority.
In fact, there are many parents around me who do a very good job of teaching by word and deed. One of the parents once bought a four-wheel drive car that he played with when he was a child and gave it to his son because he was busy with work. During the assembly process, the child lacks patience and even "gets angry". He didn't get angry, but stopped working, picked up the car, analyzed with the child where the loading was wrong, adjusted step by step, and it took more than two hours to get the car running.
Then his operation is godly, after a few laps of the car, he dismantled the car back to the state of "a bunch of parts", and then said to the child: like Dad just met will not patiently read the manual, put him back up, will not ask at any time, but be sure to install it, after loading what you want to buy can be rewarded!
Yes, it is the basic way to cultivate personality charm for children to have a correct concept of self, to be willing to take action, to understand objective laws, and to self-suggest "I can do it".