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A powerful and thought-provoking story that explores the delicate relationship between life and happiness. In an old man who has entered his nineties, we see the loneliness and helplessness in life, as well as the anxiety and struggle in the heart of the elderly.
When the old man went to the hospital alone, his face full of confusion and confusion, the attending physician had an in-depth conversation with him, thus revealing what he had been through.
It turned out that the old man's wife had passed away five years earlier. Due to the many daily tasks of the children, they rarely find valuable time to spend with the elderly. During the long and healthy years, the old man found that he had fewer and fewer friends of the same age around him, and he himself felt more and more lonely and lonely.
Although he still lives with his children, his free time often makes him feel bored and lonely.
The doctor sighed deeply, he had seen countless similar cases. "Longevity does not necessarily equate to a symbol of happiness. "As older people grow older, they lose their ability to take care of themselves, and their decision-making power and control gradually dissipate.
At this point, they may feel depressed, hopeless, and even suicidal thoughts due to the ups and downs of their physical condition.
For this nearly 100-year-old man, the long life span did not bring the expected happiness, but instead plunged him into a dilemma of loneliness and helplessness. This is undoubtedly a serious blow to the notion that "the longer a person lives, the better".
Facing the end of his life, the old man's inner world seemed to fall into confusion and despair.
However, in stark contrast to this lonely old man, studies have found that people between the ages of 65 and 70 are the happiest. People in this age group are at a special stage in their lives.
First of all, from the perspective of economic situation, most of them are retired, have a stable pension and social security, and no longer need to worry about their livelihood. This provides them with a solid material foundation for their lives, while also greatly reducing the financial pressure.
Looking back on their youth, they can't help but feel a lot of relief, when they were busy with work, racing against time, and had little time to enjoy life, and now they are finally free from the burden of work and have plenty of free time.
First of all, as people enter the life stage between the ages of 65 and 70, they have more free time and energy to focus on social and recreational activities and fulfilling their hobbies.
The hectic pace of life in the past makes it difficult for them to find precious time to spend quality time with friends and family.
Now, however, they finally have the opportunity to reunite with their long-lost friends, reminisce about the past together, and share the joy of family together. Laughter and laughter filled the air, and their faces were full of happy smiles.
What's more, they have managed to get rid of the heavy pressure of work and no longer need to put a lot of energy into the workplace. This allows them to pay more attention to important relationships such as family and friendships, which in turn leads to a stronger sense of well-being.
Saying goodbye to the worries of work, they can spend more time with their children, gather with family and friends, and enjoy a leisurely life after retirement.
As the famous psychologist Eric Staunton said, the elderly over the age of 70 have often experienced many changes in their lives, and are able to look at life and death with a "detached" mentality.
They are more willing to accept the unknown and transience of life, rather than falling into unnecessary worries and sorrows. On the contrary, they may cherish every moment in front of them more and feel the beauty and joy of life with gratitude.
In the face of all this, the elderly aged 65-70 are undoubtedly the happiest. During this period, they not only have sufficient material security, but also have ample time and space to meet their spiritual needs, and their sense of happiness is naturally greatly improved.
Looking back on the past, they can't help but sigh that today's life is the real pinnacle of life.
Looking back at that era, the emperors and generals at that time all tried their best to pursue longevity. They were convinced that only by living longer could they govern their kingdom better, so that their country could prosper and their people live in peace and contentment.
This desire for longevity also reflects the ruler's insatiable thirst for power and domination.
However, whether the pursuit of longevity can really bring happiness to people? Based on the grandmother hypothesis, the aging group may no longer be able to directly generate benefits for society, because its ability to generate greater value may have been lost, and the meaning of its existence is gradually becoming obscure.
Although this view has not yet become mainstream, it still attracts many people to agree. They argue that the longevity of the elderly can give back to society by participating in productive activities, or by inheriting and carrying forward the skills and wisdom of their predecessors in order to maintain the prosperity of the family.
