First of all, I would like to clarify a point of view, that is, many people will think that they can get back together if they are disconnected, which is a very wrong idea.
Disconnection can only be said to be one of the recovery methods, it can only play an auxiliary role, it really needs to be recovered, and you still need to patiently solve the problems in your breakup.
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Many people always think that disconnection is a panacea in recovery, and they think that if they can't be recovered in the end anyway, I will be disconnected again if I am blocked by my ex, which is also a misunderstanding, in many cases, if you use the disconnection well, it can speed up your recovery progress.
So I hope that you don't think of using disconnection because your ex is particularly disgusted with you, but more importantly, you choose a good way to redeem it based on your own situation.
Secondly, I found that many people don't have a thorough understanding of disconnection at all, and they simply think that not contacting the other party is disconnection. So I often meet people who come to me and tell me that I have been disconnected from my ex for a few days, but it doesn't work.
It's equivalent to you not knowing what the drug does, so you just take it indiscriminately and say that the medicine doesn't work.
Today, I will also briefly popularize with you the relevant knowledge of disconnection, and I will also add it from time to time in the follow-up content, so that you can deepen your understanding of disconnection.
First of all, disconnection means that you are disconnected from your ex, so here we can't help but ask, what is the purpose of disconnection?
You can think about whether if your ex's dislike for you is particularly high, then if you disconnect from you, does it mean that your ex's dislike for you will slowly diminish over time.
So the first function of disconnection is derived, which can dilute the negative impact.
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Secondly, if you have disconnected from your ex, if your ex's dislike you is not so high, will he also be curious about what you are doing during this time, and will he also have a certain curiosity about you.
So the second function of disconnection can also be derived, which aroused the curiosity of the predecessor.
Finally, let's think about it, if you lose contact with your ex, does it mean that you have a lot less opportunities to pester your ex, whether you can spend time on yourself, and whether you have more time to improve and grow.
Therefore, you can also get the third function of disconnection, to improve yourself.
After talking about the function of disconnection, let's talk about the precautions for disconnection.
First, you can combine the three functions we just mentioned, how long do you think the disconnection time should be?
If your ex's disgust towards you is relatively high, it is useless for you to simply disconnect for two or three days, and the other party's disgust cannot be digested at all.
That's why a lot of people came to tell me that if you have been disconnected for a few days and weeks, you just don't have a clear understanding of the principle of disconnection, and it's strange that your disconnection is useful.
Based on my practical experience, I can tell you that the disconnection time is generally more than two months, and the effect will be more obvious. Of course, this time is not fixed, and if the degree of disgust of the predecessor is not high, the time can be appropriately shortened, but in any case, I hope that if you want to disconnect, it will take at least a month and a half.
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Second, disconnection means that you will completely disappear into your predecessor's world;
Many people's disconnection is just not harassing their ex, but your dynamics, your ex's visitor records, and your circle of friends are all telling your story, and in this case, it will not have the effect that disconnection should have.
If you should break the connection, you must break it clean, don't be nostalgic for that little bit of tenderness, the more simply you break it, the better the effect. I hope you can realize that you are doing something called redemption, and you must have the ability to restrain your behavior, so that you can reap the joy of success.
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