Zeng Shiqiang: What opens the gap in life is not ability, not luck, but relying on understanding these three points
In the vast ocean of life, we are all trying to find our own navigation, hoping to move forward steadily in the turbulent waves. However, we are often puzzled why some people can easily control the wind and waves, while others are always wandering in the same place? Professor Zeng Shiqiang told us that it is neither ability nor luck that widens the gap in life, but the following three points.
1. Mentality determines fate
"Mentality determines destiny", this sentence may sound a bit old-fashioned, but the truth in it is as profound as the sea. Professor Zeng Shiqiang pointed out that a person's mentality is like the sail of a ship, which can determine the direction of sailing. In the face of difficulties, a positive and optimistic attitude is like a fresh breeze that can make us move forward through the waves, while a negative and pessimistic attitude can make us fall into a quagmire and cannot extricate ourselves.
Do you remember that time when you encountered a major setback in your workplace, you were so discouraged that you almost wanted to give up? What made you get back on your feet and move on? Was it the encouragement of that friend, or the support of your family? Perhaps, the real strength comes from the tenacity and optimism in your heart. When you choose to face difficulties with a positive attitude, you will find that the original difficulties are not terrible, but what is terrible is that you have lost the courage to face them.
Life is like a marathon, we are all running hard and hoping to reach the finish line. In the process, we will encounter various difficulties and challenges, but as long as we maintain a positive attitude, we will be able to overcome all difficulties and run to the finish line. Therefore, we must always remind ourselves to keep a normal heart and face everything in life with an optimistic attitude.
2. Emotional intelligence determines height
Professor Tsang believes that emotional intelligence is more important than IQ. People with high IQ may be smart, but people with high EQ know how to get along with people and how to handle relationships. People with high emotional intelligence know better how to respect others and how to cooperate with others, so as to achieve better results.
Have you ever had a conflict with a colleague at work, a problem that could have been solved through communication, but an unnecessary conflict due to impulsiveness? or a misunderstanding with a friend in life, a problem that could have been solved by understanding, but a lack of patience has deepened the misunderstanding? These are all signs of lack of emotional intelligence.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to control their emotions, know how to understand others, and know how to build good relationships with others. They know that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and they must learn to appreciate the strengths of others and tolerate the shortcomings of others. Only in this way can you gain an advantage in interpersonal relationships and achieve better results.
Therefore, we should always remind ourselves to improve our emotional intelligence, learn to get along with others, and learn to deal with interpersonal relationships. Only in this way will we be able to gain a foothold in this highly competitive society and achieve better results.
3. Freedom of self-discipline and decision-making
Professor Tsang pointed out that self-discipline is the only way to achieve freedom. Only self-disciplined people can take control of their lives and realize their dreams.
Do you remember that time in the process of losing weight, you vowed to control your diet and exercise, but you always couldn't resist the temptation of food, and finally gave up your goal? Or, in the process of studying, you vowed to study hard, but you were always distracted by the temptation of mobile phones, computers, etc., and finally let your grades plummet? These are all manifestations of lack of self-discipline.
Self-disciplined people know how to control their desires, how to manage their time, and how to organize their lives. They know that only through self-discipline can they take control of their lives and realize their dreams.
Therefore, we must always remind ourselves to develop the habit of self-discipline and learn to manage our own lives. Only in this way will we be able to realize our dreams and achieve true freedom.
Professor Tsang's words make us think deeply that the gap between lives is not actually about ability and luck, but about mentality, emotional intelligence and self-discipline. A positive mindset can make us indomitable in the face of difficulties, a high emotional intelligence can make us comfortable in interpersonal relationships, and a self-disciplined life can enable us to realize our dreams and gain true freedom.
I hope that we can all understand these three points, face the challenges in life with a positive attitude, handle interpersonal relationships with high emotional intelligence, and realize our dreams with a self-disciplined life. Only in this way can we gain a foothold in this competitive society, achieve better results and achieve a better future.