58-year-old Sister Liu, who has been divorced from her ex-husband for more than ten years, has a monthly pension of more than 4,800 yuan and 380,000 savings.
The ex-husband got married in the second year of the divorce and had children. The daughter grew up with her grandmother and is not close to Sister Liu.
Sister Liu divorced, and the custody of her daughter belonged to her ex-husband, and her interaction with her daughter only existed after her daughter went to college.
After retiring, Sister Liu also thought about finding a partner to live with her husband again, but found that she was not as comfortable as being alone.
A few years ago, Sister Liu was in good health, dancing with the old sisters in the square every day, and occasionally traveling together.
In those years, Sister Liu had a good life, free and easy, and felt that it was right not to find a wife.
Last year, when she was sick and hospitalized, Sister Liu called her daughter and wanted her daughter to take a few days off to take care of herself.
The daughter made various excuses, either the child was not taken care of, or it was difficult to ask for leave at work, so she asked Sister Liu to find an escort and ask for a nurse.
Sister Liu was in the hospital for 7 days, and her daughter didn't come once, and her daughter didn't go to see her until Sister Liu was discharged home for half a month.
The daughter asked Sister Liu how much she had saved in various words, and she wanted to borrow some money from Sister Liu for a new car.
Sister Liu thought that in the past two years, she obviously felt that her body had declined, she was always uncomfortable here, uncomfortable there, and worried that she would have no one to take care of her in her old age.
It just so happened that her daughter borrowed money Sister Liu wanted to test it, saying that she would have only one child for her daughter, and everything she would have in the future would be her daughter's.
The daughter was very happy and said a lot of sweet words, but she never mentioned the matter of providing for Sister Liu's retirement.
Sister Liu couldn't help but tell her daughter half-jokingly and half-seriously, then I will rely on my daughter for the elderly in the future.
What Sister Liu didn't expect was that her daughter didn't answer Sister Liu's words, but glanced at Sister Liu with a detached look.
Sister Liu was very disappointed, thinking that she would lend money to her daughter, and her daughter would often come to visit her for the sake of money.
Who knows, after Sister Liu transferred 50,000 to her daughter, her daughter didn't come to visit her for a long, long time.
Sister Liu saw such a sentence in her daughter's circle of friends: I also said that I am the only child, what about my own child, give such a little money, send me food, and don't expect to support the elderly if I don't pay.
Seeing her daughter's words, Sister Liu knew that her 50,000 loan had been wasted by her own daughter, and she could only rely on herself for the future pension.
There is a good saying: If you live well when you are young, you are not really good, but when you live well in your old age, you are really good.
After retirement, each of us walks on the road of aging, how to face the upcoming old age?
In my opinion, whether you are single or have a wife, if you do these three things well, you can enjoy your old age happily.
1. Don't live with emotions and don't be a person with negative energy.
After retirement, some people feel that their pension is small, their savings are not much, and their children are ordinary.
He was overly worried about his old age, often sighed for a long time, and complained at home that his family was incompetent and his children were incompetent.
Outside, he envies those who are doing well and have a lot of pensions, and others are in contact with him, full of negative energy.
not only made himself pitiful, but also made others depressed, and wanted to stay away when he saw him.
The old man who lives with emotions is full of negative energy, and no one wants to get close to him.
Not to mention what will happen in old age, those are all unpredictable things, and no one can say.
Wasting your time worrying about something that hasn't happened early is really worth the loss.
If you have time to worry about the sky, it is better to take advantage of the good health and good weather, go out and have a look, and do something to make yourself happy.
Let yourself enjoy life at the same time, but also let your happiness pass on to the people around you, and pass on a positive energy to others.
A retired elderly person who is full of vitality and lives brightly, showing the feeling of others is positive energy.
Not only can you live your life well, but you are also the "old baby" of the family, good luck comes, family harmony, and happy old age.
2. Learn to be alone and not to kidnap relatives morally.
Sister Liu above, when she tried to kidnap her daughter with money to support herself, she had already done something wrong.
Although raising children and preventing old age has been a tradition for many years, with the development of the times, people's thinking and cognition also need to be changed.
There is no old man who does not like to listen to his children say that they should be filial to themselves, and there is no child who does not like the financial support of their parents.
But as parents, we need to have a tolerant heart to sponsor our children within our ability, not, if I pay for it, you have to treat me like that.
If the children do not do what the old man expects, the old man will morally kidnap the child, which is a wrong act.
Everyone is responsible for their own life, and no one can bear the cause and effect of others.
In my opinion, the relationship between parents and children is one of mutual dedication and mutual giving.
Parents sponsor their children and help them live a better life, which is a love of parents for their children, this love is unconditional, if there are additional conditions, it is exchange, not the transmission of love.
Children accept the help of their parents, and in the love and support given by their parents, children automatically and spontaneously give back to their parents' filial piety, which is the correct way to transmit love.
After retirement, as we who are walking on the road to aging, we need to learn to be independent and alone, whether you are a single elderly person or an elderly person with a wife.
You must have the potential consciousness of supporting the elderly, rather than relying on your children in your old age, if the children do not meet your expectations, you will kidnap the children with affection.
Think about it from another perspective, if you are kidnapped by your parents and filial piety, what will you feel in your heart and what will you do.
Do unto others as you would have them do to you. Learn to be alone, stay independent, and don't go to the moral kidnapping of your loved ones.
3. Have good thoughts and do more things that are beneficial to others.
In daily life, do more good deeds, be kind, reach out more to help others, and do what you can.
Looking at problems from the perspective of others and learning to empathize with those around you is equivalent to accumulating good fortune for yourself.
Doing more good deeds is like saving money for yourself, and the more you save, the more help you will receive in critical moments.
Do more things that are beneficial to others, whether it is for your children, your spouse, or others.
In real life, except for some people who are selfish by nature, most people will remember the good of others.
As the old saying goes, distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors.
When you retire, in the community, when you see someone in need, you can lend a hand to make yourself happy and make others happy.
When you need help, more people will be willing to help you.
Life is moving forward in the process of continuous choice, and taking responsibility for one's own choices is the self-discipline of adults.
What kind of life we choose, we also choose what kind of life, and we have to bear everything that the choice brings.
Anyone has regrets in life, as long as we face them with a positive and optimistic attitude, we can make life better and better.
Let go of the past, stop being anxious about the future, fully enjoy the present, live in the present, be kind to everything, be a positive and sunny old man, and happily enjoy a free and easy retirement life.
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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