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"Hello everyone, my name is Li Ming, I am 27 years old this year, and I am an ordinary office worker. Like most people, I've always been confused by the rules of heterosexual interactions. Sometimes, I feel like I'm doing a good job, but the results are disappointing; Sometimes, I feel like I'm doing something wrong, but the other person doesn't seem to mind. This always left me at a loss and overwhelmed. "
"Hey, Xiao Li, how are you doing?" My good friend Xiao Zhang called, interrupting my musings.
"It's okay, it's just that I've been confused about the rules of heterosexual interaction lately, and I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I sighed and decided to complain to Zhang.
My eyes lit up, and I nodded, "Good idea! I'll look it up." "
As soon as I hung up, I opened my phone and typed "rules for heterosexual interactions" into a search engine, hoping to find some clues.
A few days later, I invited a new colleague in the company, Xiao Li, out for coffee. Xiao Li is very beautiful, and I have had a crush on her for a long time. When she walked into the café, my heart pounded.
"Hello, Li Ming. Xiao Li greeted with a smile and a very friendly expression.
Xiao Li looked very happy, and threw a few ambiguous glances at me from time to time. I secretly rejoiced, it seems that I did the right thing.
The date went well, we talked about a lot of interesting topics and the atmosphere was harmonious. Towards the end, I offered to pay for it. Xiao Li said a few words at first, but I insisted on paying the bill myself.
"Li Ming, you are really a gentleman. Xiao Li said gratefully.
In this way, I began to pay more and more attention to these potential rules of communication. Although they may seem insignificant, they are actually essential for bringing people closer to the opposite sex. Only by mastering and using them well can they make a good impression in the minds of the opposite sex, and then develop into intimate relationships.
After the movie, we went to dinner together. Li said that she likes Japanese food the most, so I took her to a very nice Japanese restaurant. During our meals, I have always been very considerate to add soup and vegetables to Xiao Li, and try to make her eat happily.
"Xiao Zhang, do you think these rules are reliable?" A few days later, I asked Xiao Zhang for a drink and told me about my recent experience.
After hearing this, Xiao Zhang said thoughtfully: "These rules are true, but we can't rely on them completely. After all, everyone's situation is different. You have to be flexible on a case-by-case basis. "
I nodded thoughtfully, and Xiao Zhang made a lot of sense. I started to reflect on whether I was overdoing it and whether I should relax and show my true self.
In this way, I began to shake my absolute trust in these rules, and secretly made up my mind to handle heterosexual interactions in my own way.
Xiao Li and I have become closer and closer, but there are also some small frictions. Once, I asked her to go to a concert, but she said she would have to work overtime, so she didn't make it.
"Why, don't you want to be with me so much?" I burst out, my tone a little stiff.
Xiao Li was stunned for a moment, and then retorted: "Of course I really want to go with you, but I am too busy with work, and I can't help it." Why are you so stingy?"
I realized what I had done wrong and quickly lowered my head and apologized. But Xiao Li still seemed to be a little angry and didn't pay attention to me.
However, I stubbornly believe that I am not wrong, but Xiao Li is too willful. As a result, our relationship is getting more and more stiff, and no one wants to bow their heads first.
Finally, one day, Xiao Li couldn't stand it anymore, so he directly asked me out and scolded me.
"You're just so selfish! You only think about your own feelings, and you don't respect my work and personal space at all! Let's break up, break up!"
After Xiao Li and I broke up, I fell into deep self-blame and pain. I began to reflect on my actions and realized how stupid it was to just follow those rules.
Just when I was depressed, I met a girl, Xiaoli. She is a newcomer to our company and has just been transferred from out of town.
Getting along with Xiaoli, I found that she was completely different from Xiao Li. Xiaoli is lively and cheerful, and she is informal, which makes me feel more comfortable than ever.
"Hey, haven't you been feeling down lately?" Once, Xiaoli asked me bluntly.
I nodded and told Xiao Li about it. Xiaoli said thoughtfully, "Both of you are at fault. You're too rigid, and she's too willful. In fact, the most important thing in heterosexual interaction is mutual respect and understanding, rather than blindly following any rules. "
It dawned on me that this was the case! I secretly resolved to get rid of my bad habits and deal with my relationship problems in my own way.
So, in getting along with Xiaoli, I try to show my truest self, and I also respect her personal life and space. Xiaoli seems to appreciate this, and our relationship is getting better and better.
"You've changed a lot lately, and I like you a lot. Xiaoli said sincerely.
Xiaoli and I are getting better, but we also have some new challenges. For example, once Xiaoli invited me to attend a friend's birthday, but I declined.
"What, don't you want to know my friend?" Xiaoli said a little angrily.
