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"Xiao Ming, it's time for you to have a baby. My mother-in-law was sitting in the living room and suddenly said to me.
My wife Li Xiaohong and I were watching TV, and when she said this, we couldn't help but look at each other. Of course, we also have this plan for such a big event as having a child, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law to speak so bluntly.
"Mom, we've only been married for a short time, so let's wait. Li Xiaohong looked a little embarrassed.
My wife and I were immediately tempted by the considerable bride price. At that time, we were not financially well-off, and we had been renting a house. If you can get the bride price money from your mother-in-law, you can buy your own house and provide a better environment for your children to grow up in the future.
"Alright Mom, let's try to have children. Li Xiaohong was persuaded by her mother-in-law's promise.
I sighed secretly, giving birth to a child should be a private matter between the two of us, but now I was led away by my mother-in-law. But when I thought of the temptation to buy a house, I agreed to it.
In this way, at the urging of my mother-in-law, Li Xiaohong and I began to work hard to have children. After about half a year, Li Xiaohong's body finally reacted. When we held the pregnancy test stick and saw the word pregnancy on it, we were extremely excited.
"Mom, look, I'm pregnant!" Li Xiaohong said happily to her mother-in-law.
"Great, I knew you could do it!" The mother-in-law seemed even happier than us, "You can move to my house now, and I will take good care of you." "
I don't want to. Li Xiaohong and I live now very close to the unit, everything is convenient. And I don't want our lives to be interfered with by my mother-in-law.
"Mom, let's live here, don't worry, I'll have a good rest." Li Xiaohong said.
"Nonsense! How can you take care of yourself at home alone? Hurry up and pack up your things and move to my house immediately!" The mother-in-law's tone was very tough.
I saw Li Xiaohong's face was embarrassed, it seems that she can't resist her mother-in-law. Sure enough, a few days later, we moved to my mother-in-law's house. Since then, our lives have been completely controlled by our mother-in-law.
After moving to my mother-in-law's house, she began to dictate our lives. She thinks we are too casual and don't know how to take care of ourselves. Once, Li Xiaohong rested at home because she was not feeling well, but was severely reprimanded by her mother-in-law.
"You lazy woman, you know how to be lazy! In the future, you have to educate your child well, don't let him learn your faults!" The mother-in-law pointed to Li Xiaohong's nose and scolded loudly.
I saw that my wife's eyes were red, and I was very angry. I stepped forward and hugged her and comforted, "Don't pay attention to my mother-in-law, you are not feeling well now, just have a good rest." "
"You kid dare to talk back! When my mother-in-law saw me like this, she was even more angry, "You give me good obedience, otherwise I will never give you a penny to buy a house!"
I know that my mother-in-law is threatening us and using the bride price as a condition to control us. But the way she disciplined her was so much that we often quarreled because of this. The mother-in-law was not considerate of Li Xiaohong's physical condition at all, and pointed fingers at her all day long, which made people feel a lot of pressure.
In the late stage of Li Xiaohong's pregnancy, her mother-in-law's discipline became stricter and stricter, and she almost took complete control of our lives. Once, Li Xiaohong secretly ate some snacks, but was hit by her mother-in-law on the spot.
"You gluttonous thing, how will your children be taught in the future? The mother-in-law said angrily.
"Mom, I just ate something with my mouth gluttonous, and you just reprimanded me like this, I'm so sad. Li Xiaohong looked at her mother-in-law with tears in her eyes.
I couldn't stand it anymore, so I stepped forward and hugged my wife and comforted: "Don't pay attention to my mother-in-law, she is just a little too much." You are very weak right now and need to rest more. "
"Hmph, you two are the same dog! The mother-in-law sneered and didn't take us seriously at all.
I saw that my wife was deeply heartbroken by my mother-in-law's words, and she wept bitterly, and I could only go up to comfort her. Since then, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has fallen into a freezing point, and the contradiction has become white-hot.
In this tense atmosphere, Li Xiaohong finally went into labor. My mother-in-law had been waiting outside the delivery room, and we thought she was doing it out of kindness, but we didn't expect her to reprimand Li Xiaohong loudly when she gave birth.
"You are a clumsy thing, you have to be so abrasive to have a child, you will have to educate in the future!" The mother-in-law was yelling loudly outside.
I saw that my wife was exhausted, and it was even more painful to hear my mother-in-law's words. I finally couldn't bear it anymore, rushed out of the delivery room, and scolded my mother-in-law fiercely: "How can you be like this? Xiaohong, she is already very hard, and you are still talking nonsense here, it is simply too inhumane!"
Seeing this, the nurses also came to dissuade the mother-in-law, and finally took her out of the delivery room. Li Xiaohong finally gave birth to a healthy baby boy in silence.
