Author / Shiyan cypress and psychological Qu Harrier Qi
Editor/Shiyan Bai and Psychology Zou Yue
I saw a post today, and netizens said that their mother always complained while doing housework. This topic immediately resonated with the majority of netizens.
Some netizens said that their wives sighed and complained when they arrived to do housework, and at this time, the family seemed to enter a state of low pressure, and some netizens said that they had experienced similar things when they were children, and their mothers always tossed and turned over when they were mopping the floor.
Some netizens originally did this job, but I just wanted to watch this episode of the cartoon and rest for a while before doing it. At this time, my mother will continue to urge, even if I repeatedly promise him that I will do this work, but my mother will still complain and urge, and then he will do this thing for me without saying anything, whenever I encounter this situation, I have an indescribable sense of guilt, at this time no matter what I am doing, I have to stop what I am doing to work, otherwise I am like an unfilial son.
But the problem is that I don't work at home, sweeping, mopping, grocery shopping, washing dishes, drying clothes, all the work I am willing to do, and when I do housework, I don't think it's a thing worth complaining about, and I don't feel that someone has to help me to do housework, housework is a matter of course, but why do some people have to be bitter and bitter when doing housework, and complain?
If you don't want to do it, you can not do it, and since you rush to do it, why do you still nag about it? Behind this phenomenon, there are generally several psychological reasons:
First, people who complain at work may have a controlling personality, they will not complain when they are working, if there is no one around, but as long as there are people around, they will start to sigh and complain. Behind this behavior, it seems that I want to deliberately show you that I am paying and that you owe me, so that I can always stand on the high moral position, so that I can use morality to kidnap you and control you in the future.
Second, I'm brushing your presence so that I can show that I'm valuable too. Such a person may have low self-esteem in psychology. In order to show their families that they are also valuable, they will show their dedication all the time. But asking for credit directly from his family made him feel a little embarrassed by his fragile self-esteem, so he would express to his family by complaining that he was also a useful and valuable person.
Third, it may be due to the difference in gender psychology between men and women. Men have been accustomed to solitude and independence since ancient times. A man does things just to do things, and he generally doesn't care if there is anyone around him. Even in the primitive society, when hunting and fighting in a group of people, men were in their own places and performed their own duties, and it was important that these men kept quiet and could not speak at all times while hunting. Women have needed to live in relationships since ancient times, and the focus of relationships is communication and companionship, and women can't stare at the fish on the water for hours without saying a word like men. Therefore, when women complain to their families when they are working, it may be out of a relationship establishment, and women may also want men to accompany them to do things when they work, which is also a kind of relationship building.