Text: Jing Ma
Family affection is a person's hardest reliance, but the reality is extremely cruel!
We say that brothers are like siblings, which means that brothers are connected by blood and are very close.
Qiu Yi is my primary school classmate, although the grades are not very good, but he has a very smart brain, he graduated from junior high school and did not go to school again, he went to Guangdong to twist the screw by himself, and because his brain is more flexible, he slowly became the workshop director, and even became the leader of the factory, and finally became the deputy factory director, it can be said that one person is above 10,000 people! #春日生活打卡季#
And after his achievements, he took many people in the village out to work in their factories, and his own brother and sister's children also received a lot of care in the factory!
Because he was the leader of the factory, the big boss bought him a provident fund, and when he bought a house, he thought about using the provident fund loan, so that the interest was not high, although he had money in hand, he still only paid the down payment.
The money in hand was originally intended to be invested, but the elder brother said that he wanted to open a restaurant in the county, and if he wanted to do it, he would want to make it bigger, so he borrowed 1 million directly from Qiu Yi, saying that when the business became bigger, he would share dividends to his younger brother.
At that time, Qiu Yi lent it to his eldest brother without even telling his wife, but he didn't expect the epidemic to come, Qiu Yi's factory was doing foreign trade, because the epidemic caused no orders in the factory, and the big boss felt that the stall was too big, so he simply sold the factory and all the employees were disbanded, and Qiu Yi was directly unemployed.
When the epidemic came, the big hotel opened by my brother in the county had just been renovated, and it had been open for less than three months, and all of it was operating at a loss, and it had to be closed.
Qiu Yi still owes hundreds of thousands of loans for his own house, because his money has been lent to his brother to do business, and now he has no job, and he wants his brother to repay the money, but the smart brother took all the money in his hand to the county seat to buy a house under the creation of his sister-in-law, and now there is no money to pay back to Qiu Yi......
In the end, he returned to his hometown to live in the old house, and Qiu Yi's wife was a city girl and was unwilling to go home with him......
Because it was too good for the eldest brother, the eldest brother invested all the money in business, and as a result, the family was ruined, Qiu Yi sighed at home: People only understand in middle age that they really can't be too good to their brothers and sisters, this is not ruthless, but to have a sense of boundaries. It is precisely because he is so good to his eldest brother that he has harmed himself and is really not a ghost now.
Don't be too nice to your siblings, it's really not ruthless, and the three reasons are also very realistic
Reason 1: The abilities of siblings are not the same, and the money they earn is also different
If the one who can earn money is too good to his brothers and sisters, he will average his wealth, and even he would rather endure hardships than give his brothers and sisters more support, so that it is easy for his small family to capsize when it encounters wind and rain, just like Qiu Yi.
If the brothers and sisters are sick and hospitalized, and they don't have so much money for the time being, it's okay to borrow a little, but the brothers and sisters say that if they want to do business, build a house, they have the ability to do a lot of things, and don't help with it.
Reason 2: Brothers are not as close as their wives
The wife is the one who accompanies him all his life, and the wife is the one who shares his weal and woe, and when he is in debt, his wife has to bear half of the debt, but it has nothing to do with your brother. And if you are too nice to your siblings, it is easy to ignore your wife.
Therefore, you must remember that a brother is not as close as a wife, and you must take care of your wife's emotions and never be too good to your brothers and sisters.
Reason 3: Being too good to your siblings will break your child's heart
When I was a child, I would be very depressed during the Chinese New Year, because my father would give 20 yuan to my uncle and uncle's children, but only 5 yuan to our brothers, and for a long time, I felt that my father did not love me, and even I thought that we might not be born to my father. Why does he give more money to other children when he gives out red envelopes during the Chinese New Year, and only gives us that little?
So when you are nice to your siblings and good to your children, it will hurt your children very much, and even later your children will become white-eyed wolves.
After getting married, don't be too good to your brothers and sisters, there is a certain boundary, there is a certain distance, everyone's gentleman's friendship is as light as water, when you have the ability, it does not affect your family, and when you have the consent, you can help a little bit without hurting your children, but don't overstep your responsibilities, otherwise you will harm yourself if you raise your brother.
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