I quickly explained, "I just feel that our relationship hasn't reached that stage yet, and I don't want to cause trouble for your friends." "
For another example, once when we were shopping in the mall, Xiaoli took a fancy to a very expensive dress, and I immediately pulled out my wallet to pay. But Xiaoli stopped me.
"No, I'll make my own money, I'll buy it. Xiaoli insisted.
It was then that I realized that the ninth new rule is: respect women's independence and do not treat them as "helpers".
In this way, through practice again and again, I gradually mastered the knack of dealing with heterosexual interactions.
"Xiao Zhang, I finally understand the true meaning of the rules of heterosexual interaction. "Once, I said happily to Xiao Zhang.
Xiao Zhang smiled and said, "How do you say it?"
"It is to treat each other with sincerity and respect for each other's personality and independence. Only in this way can the relationship last a long time. I said with confidence.
Xiao Zhang nodded and said sincerely, "You have finally grown up." "
I laughed, yes, I'm finally not the idiot who just applies the rules. I've learned to deal with emotional issues in my own way.
Xiaoli and I are getting more and more stable. At one point, I plucked up the courage to formally propose to her.
"Xiaoli, we have been dating for a long time, and I really love you. Will you marry me?"
Xiaoli's eyes flashed with tears of happiness, and she nodded and said, "I do." "
I was so happy that I hugged her tightly, and my heart was extremely happy. This is the tenth final rule: when you are all ready, take a brave step forward and embark on a new journey in life.
"Be happy. Xiao Zhang blessed us at our wedding.
I smiled and nodded, and then kissed my beloved wife, Xiaoli. Yes, happiness is that simple. As long as we treat each other with respect, understanding and love, we will be able to grow old together.
It's funny and angry when I think back to the days when I was bound by those rules. However, it was precisely because of those losses that I finally found the right way to deal with my feelings.
"Can you be quiet? I can't even concentrate. I said a little stiffly.
I quickly apologized, and in the days to come, I would patiently answer Xiaoli's various questions, and never put on an impatient look at her curiosity again.
Another example is when Lily asked me to go to a friend's party, but I was late. When I arrived, I saw that Xiaoli was surrounded by some people talking and laughing, and she seemed to be very happy.
"You're finally here, come here!" Xiaoli beckoned me over, with a hint of dissatisfaction in her tone.
I squeezed over and noticed that everyone was looking at me strangely. I realized that my unreasonably late behavior undoubtedly hurt Xiaoli's self-esteem again. The ninth new rule is to respect women's independence, and my approach has made Xiaoli lose face in front of her friends.
I've never been late since. Every time Xiaoli asks me to do something, I will be there on time and do my best to make her feel valued and respected.
"Eh, have you been more considerate to Xiaoli lately?" Once, Xiao Zhang saw the change in me and jokingly said, "Don't tell me what new rules you have encountered?"
I smiled and shook my head: "No, I just realized more and more that true feelings are mutual respect and tolerance. Only by treating each other with such a mentality can the relationship last for a long time. "
Xiao Zhang nodded thoughtfully and said sincerely: "What you said is too reasonable. We used to be too complacent, always afraid of breaking some so-called rules. In fact, the truth of feelings is not complicated, that is, treat each other with sincerity, and everything else is floating clouds. "
I smiled and patted Xiao Zhang's shoulder, feeling happy for him. Yes, after so much training, we have finally matured and learned to deal with feelings in the right way.
Just then, Xiaoli called and said she was waiting for me at the café outside. I smiled and said "goodbye" to Xiao Zhang, and hurried over.
As soon as I entered the door, I saw Xiaoli waving at me. She was dressed up beautifully today and looked like she was in a good mood. I hurriedly walked over and sat down beside her.
"Why are you late?" Xiaoli asked me with a pretended seriousness.
I smiled and explained that I was chatting with Xiao Zhang, and before I knew it, I was delayed. After hearing this, Xiaoli didn't get angry, just patted the back of my hand lightly and said, "Don't be late next time." "
I would smile and nod and say, "Yes." "
In this way, we looked at each other and smiled, and the atmosphere was harmonious and sweet. Yes, feelings are so simple, as long as you treat each other with tolerance and understanding, everything will be easy.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, Xiaoli and I have been in love for five years. One day, I mustered up the courage to propose to her.
I made a special appointment to a very romantic restaurant. After dinner, I took a deep breath and pulled a diamond ring from my pocket and held it tightly in the palm of my hand.
"Xiaoli, we have been in love for so long, you are the most loved person in my life. I said sincerely, "Will you marry me?"
Xiaoli was stunned for a moment, then tears of happiness welled up in her eyes, and she nodded vigorously.
I was ecstatic and immediately put a diamond ring on her and hugged her tightly. The people around us applauded and cheered warmly, wishing us to grow old together.
Yes, that's the 10th final rule: when you're all ready, take a bold step forward and embark on a new journey in life.
