Teacher Zheng Wei's foreword
Love is everywhere, but many of us don't have the ability to feel love, just like Ma Honglan, who once implanted a limiting concept (think) "Mom and Dad don't love me" in childhood because of some small events or bad feelings.
With such a restrictive concept, I lost the harmony and warmth with my parents, the unreal life, and the real happiness and beauty.
I'm thinking, if Honglan expressed it truthfully with her parents when she was a child just like she did today, then what would her life be like today? There is no regret medicine in the world, so we won't assume it, and after reading Honglan's feelings, everyone may understand how important it is to express it truthfully.
Today I also want to say that everyone should learn from Honglan, Honglan I am more impressed, she has always insisted on learning and changing, because the quantity has changed enough, and "suddenly one day" has reached a qualitative change.
At the end of the article, she asked herself the question, "Why did I suddenly have the courage to express my love to my dad today?" Because of the continuous cultivation of oneself, the constant feeling of love and giving love, the constant soaking in the big family of love and happiness, the constant truth in love, the power of love in the truth, the constant vipassana in dedication, the power of faith in vipassana, the constant reading of the prayer of the letter of love and the adherence to the seven-character mantra, unconsciously, courage and strength will slowly accumulate, in fact, what slowly accumulates is the power of love and faith.
Bless Honglan, your life has reached a new level, because only when a person dissolves the relationship with his parents can he truly mature. A truly mature Honglan will definitely love her family more, dedicate her strength to others, and welcome her better and better self in her life.
It's not like Daddy doesn't love me,
It's that I always thought he didn't love me
Text: Love and Happiness Family Ma Honglan (Nanjing)
Good evening, dear family, and a good day! It's a little late, and I'm a little tired, but I have to record what happened to me today. This was a historic moment for me.
When I arrived at work in the morning, I used to read the love letter prayer and the twelve happiness mottos. Reading and reading, one by one the words jumped into my heart, as if they were all said to me, I suddenly felt sorry for myself, I felt sorry for myself in order to change myself insisted on shouting and reading back, I felt sorry for my own efforts in the past 45 years, I cried. A lot of images come to mind. Suddenly jumped on the picture of my father.
On Sunday, during the eye contact session in yoga class, I saw the pattern between me and my dad. I am afraid of him. Subconsciously, I always thought that my dad didn't love me because I was the third daughter in the family. Guided by the saying that life is happiness, I remembered that I helped a patient who was hospitalized, who was less than 40 years old in the terminal stage of liver cancer and found that there were only two months before he died, and his father worked hard to save his son's life, tried every means to find someone, and finally had to deal with all the affairs after his son's death. Parents all over the world love their children. All of a sudden, I realized that my dad had always loved me.
I burst into tears, and I had a thought in my heart, I want to tell my father, I love you! I picked up the phone, controlled my emotions for a while, dialed the phone, and my father answered. Dad, I want to say to you that you have always cared for me and loved me all the time. I couldn't help but cry as I spoke. Dad was terrified, what's wrong? What did you feel wronged about? Do you want Dad to come over? I couldn't control myself crying when I heard this.
Dad really loves me! I cried and explained that I had not suffered any grievances, but I suddenly understood that you had always cared about me and loved me for so many years! I used to think that I was the third daughter in the family, and you didn't like me.
Dad said gently on the phone, how can you not love you. At that time, in the hearts of my grandparents, because of their old concepts, they were different, but in my heart, all four of you are equally important. Daddy loves each and every one of you.
You remember that when you were a child, you always coughed, took medicine and injections to make home remedies, and I learned injections from the factory doctor, first going to the hospital and then giving you injections at home every day. I cried and said, remember, I remember the road you took me to the hospital, and every morning you cooked the needle, I lay on the side of the bed, you gave me the injection and then went to work and I went to school. Dad was on the other end of the phone smiling and asked me if I was really okay? Didn't I suffer any grievances? If I was wronged, tell my father. I explained again and again, I really didn't, I just suddenly felt that my dad had always loved me, and I wanted to call you to tell you that I love you, Dad!
Dad and I talked a little bit more about homely things, talking about Mom. After getting sick, I was very nagging, and I didn't stop for a minute. I said that my father has worked hard and has always been very tolerant of my mother, but my mother has never felt it and felt that what you should have done.
Every time she naged, I thought about her illness and didn't care about her. Yes, Dad has been very good to Mom for so many years, has taken on a lot, and has paid a lot for our family. Dad smiled and said, don't say it! My mother and I are all right now, don't worry! Pay attention to your body, if there is anything to call Dad! Well, yes, Dad, if you are uncomfortable, call me! Dad, I love you!
When I put down the phone, I really don't know how to express the joy in my heart. Later, the second sister called me again, saying that my father was not worried about me and asked her to ask me. I chatted with my second sister again, which was very good, and I felt that our relationship had taken another step forward. Fortunately, with love and happiness, and fortunately, with my own persistence in studying, the islands have been slowly connected. I'm so happy!
Writing this, I suddenly thought how I had the courage to call my dad on the phone and tell him, I love you! In the past three years, I have been immersed in an environment of love and happiness, insisting on the seven-character mantra, insisting on participating in salons to organizing salons, insisting on helping others as much as I can, insisting on participating in activities, so that I can gradually feel love and believe in love, which is what the prayer says, I want to believe in love, practice love, spread love, and become love in action. Believe in beauty, and my life will bloom like a flower. I believe that this flower of mine is slowly blooming one by one!
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