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My name is Zhang Wei, I am 28 years old, and I work as a product manager in a well-known Internet company. Since I came to this steel city from my hometown six years ago, I have put all my energy into my work. As the only child in the family, my parents and mother-in-law always hoped that I could start a family as soon as possible, but I always shirked that I needed to work hard for a while.
For those of us who have lived in the countryside since childhood, the Spring Festival is arguably the most important festival of the year. It not only represents the beginning of a new year, but also a big day for the whole family to be reunited and united. Every time the Spring Festival comes, my parents and mother-in-law will wait for me to come home with the stars and the moon, hoping to spend this important festival with me. But I always put my work first and turned a blind eye to their expectations.
"Hey, Wei'er, it's my mother-in-law. On the other end of the phone, my mother-in-law's hurried voice came.
My heart tightened, and I guess it was for me to go home for the New Year. Sure enough, the mother-in-law continued: "It's almost the end of the year, when are you going to come back? "
There was silence on the other end of the phone for a few moments, and I could almost imagine my mother-in-law's disappointed expression. Sure enough, after a while, she said in a slightly complaining tone: "But Wei'er, you've been working hard outside for several years, even if you are busy with work, you should take the time to come back and see us." If you don't come back, we won't see you. "
Hearing my mother-in-law's words, my heart was extremely painful. As an only child, I certainly understand my family's feelings, but at the same time, work is also crucial to me. If the project progress is delayed because of the leave this time, the boss's impression of me will definitely be greatly reduced, which is very detrimental to my career development.
My mother-in-law's words undoubtedly plunged me into a deeper struggle. On the one hand, there is the expectation of her family, especially her elderly mother-in-law, how much she is looking forward to the whole family being able to get together and celebrate the arrival of the new year together. I can imagine the lonely scene of my parents and mother-in-law waiting alone at home on Chinese New Year's Eve, and the disappointment written on their faces.
On the other hand, I am well aware that if I miss this opportunity, it will have a serious impact on my career development. As the project leader, I am burdened with the trust of the company and all my colleagues, and if I run away, others will look at me differently. What's more, my efforts in the past few years will also be wasted.
I told my good buddy Xiao Li about this, but I didn't expect him to understand my troubles very well. "Viagra, family is really important, but sometimes we have to make some sacrifices for the sake of our careers. Xiao Li said, "You are now in a critical period of career development, if you miss this opportunity, you may not be able to catch up." "
"But you also have to weigh the pros and cons. Xiao Li continued, "If you blindly pursue your career, when you are old, you will regret not cherishing the little things you have with your family. So, you need to find a balance between your family and your career. "
Xiao Li's words benefited me a lot, and I began to think about this question repeatedly. My family is the most important thing to me, and there is nothing more precious than them. However, I am now in the prime of my career, and if I can do it well this time, it will be a huge boost for my career.
I'm starting to think back to the summer I left home. At that time, I longed for urban life and came to this city of steel alone. The first days were quite difficult, and I wanted to give up at one point, but whenever I thought about what my family expected of me, I would pick myself up again and grit my teeth and persevere.
Yes, it is because of the support and encouragement of my family that I have been able to get to where I am today. And now, when they need me, I have to refuse them, which makes me feel incredibly guilty and guilty.
"What? You still value your work so much?" The mother-in-law's tone was full of disappointment, "Is it more important than family?"
"No, it's not. I quickly explained, "This project is so important to me that if I take a leave of absence, the impact will be severe." But I assure you that after a while, I will definitely find time to go back to see you and your parents. "
"You value your work so much?" The mother-in-law's tone was full of anger and disappointment, "Is it more important than family? We have been looking forward to you for so long, but you don't want to come back for even a year!
I was speechless, and my heart was in great pain. My mother-in-law's words undoubtedly hit me in the sore spot, did I really take my work too seriously? But if I took a leave of absence this time, there would definitely be a major delay in the project, and all my years of hard work would be wasted.
"Mother-in-law, I understand your feelings. It took me a long time before I spoke, "But work is just as important to me." I promise I'll be back to see you and your parents as soon as possible. "
My mother-in-law's words made me feel very guilty, but I stuck with my decision. I knew that this decision would definitely be very disappointing for my family, but I had no choice. If this project doesn't work well, my career will be hit hard, and all the hard work I've done in the past few years will be in vain.
For my family, my decision will undoubtedly break their hearts, but I believe they understand me. After all, we have all been away from home and working alone for our ideals. That's the hard choice our generation has to make.
Just when I thought I could devote myself to my work and get the project right as soon as possible, a major problem arose that caused us to postpone the scheduled go-live.
That day, we were in a routine project progress meeting, and when I reported on the core functional modules of the product, the technical manager suddenly interrupted me and said with a gloomy face: "Manager Zhang, we have found a serious one, which will directly affect the usability of the entire product, and we need to re-evaluate the solution." "
I was shocked by this news and quickly asked what the situation was. It turns out that the core function module will have serious lag or even collapse directly in high-concurrency scenarios. Solving this problem requires refactoring the entire module, which is expected to take a lot of time and manpower.
For a while, I was so frustrated that all my efforts were in vain. We had to postpone the original launch time and give an explanation to the boss and the company leaders.
Work is important, but the love of family is eternal. The love and support they gave me was the biggest motivation for me to work hard. However, I always took my work too seriously and ignored my family's expectations.
I'm starting to regret my decision. Perhaps, I could have found a balance between work and family instead of pitting the two against each other. If I had chosen to go home for a few days and wait until I was busy before continuing to work, maybe I wouldn't have been in this passive situation.
