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"Hey, Xiaomei, how are you doing?" My friend Xiaohong called, and there was a hint of concern in her tone.
"It's okay, just live like that. I replied somewhat perfunctorily. In fact, I've been feeling heavy lately.
I am a 53-year-old housewife with my husband working as a manager in a company. Our son is already working in the field. I stayed at home all day, doing chores and occasionally catching up with friends. Although the days are uneventful, our family is actually very happy.
"Why have you been absent-minded lately? Is your husband bullying you again?" Xiaohong said half-jokingly. I smiled and didn't answer.
Lately, I've often felt that my husband was a little out of the ordinary. He often worked late hours and sometimes had to travel. I asked him if the company was busy, and he always digressed from the topic with a few perfunctory words.
"My dear, why do you doubt me like that? We have been in love for many years, and you have anything to worry about me?" He said, his face full of innocence.
I looked at him with mixed feelings. We have been in love for decades, but what about his perverse behavior lately? A terrible speculation began to rise in my heart.
That night, the husband worked overtime again and didn't come back late. I sat in the living room, my mind full of suspicion about him.
"Why have you been so busy lately? Is the company going to lay off employees, and you are working hard for fear of being fired?" I said coldly.
"Why, the company is very good now. He replied vaguely, apparently not taking my words to heart.
Just then, his cell phone rang, and it was an unfamiliar number. He glanced at it, his face changed suddenly, and he hurriedly walked to the bedroom to answer the phone.
"Have you been hiding something from me lately?" I followed him into the bedroom and asked.
"No, no, don't be cranky. He stammered.
"I'm sorry, I was really wrong. Please forgive me!" My husband wept bitterly and knelt before me.
My heart felt as if it had been ruthlessly torn apart. Was our relationship ruined by his own hands for so many years? My tears flowed uncontrollably.
"Explain to me, how did you meet that woman, and when did you start hooking up?" I asked through gritted teeth.
The husband was hesitant and didn't make his words clear. My anger grew, and at last I couldn't take it anymore and pushed him away: "Get out! I don't want to see you again!"
My husband looked at me helplessly, and finally stood up as if he had made up his mind. "Well, if you don't forgive me, I'll go. As he spoke, he walked out of the house without looking back.
I watched his back go away, and tears welled up in my eyes again. In this way, our relationship ended without a problem? My heart was filled with grief, but I also felt relieved.
"Don't blame yourself too much, it's not your fault. Xiaohong sat next to me, patted my hand and said, "He's a big bastard, you're still young, and you'll definitely find your own happiness again." "
Gradually, I began to get used to living alone. Getting up, cooking, cleaning, I put all my mind on these little things so that I could forget about the pain for a while. But whenever I have free time, the despair comes over me and makes me breathless.
I began to doubt my own worth and doubt the world. Even when my son called, I didn't have the courage to answer it. I began to be terrified of facing this harsh reality.
Just when I was at my most desperate, I met a counselor. She was gentle and patient, and told me to speak my heart.
"Everything you're going through right now is normal, don't blame yourself too much. "You have to learn to forgive yourself and love life again." "
Her words moistened my parched heart like a warm current. I began to reflect on the fact that the reason why I was so miserable was because I had pinned too much of my self-worth on my marriage. When my husband betrayed me, I suddenly realized that I had never been truly independent.
I started exercising, getting out of the house, and getting some fresh air. I also tried some new hobbies, such as learning the art of flower arrangement. Gradually, I began to fall in love with the world and with life itself.
One day, my son called and said that he had learned about his father's cheating. "Mom, you have to be strong, don't be sad for him. You have our family with you. "
From that moment on, I completely opened my heart and embraced life again.
A few months after I left our house, I stumbled upon what happened to my husband. It turned out that he and the mistress had been in love and crazy for a while, but in the end they were discovered by the mistress's family. Xiao San's husband is a very rich boss, and when he found out about this, he immediately hired someone to teach my husband a hard lesson.
"You old immortal, you dare to seduce my wife! I want you to taste what it is like to be cuckolded!" The husband of the junior yelled fiercely at my husband, punched and kicked him. My husband was beaten and bruised and lay in the hospital for months.
