saw the complaint of a sister in her sixties on the headlines, and felt a little emotional.
The eldest sister divorced her husband more than ten years ago, and her husband got married again after the divorce. After she retired, she had a pension of more than 5,000 yuan per month, which felt that it was enough for herself, and there was no need to find a wife to run in again.
In the past few years, when I was in good health, I often traveled to various places and joined the dance team, and my life was enjoyable.
In the past few years, her health has declined significantly, she always feels uncomfortable, and she has begun to worry about her later life.
She has a daughter, who was brought up by her grandmother since she was a child, and she is not close to her, and her family is out of town.
Once, she tentatively told her daughter that she was the only child she had, and she would have to rely on her for the elderly in the future. Who knows, her daughter looked at her with an indescribable sense of alienation, she didn't say anything, but she couldn't forget that look.
Finally, she asked everyone: Now that there are so many single elderly people in society, how do you face your old age?
After reading this eldest sister's story, I really want to share my opinion.
It is true that there are many middle-aged and elderly people who divorce because of a bad relationship between husband and wife, and this phenomenon is very common in life.
A former colleague of mine, since he got married, because he took little care of his family, the couple often quarreled. Until their son went to college, the two of them didn't wait a day and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures.
Who knows, within a year or two, when my husband had a physical examination in the unit, he found that he not only had high fat and high sugar high blood pressure, but also had a bad heart. And his only son, because he had little control when he was a child, was not close to him.
He suddenly found that in his old age, he was facing a situation of being unaccompanied.
There is a saying that if you live well when you are young, you are not called really good, but when you live well in your old age, you are called really good.
Each of us is on the road to aging, how to face the coming old age? In my opinion, doing the following three things well is to accumulate blessings for old age.
One is not to be a person with negative energy
Some people are too worried about their old age, and they often have a sad face and sigh for a long time, and when others come into contact with him, others will also be depressed.
No one wants to approach such a person.
Not to mention that it is difficult to predict what will happen in the future, no one can say for sure, worrying about what did not happen early and wasting the good time of the present is really not a cost-effective thing.
While you are still in good health, do something to make yourself happy and enjoy life to the fullest, which will not only make you happy, but also make the people around you feel your positive energy.
A person who is full of positive energy, good luck will slowly approach him.
The second is to do more things that are beneficial to others
In life, I usually stretch out my hands to help others, and I am willing to look at problems from the perspective of others and empathize with others, which is equivalent to saving for my old age.
It's like saving money in the bank, the more you save, the more secure you are.
Doing more altruistic things is an emotional investment, and the more you invest, the more security you will receive in your later years.
This is true not only among children, but also among relatives and friends.
In life, except for those who are particularly selfish, the vast majority of people will always think about reciprocal rewards in their minds after receiving help from others.
If you do face difficulties in your later years, there will be more people willing to reach out and help.
The third is not to carry out moral kidnapping of others
The eldest sister at the front of the article, when she tentatively proposed to her daughter that when she was old, let her daughter support her, but did not get a positive reply from her daughter, which hurt her very much.
Although raising children to prevent old age has been passed down for many years, what is proposed from one's own mouth and spoken to the child is two completely different feelings for the child.
In the name of family affection, asking the other party to pay for himself is, to some extent, moral kidnapping.
Everyone can only be responsible for their own life, and no one can bear all the expectations of others.
In my opinion, the best love between parents and children is: parents love their children, know how to be considerate and care for their children, children feel this love, be grateful to their parents, and give back love when parents need it, which is the correct way to transmit love.
The same is true between relatives and friends.
Taking responsibility for one's own life is the self-discipline of adults.
On the road of life, we will face countless choices, and our current life is the result of our countless choices.
When we choose our own lives, we choose our own destiny.
At the same time, we must also assume the responsibilities and obligations that come with our choices, and accept everything that fate gives us.
There will be all kinds of regrets, and only by facing them with a positive attitude can we make life better and better.
Let go of worries about the future, fully enjoy life, be kind to the people around you, and be a positive and sunny person is to accumulate blessings for your old age.
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