My mother-in-law was so angry after she was kicked out of the delivery room that she scolded us in public in the hospital for being ungrateful. "I paid for you to buy a house, but you treat me like this, it's so ignorant!" She threatened that since we were so unfilial, she would never give us another penny or help us raise our children.
I know that this is a cruel thing that my mother-in-law said out of anger. But I still made up my mind to break with my mother-in-law completely.
"Mother-in-law, what you did today is too much! Xiaohong has already worked so hard, how can you still reprimand her at this time?" I said angrily, "You have always treated the bride price as a condition that threatens us, and you have no respect for us at all. From today onwards, we don't want your money, and you don't want to meddle in our lives anymore!"
"Okay, since you say so, then let's cut it in two!" The mother-in-law left the hospital in a rage.
Since then, my mother-in-law and I have not been in touch. She completely tore up the promise she made to buy a house, and we could only rely on our own efforts to save money to buy a house little by little.
Although the bride price of my mother-in-law temporarily blinded us with a layer of interests, her unreasonable discipline finally made us sober up. I know that if we continue to listen to my mother-in-law, we will only live a more unhappy life in the future.
Therefore, Li Xiaohong and I resolutely chose to break with my mother-in-law. Although this means that we have lost the opportunity to buy a house for the time being, I believe that as long as we understand each other and work together, we will be able to buy our own house one day.
After Li Xiaohong gave birth to a child, our financial pressure became even greater. But instead of being discouraged, we worked hard together to get by. Li Xiaohong returned to work when her child was three months old. And I often work overtime to earn extra money, just to save more money.
In this way, a few years passed, and we finally saved up for a down payment and bought a small house with our own efforts. Whenever I see my children playing carefree at home, I feel that all the hard work is worth it.
My experience with my wife has taught me that the kindness of our elders is not necessarily right. My mother-in-law was originally well-intentioned and hoped that we would have children as soon as possible, but her actions were completely against our wishes. She interfered unreasonably in our lives and made us feel a lot of stress.
Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal topic, I believe that both parties should respect and understand each other. Elders should give young people enough space and not impose their own ideas on others. Young people should also learn to respect their elders and communicate with them in a rational way. Only on the basis of mutual understanding can the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be harmonious.
After my mother-in-law was hit hard by me in the hospital, she chose to break with us in anger. But it didn't take long for her to start a new round of "counterattack".
First, there is the question of money. My mother-in-law had promised us a considerable bride price as the cost of the house, but after we broke up, she naturally turned her back on this promise. Li Xiaohong and I could only rely on our own savings, plus some subsidies from our parents, to barely make enough for the down payment.
"With the little salary of the two of you, what good house can you buy?" When my mother-in-law heard the news that we had bought a house, she scoffed, "And you still expect us to give you money?
I ignored my mother-in-law's ridicule, but comforted my wife and said, "It's okay, although it's just a small house, at least it's our own home." There will be a long time to come, and we will rent it little by little. "
However, the mother-in-law did not stop there. She then began to pester us in every possible way in an attempt to affect our lives.
The first is to keep harassing us. My mother-in-law always called us late at night and made a big fuss about us being ungrateful. On a couple of occasions, she even came straight to our door to harass us, cursing loudly downstairs.
"What will happen to you dogs and men in the future? I think you will only have enough to eat in the future!" The mother-in-law scolded.
We were so angry and annoyed by her that we had to call the police to get her away. But she is like an obsessive monster, harassing us again and again, and it is impossible to breathe.
The saddest thing is that my mother-in-law actually started to publicly slander us, saying that we are villains who intrigue and murder for money. She preached everywhere that we had seduced her to get the bride price promise. And we ended up treacherously and not only did not have a baby, but we also kicked her out of the delivery room.
"They're a pair of vicious things, you all have to be careful!" The mother-in-law said to the neighbors, "They are in it for money, and they will do all kinds of despicable means!"
I know that my mother-in-law is out of anger and revenge, so she will spread rumors like this. But her lies have caused us to be criticized and ostracized in the community. Some neighbors who were originally very familiar with us began to stay away from us, for fear of being "seduced" by us.
It made me feel so angry and sad. I used to think that my mother-in-law was just an old-fashioned and stubborn old man, but I didn't expect her to be so ruthless, not only to break up, but also to put us to death!
But no matter what, I was determined to stick to my lifestyle and not be fooled by my mother-in-law's lies. I began to take the initiative to explain the situation to my neighbors and expressed my willingness to communicate with them more and understand each other.
"The conflict between us and my mother-in-law is purely a family matter. She said that we seduce her for money, which is pure slander. I solemnly said to my neighbors, "We just want to live our own lives and not be swayed by others." "
Gradually, through our honest explanations and good behavior, the prejudices that our neighbors have against us begin to dissolve. Some of our neighbors, who had been distant from us, also greeted us again.