Xiao San's husband not only did not forgive Xiao San, but punished her harshly, imprisoned her at home, and had to be monitored 24 hours a day. The junior cried his father and called his mother, but no one paid attention to him.
And my husband, who betrayed me, was penniless and almost mentally broken after months in the hospital. He had called me to beg him some money, but I just hung up.
My friend told me that now he spends his days idle, doing nothing, and living a life that is worse than death. Sometimes he wanders drunkenly in the streets and is laughed at. He was so beautiful, but now he has fallen to such a state, what a blame.
When I learned what happened to my husband, I had mixed feelings.
On the one hand, I'm glad I left him in the first place. If I had been complacent and insisted on being with him, I might have been living this kind of life with him now.
On the other hand, I feel a little guilty. Although he did lose first, after all, we have been together for decades. Looking at his lonely appearance now, my heart still feels some pain.
"Do you want to accept him back?" One day, I said to Xiaohong, "After all, he is also pitiful now." "
Xiaohong looked at me with incredulity written on her face: "Are you crazy? What did he do to you in the first place? You forgave him so easily? What about your self-esteem?"
I was silent. Xiaohong has a point. But, for some reason, my heart was always full of contradictions.
Just when I was in pain, my son called. I told him about my husband's current situation.
"Mom, you're still too kind. The son said, "Such a person deserves such retribution." Don't pity him anymore and live your life well. "
I nodded, tears welling up in my eyes again. Yes, why should I pity someone who has hurt me? I have found the meaning of life again, and I should go on with it instead of letting this painful past drag me down again.
Although I know intellectually that I should forget about the person who hurt me, deep down, I still have a little affection for him.
"Mom, what's wrong with you? The son asked with concern.
There was silence on the other end of the phone for a while before the son spoke, "Mom, I know you're a kind person. However, you have to think twice. You won't forget how he hurt you in the first place, will you?"
"I haven't forgotten. I said firmly, "However, I think everyone should have a chance to be a new person." If we can never let go of hatred, there will be no love in this world. "
The son was silent. After a while, he said, "Okay Mom, you can make up your own mind." But no matter what, I'll always have your back. "
In this way, with my son's understanding and support, I made up my mind to give my husband a chance to be a new person.
A few days later, I asked my husband to meet me. Seeing his embarrassed appearance, my heart suddenly softened.
"I'm sorry, I was wrong. He cried and said, "I know I've done something wrong, but please give me a chance to be a new person." "
"Well, I forgive you. I said, "But you have to repent and never do anything like that again." "
When the husband heard this, he was so excited that he almost knelt down. He nodded his head and kissed my hand.
"I swear, I'm going to turn my ways. "I'll spend the rest of my life making up for my mistakes." "
Since then, the husband has been reborn. He worked hard and saved money to pay off all his debts. He was considerate of me and very considerate of me in everything. Sometimes, he even consciously does some housework.
Gradually, I saw his determination to make amends. He was a big mistake, but that doesn't mean he's useless. Everyone should have a chance to be a new person, and the key is whether he can truly repent.
I used to think that marriage was about two people who loved each other coming together and living happily ever after. But now it seems that this idea is too naïve.
Marriage is not just about loving each other, but more importantly, it requires sincere responsibility and commitment from both parties. It's like a well, it takes two people to dig and maintain it with their own strength in order to stay thirsty for a long time.
My husband and I are where we are today in large part because he has not fulfilled his responsibilities as husbands. He coveted the excitement of the moment, thus ruining our relationship for many years.
However, it now seems that he also realizes his mistake. Together, we are rebuilding trust and responsibility for each other. The meaning of marriage is that two people never give up, always support each other, and get through the difficult moments of life together.
To forgive others is not only to forgive others, but also to forgive oneself. Everyone makes mistakes, and the key is how to face them, whether to avoid them or be brave enough to bear them.
I forgave my husband because I believe that everyone should have a chance to be a new person. No one is born perfect, and we are all in the process of learning and growing.
More importantly, I found that while forgiving others, I also gained a new life from it. Once upon a time, I was a depressed person who lost hope in life. But when I learned to be tolerant and let go of hatred, my heart suddenly became clear.