However, this view does not really consider the well-being of the individual in terms of the individual, but simply sees the elderly as a "productive force" and a "treasure trove of wisdom" for society.
In other words, longevity is not the same as human happiness. In fact, from the age of 70 to around the age of 90, it is the real golden stage of life. In this age group, people not only enjoy relatively abundant material conditions, but also can meet their spiritual needs through social entertainment and other means, and then experience a stronger sense of well-being.
However, for the "long-lived" over 90 years old, the plight they face will become more and more severe. As their physical functions deteriorate, so does their ability to care for and control their lives.
Not only can this put a lot of stress on the family, but it can also put the elderly themselves in a situation of depression and despair.
As the 90-year-old case of the aforementioned man revealed, the long life span did not bring him happiness, but rather left him in a quagmire of loneliness and helplessness.
For such elderly people, the length of life does not translate into happiness, but instead adds more pain and suffering to their lives.
There is no doubt that longevity does bring with it many unique opportunities and possibilities. However, we must also recognize that as the years go by, so do the uncertainties and challenges that people will have to face.
In this process, how to achieve the organic integration of life continuity and happiness will undoubtedly become a crucial issue.
As rigorous research has revealed, it is not an isolated incident for elderly people in their nineties to go to the doctor independently and be trapped in a lonely state of mind. Entering the stage of old age, the challenges and dilemmas faced by human beings are increasing exponentially!
The first problem is the slippage of physical condition. As the years go by, the elderly are gradually unable to take care of themselves, and their decision-making and control skills have dissipated silently like autumn leaves. As a result, not only are family members under heavy pressure, but the elderly themselves can also be desolate and hopeless.
Just like the 90-year-old man we mentioned, he felt physically and mentally exhausted due to the death of his beloved wife and his children's focus on his career.
For these elderly people, the continuation of life is far from a source of happiness, but rather an endless pain and suffering in life. When they lose their ability to take care of themselves, the control of their lives is also lost, which undoubtedly pushes them into the abyss of frustration and despair.
Another issue that deserves our in-depth discussion is the deep insight of the elderly into life and death. As Eric Staunton puts it, people over the age of 70 often experience the vicissitudes of life, and they often have a "detached" heart and a calm and rational attitude towards life and death.
This detachment is not ruthless and unjust, but thoughtful and calm. They are more willing to accept the shortness and uncertainty of life than to indulge in unnecessary anxiety and sorrow. On the contrary, they may cherish every moment of the moment more and feel the beauty of life with gratitude.
However, when the physical condition is declining and the control of life is gradually lost, even such elderly people are prone to fall into depression and despair. Some people may even have suicidal thoughts because they can no longer tolerate the negative factors in their lives.
The length of life is not synonymous with the quality of life! When the elderly are in the predicament of being unable to take care of themselves, they also lose the power to control their lives, and the pain that this brings to them is undoubtedly heavy and deep.
Maintaining the best state of mind and body while maintaining control over your life is undoubtedly a vital and urgent task.
Based on the above discussions, there is no definitive answer to the question of whether human life expectancy is better or better. It is influenced by many intricate factors, and the definition of happiness varies greatly from person to person.
According to research results, people between the ages of 65 and 70 seem to be the happiest group. Not only do they enjoy relatively abundant material conditions, but they also have more time and opportunities to meet their spiritual needs, which greatly improves their sense of well-being.
This is perhaps why the majority of seniors regard this period as the happiest time of their lives.
However, we must also face up to the negative effects of longevity. As they age, they inevitably face a series of challenges such as deteriorating physical condition and loss of decision-making power, which can plunge them into the abyss of loneliness and despair, as experienced by the 90-year-old man.
Therefore, we should not only pursue the so-called "longevity", but also pay more attention to the improvement of quality of life and happiness. Only through a comprehensive focus on physical and mental health, social recreation, family relationships, etc., can we ensure a deep integration of longevity and well-being.