During the difficult period of the project, I often received phone calls from my parents and mother-in-law, who were concerned about my work and life. Although they were disappointed that I refused to go home for the Chinese New Year, they never blamed me and just hoped that I would take care of my health and work well.
"Wei'er, don't be too tired, take care of your body. "Every time I called, my mother-in-law would tell me this. "No matter how busy you are at work, don't forget to eat, don't always work overtime until so late. "
Sometimes, I would call them and report on the progress of the work. Even though they may not understand what I'm saying, they always listen to me carefully and give me encouragement and support.
"It's okay, take your time, don't rush. Dad would say, "As long as you work hard, it doesn't really matter if the result is good or not." "
It was this care and love from my family that made me realize how important my family is to us. No matter where we go, our families will always be our back. Their selfless love gives us the strength and courage to pursue our dreams, but we often overlook the value of this love.
I began to hate my coldness and selfishness. For the sake of a temporary career, I actually rejected my family's expectations, which made me feel extremely guilty and blamed. If I had chosen to go home for a few days and wait until I was busy before continuing to work, maybe I wouldn't have been in this passive situation.
My family is the most important thing to me, and there is nothing more precious than them. However, I always took my work too seriously and ignored my family's expectations. I began to reflect on whether there was a problem with my values, whether I was blindly pursuing my career and neglecting the more important things in life.
After this lesson, I made up my mind that I would go home to see my parents and mother-in-law as soon as possible, no matter what. They're getting older and we're spending less and less time together, so I have to cherish it.
At the same time, I also seek a balance between work and family. Work is important, but family is just as important. If I have my own family in the future, I don't want to repeat the mistakes of my parents who neglected the importance of family.
Although the project encountered some difficulties, I was not discouraged. Instead, I put in the work harder, hoping to get the project right as soon as possible. At the same time, I also started to prepare for my trip home, determined to return to my hometown before the Chinese New Year.
I called my mother-in-law and said sincerely, "Mother-in-law, I'm sorry, I was too stubborn and didn't cherish the time I spent with my family. But don't worry, I'll be going back to see you and your parents before the Chinese New Year. "
The mother-in-law choked up with joy: "Good boy, mother-in-law is waiting for you to come back." "
On the morning of the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, I finally set out on my way home. Along the way, my heart was extremely excited, and I was so looking forward to the reunion of my hometown and family after a long absence.
When the train finally came in, I ran off like a child. Sure enough, at the exit of the station, I saw my mother-in-law and my parents welcoming me with open arms. I hugged them tightly, and my heart was filled with happiness and emotion.
When I finally came to my hometown and saw the faces of my parents and mother-in-law after a long absence, my heart was filled with great joy and emotion. I hugged them tightly, as if I wanted to vent all the thoughts of the past few years.
"Wei'er, you're finally back. "My mother-in-law burst into tears and stroked my hair and face over and over again, as if to confirm my existence.
"Well, I'm back. I nodded, my eyes moistened.
My parents hugged me without saying a word, with happy smiles on their faces. I can feel that in their hearts, the peace of my only son is their greatest expectation.
Back home, everything was so familiar and intimate. The big jujube tree in the yard is still tall, and the small vegetable garden in front of the house is also lush. My mother-in-law couldn't wait to prepare a table of good dishes for me, while my father took out the old wine from a few years ago and prepared to drink it with me.
In this warm atmosphere, I felt as if I had returned to my childhood and rediscovered that innocent happiness. I told myself that no matter how rough the road ahead may be, home will always be my safe haven.
As soon as the Chinese New Year's Eve passed, the festive atmosphere of the Spring Festival gradually spread. Red lanterns are hung in every house, and the streets and alleys are full of paper-cuts, couplets and bunting.
On Chinese New Year's Eve, the whole family dressed up in brand new clothes and prepared to celebrate the festival with the villagers. My mother-in-law took me by the hand and took me to visit relatives and friends and exchange New Year's wishes. Everywhere they went, the host's family prepared a variety of seasonal pastries and fine wines as a sign of hospitality.
"Oh, Wei'er is finally back. When an old neighbor saw me, he exclaimed, "It's bad for your parents." "
"yes, I'm not too busy. I smiled a little embarrassedly, "But I'll be back every year after that." "
As night fell, we returned home to prepare for the New Year's dinner. The dining table is full of all kinds of delicacies, and the most anticipated thing is the plate of exquisite wontons that my mother-in-law has hand-wrapped.
"Try it, try your mother-in-law's craftsmanship, but it's not online. My mother-in-law said with a smile as she divided the wontons into my bowl.
In this way, our whole family spent an unforgettable Spring Festival happily. In this festival of family reunion, I felt warmth and happiness like never before.
"Wei'er, you must take care of your health, don't be so busy as before that you forget to eat. The mother-in-law admonished, her tone full of concern.
"Yes, work is important, but your body is even more important. Dad nodded in agreement.
I smiled and nodded, and vowed to take care of myself. After this Spring Festival reunion, I realized how important my family is to me. I am determined to find a balance between work and family in the future, and cherish what I have now.
On the day of farewell, I stared at the backs of my parents and mother-in-law for a long time, and my eyes were a little moist. I know that no matter where I go, they will always be my back. It is with their love and support that I can work hard alone and pursue my dreams.
When I got back to the city, I threw myself into my work with more energy than I had ever done. I was determined to complete this important project by the end of the year and add another brilliant touch to my career. At the same time, I will also take the time to spend more time with my family and friends and cherish everything in the moment.
Life is long, and it is destined to go through countless divisions and reunions. But no matter where I go, home will always be my last safe haven. As long as I have the love and care of my family, I will never lose my way and will always be motivated to pursue my dreams.