Although my mother-in-law still came to pester us from time to time, we didn't take her behavior to heart. I know that she will eventually burn out, and as long as we stick to our lives, we will definitely win more people's understanding and respect.
In this way, our family of three started a new life under the abuse of our mother-in-law. The son made a lot of friends in kindergarten, and his wife also returned to work. I worked harder to earn more money for my family and improve my living conditions.
After having our own nest, our lives are finally happy again. Every day when I come home from work and see my son's innocent smiling face, I feel that all the hard work is worth it.
And the mother-in-law's entanglement finally began to weaken after a few years. Maybe it's because of her limited energy, or maybe it's because she's finally realized that we've gone too far down this road and can't go back.
In the year when my son was in elementary school, the mother-in-law's abuse finally stopped completely. One day, she took the initiative to call us and said in a low tone, "You are doing well now, right? "
Years of contradictions and entanglements finally made my mother-in-law realize that we can't change our minds. Her phone call seemed to indicate that the war between us was finally extinguished.
However, it didn't take long for my mother-in-law to make another unexpected move, which put our family in a new predicament.
"What? Mother-in-law has died?" When his wife Li Xiaohong heard the news, tears fell straight down. Even though we had a bad relationship with my mother-in-law, she was our own mother after all.
"Yes, the old man has passed away. However, she has an important requirement in her will, which is that you must take responsibility for her care. The man who claimed to be a lawyer continued.
As soon as I heard this, I felt that there was a problem, and immediately asked, "What kind of care? Isn't my mother-in-law already dead?"
She demanded that you use your house and money to set up a temple in her home to enshrine her spiritual throne for eternity. Otherwise, she'll go to court and demand all her inheritance!"
When my husband and wife heard this request, they were dumbfounded. When my mother-in-law passed away, she still had to embarrass us? And her request was simply vexatious!
I immediately refused: "What the hell is the request? My mother-in-law has already died, why do we still worship her at home? Besides, although our house is not big, it was bought with our own hard-earned money, so how can we use it as a Buddhist hall?"
"Then wait for her to sue you!" After the man who claimed to be a lawyer finished speaking, he hung up the phone fiercely.
We know that this must be another conspiracy of my mother-in-law. She deliberately lied about her death, but made an unreasonable request in order to continue to pester us.
"This shrew, she just won't let us go!" I was so angry that I scolded my mother, and my wife could only come forward to comfort me.
In the days that followed, it was like walking on the tip of a knife. Although my mother-in-law didn't call again, we were always worried that she would really come to us for trouble.
Sure enough, it didn't take long for us to receive a complaint that my mother-in-law had accused us of "contempt of the will". This really scared our family.
"This mother-in-law is a complete lunatic!" I was so angry that I immediately decided to fight her.
So, I asked around and finally got an experienced lawyer to help us fight against my mother-in-law's lawsuit.
After several deliberations, the court finally ruled that the mother-in-law's cause of action was untenable and dismissed her lawsuit. We were finally relieved to be pestered by her for the time being.
Although this lawsuit cost our family a lot of effort, it also completely bankrupted my mother-in-law's conspiracy. Since then, she has never bothered us again, and seems to have completely given up on pestering us.
In this way, our family finally regained their peaceful life. The son has excellent grades in school, and his wife has also achieved a little success in the unit. And I, as always, worked hard to earn money and run our small family better and better.
Sometimes I sit at home and think about the disputes I had with my mother-in-law. I realized that the fundamental reason why we were in such a passive and painful situation in the first place was that we took too much of my mother-in-law's promises.
If we had not been tempted by her bride price and had insisted on our own way of life, perhaps we would not have fallen into such a predicament. This made me deeply realize that monetary interests are important, but more importantly, we must have our own firm outlook on life and values, and not be confused and swayed by superficial interests.
In this way, when our son entered junior high school, we finally got rid of the haze of my mother-in-law. Since then, our family has lived a stable and peaceful life, and we have never been harassed by her again.
Looking back, our family has paid too much price along the way. My mother-in-law tempted us with her money and made us lose our way for a while. And when we finally came to our senses and wanted to live our lives, she came crazy to pester us, which was just heartbreaking.
I realized that the most important thing in the relationship between people is mutual respect. If my mother-in-law had respected our way of life and not arbitrarily imposed it on us; If we had stuck to our principles and not been fooled by profits, we might not have embarked on this thorny path.
The experience of these years has made me cherish my current happy life even more. I know that only by insisting on doing the right thing and working hard with my own hands can I win the happiness that truly belongs to me. Being swayed by other people's money or power will only lead to disorientation and eventual torment.
From now on, I will educate my son well and let him understand these principles of life. My wife and I will be more considerate and tolerant of each other, so that our family can be run more happily. Because only by truly respecting each other can we live happily ever after.