Lu Xun once said: The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same.
I'm Han Yong, 52 years old, not yet retired, and my only son has a family.
My wife retired last year, she is an only child, she has been clothed and fed since she was a child, and she has never suffered from human suffering.
Although my wife and I entered into marriage in a campus relationship, I was still a little dissatisfied with her in my heart.
This thorn in my heart is that a few years ago, my mother passed away, I was grief-stricken, and my wife's performance was too bland.
I thought that my mother had lived with us for 12 years, and that the relationship between my wife and my mother should be like that of mother and daughter.
When my mother died, my wife should be as sad as I was. However, my wife only wept and did not grieve too much.
It wasn't until last year that my mother-in-law suddenly fell ill and was admitted to the intensive care unit, and I was relieved that my mother-in-law was not my own mother.
In my generation, there are very few only children, but I married the only daughter in the city.
When my wife and I were in a relationship on campus, I thought that if my wife didn't agree with my mother living with us, we would break up.
At first, my wife hesitated for a long time and went home to discuss my practical problems with my parents.
My mother was a simple and capable country woman who worked half her life just so that my sister and I could live well.
It was a very honorable thing for me to go to university in our small village, just like I used to be in the "lifting people".
My mother sold all the chickens, ducks and fat pigs in the family, and paid for my tuition and travel expenses.
Although my sister is married, she often sends me money to supplement my life.
Therefore, I vowed that as long as I could put down roots in the city, I would take my mother to live and care for the elderly.
My wife and I were assigned to the same factory, which was the unit of my wife's parents.
When I proposed to my wife, I made a request that my mother must live with me in the future.
My wife went home at that time and told my parents my request, and my future father-in-law thought that I was a dutiful son and agreed to our marriage.
My father-in-law said to my wife that a man who can think of being filial to his parents when he gets married must be a responsible person.
When my wife and I got married, the house was a welfare house in the unit, and it was just a few buildings away from my father-in-law's house.
Usually after work, my retired mother-in-law cooks a meal early and waits for us to eat together.
After having a son, it was also the mother-in-law who took the initiative to help take care of the baby, and our family of three all ate at the mother-in-law's house.
I offered to pay my mother-in-law's living expenses, but my mother-in-law said, "We are one daughter, and we will all be yours in the future."
My mother-in-law asked me to save more money and buy another apartment in the community in the future, so that my mother could live with me.
My classmates were very envious of me, thinking that I had married the only daughter of the city and entered a well-off life earlier than them.
When my son was in school, with the help of his parents-in-law, we bought a one-bedroom retirement house for my mother in the community.
When I took my mother to live with me, she told me that I must be good to my parents-in-law and my wife.
My mother often told me that you have met a good person and married a good wife in your life.
My wife also had a very good relationship with my mother, and we often went to my mother's place after dinner.
When we don't have much to do, we also drive our mother out to see it, or travel further afield.
My sister's nephew is in college, and my wife will ask me to take the initiative to give money to sponsor me, and when my nephew gets married, my wife will also ask me to give more gift money.
Perhaps, I often tell my wife about my sister's kindness to me, and my wife remembers it in my heart and gives back to my sister in this way.
My mother lived with us for 12 years, and during those 12 years, I would go back to my mother every day to talk to her and have a meal with her.
Sometimes, my wife will also say that I forgot my mother-in-law when I had my own mother.
Children who come out of the countryside have a particularly deep affection for their mothers.
When I was very young, my father died of a work injury, and my mother did not remarry, but raised my sister and me alone.
In my memory, my mother was busy from morning till night, either working in the fields or at home.
Whatever food is delicious at home, my mother will leave it for me to eat, and even carry my sister behind her back and secretly make food for one person.
When I was in college, my mother borrowed money from many relatives and sold everything she could to pay for my tuition.
In order to supplement my life, my sister who married was also like my mother, working non-stop, just to help me.
Many people in the city don't understand why children from the countryside pay more attention to family affection and care about the help of relatives.
Because they have grown up with the help of their relatives since they were young, they know how precious mutual help between relatives is.
I remember the night my mother left, I saw that my mother was a little upset and asked her if she would go to the hospital.
But my mother said that it was too late, and she didn't feel much, so she asked me to take her to the hospital at dawn.
I wanted to stay with my mother for one night, but my wife had a fever, and my mother asked me to go home to take care of my wife.
The next day, my wife's fever subsided, and I hurried to my mother's place, thinking of taking her to the hospital for a check-up.
Unbeknownst to me, I opened the door and did not see my mother, who was accustomed to waking up early, and I had a foreboding feeling in my heart.
Pushing open my mother's bedroom, I saw my mother lying on the bed with a bloodless face, and I was suddenly distracted and cried loudly.
On the day I sent my mother, my sister cried and fainted several times, and I was also grief-stricken.
Although my wife was also sad and weeping, she was still calm and busy greeting relatives from her hometown.
After my mother left, I found that my wife didn't have much affection for my mother, and rarely mentioned her in front of me.
Even half a year later, he proposed to sell the house where his mother lived, instead of staying for a thought.
At that time, I felt that my wife was an emotionless person, and my mother was very heartfelt to my wife.
Why didn't my mother leave for a long time, my wife didn't remember my mother's goodness, and she had to sell the house and not leave me any memories.
A few years ago, my mother-in-law was admitted to the intensive care unit due to a sudden illness, and my wife cried so much that she couldn't find the north, and the appearance of the six gods and no owner made me feel relieved at once.
It turns out that the mother-in-law really can't be the daughter-in-law's real mother. Anything, only true relatives can know that grief.
I forgave my wife for her indifference to my mother's death, and it turned out that I was the person my wife could rely on the most.
The thorn in my heart that I can't let go of my wife has finally been pulled out of my heart.
The joys and sorrows of human beings are really not connected, and the only way to overcome the hardships of life is to overcome themselves. Gently hugged his wife and said to her:
"Don't worry, I'm here, don't be afraid, everything will be fine. ”
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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