I made a mistake in the past, and the wound caused by this mistake is still trying to heal it.
It wasn't until recently that I realized that I had fallen into the "snake chasing effect" because of my unconvinced stubbornness. Not only could he not succeed in venting his grievances, but he was also found by someone to find an opportunity to fall into the well. In the end, I didn't become the main character in the revenge drama and lost my job.
The "snake chasing effect" means that when you are bitten by a poisonous snake, you are so angry that you ignore the wounds on your body and the risk of poisoning, and run to chase the poisonous snake that has escaped. As a result, not only did he not catch the snake, but he was poisoned and died.
Back then, I reacted like this in the workplace because of the grievances I received at work.
At that time, because we had just taken over a new project, everyone was facing an unknown plan, and our nerves were very tense, and there were often contradictions and lack of communication in meetings or cooperation and communication, so the working atmosphere was not very good.
In another project, there was an older senior who perhaps thought she was more suitable for the project, so she began to privately contact each of the members of my team to persuade everyone to do things according to her thinking.
At first, I was happy to accept some of her ideas, but occasionally I didn't adopt all of them because of the different nature of my plans.
Some colleagues in the same group, because they know that they know each other's character, so they agree on the surface, but in private they ignore the senior's proposal. But there are also some colleagues who act cheaply and will obey almost everything.
In such a situation, the members of the plan, not only did not become more and more tacit, but worsened. Soon after, naturally, the first wave of conflict began.
In the name of helping the juniors, the senior asked everyone to have regular meetings, but except for the team members who listened to her orders, other colleagues who didn't like the senior were not notified at all. And I, because of my tepid relationship with that senior, I received a notice, but because I happened to be on vacation on the day of the meeting, I couldn't attend, so I was included in the list of betrayals by this senior, and then began a series of targeted suppression.
At that time, I had only worked for a few years, and I felt that as long as I was serious and responsible professionally, I didn't need to worry about rumors, but the conflict did not stop because of my patience.
Finally, I couldn't bear it anymore and asked a few colleagues who hated that senior how to deal with them and their friends. At that time, everyone was still young and had a hot temper, so they all advocated for revenge. And I myself felt that I had to fight for myself, so I started to fight back.
I started to woo other colleagues and wanted them to be on my side. Try to find out her blind spots, and as long as she doesn't find out, she should be able to continue the job.
But it turns out that to be able to sit in that position for a long time, there must be her way. In addition to being bullied by her, she also reported to the same group members who trusted her, and there were many things that I handled halfway, and she took them to complain to the supervisor, saying that I was too inefficient, etc.
In the process, I also kept digging out where I had made mistakes, thinking about why the senior wanted to constantly attack the colleagues I worked with, etc., and this demon trapped me deeply, and even thought that she was a cancer in the workplace.
Later, because my senior said bad things in front of my supervisor, even my colleagues who didn't like him began to avoid getting along with me, and as a result, I didn't get a contract to renew my employment.
Many years after I left my job, I still feel scared of humanity and realize the trauma left by this incident. I know myself better now than I did then. I'm ruthless, and I'm not as ruthless as others. If you want revenge, you can't do it.
If the next time you encounter a poisonous snake, it is better to spend time taking care of your injured self than to chase after it in embarrassment. That poisonous snake, one day in the future, will definitely be cleaned up by more powerful hunters.