If a small sapling wants to grow into a big tree, in addition to its own good foundation and fertile soil, it also needs someone to help it prune its branches and leaves. In this way, the small saplings can grow faster and better. The growth of a boy is also like this, in addition to his own good conditions, he also needs the correct education and guidance of his parents to help him succeed.
Every parent wants their son to be successful, but not every parent can do so. A boy's success depends not only on his talent, but also on how his parents educate him. While talent is important, an acquired education can also make up for the lack of talent and make boys better.
Some parents feel that the boy should be responsible for his own learning, and if the boy does not want to learn, it is useless for the parents to force him. But in fact, boys sometimes forget to study because they are playful. At this time, parents should not let him go, but remind him and urge him to study.
Of course, pushing a boy to study doesn't mean constantly pushing a boy to do his homework. Nowadays, many parents come home from work, the first thing they do is to check if the boy is doing his homework, and urge him to do his homework when they see him watching TV. This kind of urging is actually a bit excessive, a bit like "obsessive-compulsive disorder".
Some parents will keep urging the boy whenever they see him not doing his homework, and even call him to ask about his homework when he goes to work. If the boy doesn't listen, the parents get angry until the boy starts doing his homework. But this is not a good practice, because excessive urging and stimulation will make boys averse to learning, and even have a rebellious mentality.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to methods and attitudes when urging boys to study. Excessive urging not only does not help a boy learn, but can affect his learning effectiveness and physical and mental health. Only by mastering the right methods can we really help boys improve their learning efficiency.
My advice for young parents
Method 1: Guided learning according to the boy's age
A boy's study habits are important and can affect him throughout his life. When he first started studying, his parents should guide him well and help him develop good study habits. Boys tend to be playful, especially when they are eleven or twelve years old, which is a critical time for them to develop study habits. Because the boy's self-control ability is not strong enough, his parents should be particularly responsible, do more ideological work for him, and supervise him to study hard.
Method 2: Supervise your study in moderation and don't push it too hard
When parents urge a boy to study, don't let him feel that he is being forced, otherwise he will be disgusted. Some parents immediately urge a boy to study as soon as he sees him playing. If the boy doesn't listen, the parents will urge them over and over again, which is really useless. This will only make boys more reluctant to learn. Therefore, when parents are urging the boy, they should pay attention to the method and don't make him feel that he is being forced.
Method 3: Care about the boy's performance in class
As the saying goes, "One minute in class, ten years in class." This means that listening carefully in class is much better than learning outside of class. Parents should be more concerned about the boy's performance in school, especially in class. If you find that he is not serious in class, remind him when you go home and encourage him to listen well. But don't scare him with scolding, that will only backfire. At the same time, parents should also communicate more with teachers to find out problems together to help boys learn better.
If parents don't have time, they can ask the teacher to help record the boy's performance in class and take it home to see. Parents can also talk to the boy and ask him to tell you what he has learned when he comes home, or to pick a new question to explain to you. This way you will be able to see how well he is learning.
Also, if the boy does not respect the teacher, he will not take the class seriously. So parents should teach the boy to respect the teacher and like the teacher, so that he will study harder. Parents and teachers should work together to cultivate good habits in the boy and lay a good foundation for his future success.
Finally, parents are the boy's first teacher, and your words and actions will affect him. Therefore, we should usually give him more positive energy and teach him to be grateful for life. In this way, the boy can grow up healthy and happy.
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