It has been said that hatred is a double-edged sword, not only hurting others, but also hurting oneself. I know this from my own experience. When we cling to hatred, we become cynical and lose hope in life. But once we learn to forgive, we will find that life is full of sunshine and hope.
Forgiveness is not weakness, but courage and strength. It requires us to let go of our egos, go beyond hatred, and see the world from a broader perspective. It's a long process, but as long as we get through the toughest times, we'll be reborn.
Like a seed buried in the soil, after being baptized by cold and darkness, it will one day come back to life and bloom with a charming fragrance. This is the power of forgiveness and regeneration.
After a period of time together, my relationship with my husband slowly recovered. Sometimes I feel very emotional when I look at him busy at home.
"Honey, you're such an amazing person. One day, I said to him, "You have gone through so many hardships, but you have not been defeated, but you have become more courageous and strong." "
My husband smiled, shook my hand and said, "You gave me the courage to be born again." Without your forgiveness, I might have collapsed. "
We looked at each other and smiled, full of anticipation for the future.
That's when my son called and said he was coming back to join us. Naturally, we were overjoyed.
On the day my son returned, our family was reunited for the first time in a long time. When the son saw his father, he was embarrassed at first, but he was soon relieved.
"Dad, you were really wrong before. But who is not a sage, who can be infallible? The important thing is that you now have the determination to change your ways. The son said, and stepped forward and hugged his father.
I was on the sidelines, tears of happiness in the corners of my eyes. Looking at the happy scene of a family of three, my heart is extremely warm.
Since then, our family has rekindled hope for life. My son often comes back to be with us, and the three of us are very happy.
Sometimes I think of those dark days. If I hadn't chosen to forgive, would my family have fallen apart? Thankfully, we have gone through that difficult period to appreciate the happiness we have today.
Life is like this, sunshine and haze are always interspersed. The key is whether we choose to be consumed by darkness, or whether we learn to light the torch of life ourselves.
Each of us will encounter adversity in life, and we will feel hopeless, sad, angry. However, if we amplify these negative emotions and let them spread, then we will be swallowed by them.
Conversely, if we learn to see the world with forgiveness, love, and hope, we can rekindle the light of life.
When I was at my most desperate, it was the encouragement of my counselor and family that rekindled my hope for life. When my husband was down, it was my forgiveness that allowed him to rediscover the meaning of life.
Life is like this, we need to support each other and forgive each other. No one can go alone forever, and we all need the love and understanding of others.
Nor should we rest on our laurels and bury our hatred in the bottom of our hearts. That will only make our lives depressed and miserable. Forgiving others, more importantly, is forgiving oneself and keeping one's heart pure and open at all times.
It's like a mirror, if we look at it with hatred, we will see nothing but ugliness and darkness. But if we gaze with a tolerant eye, we will definitely be able to see the beauty of this world.
Therefore, we must learn to look at life with the eyes of love. Learn not to be discouraged when you are disappointed and not to give up when you are desperate. Life is like a long practice, which requires us to face all challenges with courage and wisdom.
As long as we persevere, we will definitely find the meaning and value of life. That meaning may be hidden in forgiveness and rebirth again and again.
Today, I have completely shaken off the haze of the past. My life has regained its sunny color, and I have become more experienced and open-minded.
I became passionate about philanthropy and used my life experience to help people who were on the verge of need. I am part of an organization that cares for left-behind children, and regularly delivers school supplies and daily necessities to them. Looking at the innocent smiles of those children, my heart is always filled with happiness.
I also often go to nursing homes with my husband to visit the elderly who have no children and no daughters. We will accompany them to chat, play games, and make them feel the warmth of life. Once, an old man held my hand with tears in his eyes and said, "Thank you for making us old people not so lonely anymore." "
At that moment, my heart was greatly touched. Yes, the meaning of life is so precious, we should pass on this meaning and warm more people.
I also received a lot of gifts in the process. I learned more about the mysteries and wisdom of life. I learned that forgiveness and rebirth are not something that happens overnight, but require a lifetime of courage and hard work to pursue.
Like a towering tree, its roots are all over the earth, absorbing every inch of nutrients. The same is true of our tree of life, which needs to nourish everyone's heart with love, so as to draw the energy of life.
Let's work together to warm the world with tolerance, love and hope. Perhaps this is the highest gift and meaning of life.