Text/Flying Fish
In this life, no matter who you get along with, you must actually learn to leave some measure, but also pay attention to your words and deeds, even after the age of 60, with your family, with your children, you also need to keep a little distance, know how to respect each other, tolerate each other, even if the child is very filial to you, you must also know how to think about the child.
After the age of 60, people who can achieve happiness in their later years actually know how to get along with others and know how to express themselves in the right way, rather than hurting their families "in the name of your good".
After the age of 60, no matter how filial your children are, you must also learn to close the following doors, don't worry too much, don't care too much, live your own life, and know how to live for yourself, so as to make the family more harmonious.
1. Close the door of wealth to avoid future generations.
After people reach the age of 60, in fact, many people have looked down on money and materials, but we should also let our children and younger generations have a good three views, and be able to rely on their own ability to develop, instead of worrying about their parents' property at home, just thinking about their parents' money to live, then the family will be very sad.
Parents should keep a low profile, control their savings and assets, and don't easily give all their money to their children, so that they can get it for nothing, which will ruin their self-motivation, and even calculate for money, want to get your assets, and do bad things, it is not good.
The Xin family in "The Story of Cheng Huan" is a rich family, and after her daughter got married, she still wanted to calculate the family's money, and for her own interests, she would rather contradict her father, causing her father to fall, be stimulated, and be paralyzed.
Therefore, when people are old, they must know how to close the door of money, and the correct family style is the best way out.
2. Close the door of "publicity", be low-key and live transparently.
After a person is over sixty years old, even if he is already very successful, don't show off everywhere, don't show off, don't be high in front of the child, don't be high, always ask the child to be the same as himself, don't impose his own will on the child, but keep a low profile, respect the child's life and choices, and live your own life.
Cheng Huan's grandmother in "Cheng Huan" is actually a very rich person, but she has always lived a very low-key life, and she never shows how much property she has among the people around her, nor does she stand tall and look down on anyone.
Grandma got along with people peacefully, and then Chenghuan's family suffered a disaster, and the house was soaked in water, so grandma said that she had a house that could be lived in for them, and Chenghuan's family knew that grandma was a rich person, and in addition to thanking grandma for her help, she did not covet grandma's property.
In her old age, Grandma was also cared for and treated well by Chenghuan's family, and in the end, Grandma enjoyed her old age, and Chenghuan's family also got Grandma's inheritance.
If grandma let them know their property too early, maybe people's hearts will be unpredictable and they will be remembered by Chenghuan's mother, and it will have a different ending.
Chenghuan's mother didn't worry about it, and in the end everything was the best outcome.
3. Close the door of "worrying", worry less about your children, and the happier your family will be.
At this time, parents can not worry too much about their children's lives, do not interfere with their children's work, and do not worry too much about their children's feelings, but respect their children's ideas, what kind of choices children make, as parents, they should support them, do not secretly carry their children behind their backs to do things that make children embarrassed, and there will be great contradictions without asking for children's consent.
As a parent, even if you really want to be able to see your son become a dragon and your daughter become a phoenix, and want to see your child have a good life and find a good family to marry, you can't be too anxious, you have to follow the rhythm of your child, you can't worry too much, the more you worry, the more chaotic it is, and it will be bad to do bad things with good intentions.
In this life, we have worked hard and struggled all our lives, all for our family and children.
The so-called good blessing is to let you learn to close some doors and know how to get along with your family in order to live a good life.
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