In this way, Xiaoli and I held a grand wedding in the spring of a year later, with the blessings of relatives and friends.
Seeing Xiaoli wearing a white veil and walking towards me radiantly, my heart was filled with endless happiness. Yes, we have gone through so many trials and tribulations to finally wait for this day.
"Groom officer, are you willing to marry Xiaoli as a wife?" The priest asked solemnly.
"I do. I replied without hesitation.
"Bride, are you willing to marry Xiao Ming as your husband?"
"I do. Xiaoli smiled shyly, her eyes shining with happiness.
In this way, we exchanged rings and made a vow of eternal life to the cheers of the audience. I hugged and kissed my beloved wife tightly, and my heart was extremely happy.
Yes, the truth of feelings is actually very simple, that is, treat each other with respect, understanding and tolerance. As long as you insist on this, you will be able to grow old together, and you will grow old with your son.
I nodded, full of anticipation for the future. Yes, we have endured all kinds of hardships along the way, but in the end we have found a happy home.
The days when I used to be bound by those "rules" are really funny and angry when I think about it now. However, it was because of those detours that I finally found the right way to deal with my feelings.
Life after marriage is a new challenge for Xiaoli and me. We are no longer alone, but we need to start thinking about each other and face life's problems together.
In the beginning, we will have disagreements over small things. For example, Xiaoli likes to play music at home, while I prefer to be quieter.
"Baby, can you turn the music down a bit?" Once, I reluctantly said to her.
"Oh, why are you so long-winded?" Xiaoli frowned, seeming a little unhappy.
Seeing this, the unhappy look on Xiaoli's face gradually disappeared. I was secretly glad that I was able to correct my mistake in time.
For example, Xiaoli sometimes invites her girlfriends to her home. Although I also like her friends, sometimes their noise still interferes with my work.
"Baby, can you make them quieter?" Once, I couldn't help but say to Xiaoli.
Xiaoli glared at me, as if she was a little angry. I realized that I had hurt her self-esteem once again and violated the new rule nine. So, I hurriedly whispered, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean that." You guys keep playing, I'll just go out to work. "
Xiaoli eased her expression and didn't continue to be angry with me. I breathe a sigh of relief and am glad that the crisis was resolved in time.
In this way, in the bits and pieces of my newlywed life, I constantly practiced those new rules, and constantly reminded myself to respect and be considerate of Xiaoli. Only in this way can our relationship become more and more harmonious.
Life after marriage is not always smooth sailing. Sometimes, we encounter some more severe tests that take a heavy toll on our relationships.
For example, once Xiaoli was laid off by the company. She came home with a sad face and sat on the sofa in a daze.
I hurriedly stepped forward to comfort her: "It's okay, you've worked so hard, and it's not your fault that you've been fired." "
However, Xiaoli suddenly burst out and asked me: "What do you know? You never know how hard I work! You have nothing to do every day, of course you will not understand my feelings!"
In the end, I chose to remain silent. I know that no matter what I say at this time, I can't comfort Xiaoli's hurt heart. I could only wait patiently and let her calm down on her own.
Sure enough, after a while, Xiaoli took the initiative to apologize to me, saying that she was too excited at the time, and we hugged each other and cried together.
Since then, I have become more aware of the hardships of life and have more respect for Xiaoli's dedication and contribution to me. I know that in order to maintain a relationship, it is not enough to have new rules, but also to practice with actions and care for each other's hearts with love.
After Xiaoli lost her job, our lives fell into a difficult time. But at the most difficult time, a ray of light finally pointed us to a new way out.
One day, Xiaoli suddenly told me that she wanted to start her own business and open a small shop. I did not hesitate to express my support.
"That's great, you'll be able to do it!" I said, "I have my full support and will do everything I can to help you." "
Xiaoli was very happy and immediately began to prepare. I was in charge of the chores at home, so that she could devote herself to entrepreneurship.
In the beginning, the business of the small shop was not very good. Sometimes Xiaoli will feel very frustrated and even doubt whether she has made the right decision. But I always encourage her to persevere and support her with actions.
"Honey, you've done a great job. Whenever Xiaoli is discouraged, I comfort her like this, "As long as you persevere, you will definitely reap the rewards." "
Xiaoli was deeply touched by my support. She told me that it was because of my understanding and tolerance that she was able to get to where she is today. We are increasingly realizing that the core of a relationship is to support each other and grow together.
Finally, Xiaoli's efforts were not in vain. With the spread of word of mouth, her small shop business is becoming more and more prosperous. One day, she happily told me that she was able to hire staff and expand her store.
I was so happy that I almost cried tears of joy. Yes, all these achievements are due to our mutual support and encouragement. As long as you take care of each other with love, you will be able to work together to overcome every difficulty in life.