It is a common phenomenon in schools for parents to give gifts to teachers or invite teachers to dinner. Why do parents do this, and should teachers accept gifts or banquets from parents?
Different teachers have different perceptions and practices. Some teachers believe that parents do this out of respect for teachers, while others believe that parents have personal goals and bad intentions in doing so. Some teachers refuse outright, while others do not refuse and accept as they come.
Parents sent gifts to a female teacher 3 times in a row to see how she handled them
Coordinates Shandong, a county town Chengguan junior high school. Ms. Yanqin, the homeroom teacher of Grade 7 Class 1, was reviewing her homework in the office when suddenly, her mobile phone showed that a courier had arrived. #春日生活打卡季#
She felt quite puzzled, she hadn't bought anything online during this time, how could there be a courier? She hurriedly ran to the security room, took back the courier package, opened it, and inside was a delicate and beautiful velvet scarf. Who sent it? She looked at the label carefully, and it showed that the shipping address was from the county seat.
It shouldn't have been sent by Xiaomei, Yanqin immediately called Xiaomei, and Xiaomei said no. When class started, Yanqin put the scarf in the cabinet on the desk. A few days later, Ms. Liu, a parent of a student named Li Hua in the class, called her to thank the teacher for her concern for Li Hua and asked if she had received a scarf.
Yanqin suddenly realized that the scarf was sent by Li Hua's parents. Li Hua is a member of the life committee of the class, and her English grades are not good, and when school first started, Yanqin used to help her make up for a few classes for free after school in the afternoon. Ms. Liu said the scarf was a sign of her gratitude.
Yanqin felt that it was not good for the teacher to accept gifts from parents, but the courier had been opened, and it had been several days, and it was very troublesome to return, and she really wanted a scarf. She went to Xinhua Bookstore, spent more than 100 yuan, bought a set of story books, and gave them to Li Hua.
A week later, Ms. Liu called Yanqin and said that she had bought a set of cosmetics online and had sent them to the school, and asked the teacher to pay attention to them. Yanqin hurriedly said that she was used to using her own commonly used brand of cosmetics, and she was not used to other uses, and she thanked her parents for their kindness, and she couldn't accept gifts. After the courier arrived at the school, she refused the visa directly.
Another week passed, one night, Yanqin came home, after taking a shower and was about to go to bed, the message prompt on her mobile phone sounded, she opened it to see, someone recharged her mobile phone with 500 yuan. It must be Li Hua's mother again, she dialed Ms. Liu's phone, and sure enough, it was her.
She smiled and shook her head. On the second day, she went to work with 500 yuan in cash, and when she got out of school, she handed it over to Li Hua to take home. She sent a message to Ms. Liu, thanking her for her recognition and support for her work, and never give any gifts in the future, even if she did, she would never accept it. Ms. Liu said that it was just a little bit of her own mind, and she didn't understand what the teacher said, so Yanqin patiently explained.
Brother Ya commented: Do teachers want to accept gifts from parents?
Ms. Liu gave gifts three times, but Ms. Yanqin rejected them in different ways, and since then, she has never given gifts to teachers again. Some colleagues said that Yanqin was very stupid, and her parents were sincere to her, and she should not accept it. Should teachers receive gifts from parents? My answer is no, for the following reasons.
It is unhealthy practice for teachers to accept gifts from parents and should be resisted. Teachers should have high ideological character and professional quality. If the teacher asks for money or gifts from the parents, the circumstances are serious, and the teacher may be suspected of violating the law and committing crimes, so it is an unhealthy trend for the teacher to accept gifts from the parents, and it should be resolutely resisted.
Teachers accepting gifts from parents can be stressful and risky for themselves. The reason why some parents give gifts to teachers is because they have certain requirements for teachers, and once the teachers accept, parents will have to inch in and put forward higher requirements to teachers, which makes teachers bear greater physical and mental pressure. Moreover, after the teacher accepts the gift from the parents, once there is a conflict with the parents and the relationship is strained, they may be reported and complained, which will bring great risks to their careers.
Teachers do not accept gifts from parents, which is conducive to teaching and educating people with confidence. When a teacher accepts a gift from a parent, he or she will naturally take special care of the corresponding student, which is very unfair to the other students in the class. Teaching is a profession of conscience, and treating every student fairly and impartially is the basic principle of a teacher's work. If you don't accept gifts from parents, teachers can put down their burdens, travel lightly, and teach and educate people with confidence.
Conclusion
It must be said that the teacher Yanqin in the above case is very sober-minded, not tempted by the gifts from the parents, and decisively refuses them in an appropriate way. She's doing exactly the right thing, kudos to her!
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