I have a better memory than my best friend, and I don't expect the iron tree to bloom!

I have a better memory than my girlfriends, and I don't expect the iron tree to bloom! After doing this, it feels really good! You who grew up in the eccentric environment of your parents should also be sober!

The best friend was hurt by the behavior of her patriarchal parents again!

I cried in front of me for half an hour with a handful of snot and tears.

I clenched my right hand with my left hand, for fear that I wouldn't be able to control the thought of "slapping her out and waking her up".

Really, for her, I feel a little "sad for her misfortune and angry with her"!

I, who also have a pair of patriarchal parents like her, have already thought about it and accepted the reality.

I don't want to give stupidly anymore, and it is impossible to seek the attention and love that they give me the expectation.

But she was still in a state of confusion and ignorance.

Like a stubborn donkey, she has been running on the road she thinks is right.

During this time, the price of gold rose so much, and she ignored my dissuasion and spent money to buy gold bracelets, gold necklaces, and gold earrings for her mother.

And it's been less than a month since the last time her dad had a birthday, and she was hurt by her mom's actions.

When her father celebrated his birthday, it was originally said that his brother and sister-in-law at home would have dinner with her parents with their children, as well as their family of three.

According to the past practice, every time she has a meal, she is responsible for buying vegetables in better conditions than her brother and sister-in-law.

She and her husband bought beef, seafood, pork ribs, durian and other meat, vegetables, vegetables and precious fruits, and came to her parents with a cart full of them.

As a result, when she was about to cook, her brother and sister-in-law called and said that her sister-in-law's uncle had passed away, and they were in a hurry to go back. I can't come.

When her parents heard the news, they naturally put the things they bought in the refrigerator, saying that since they didn't come, they just had to eat some home-cooked food.

I just made two extra dishes in the morning, and fried eggs with garlic sprouts on the vegetable shelf, and fried a plate of yellow croaker, a total of four dishes.

It's a birthday.

After returning home, my best friend's husband had a big fight with my best friend, saying, "In the future, my father-in-law and mother-in-law will have another birthday, don't look for him, he doesn't want to look for him anymore!"

That time, she ran here and cried with me, but I didn't expect it to heal so quickly, and the scar forgot the pain.

This cry was because of the gold jewelry she bought for her mother.

In the past few days, her brother and sister-in-law have been busy with work, and her parents have temporarily taken over her little nephew to take care of her for a few days. And the little nephew was playing with the gold bracelet she bought for her mother.

The little nephew, who was less than five years old, was naughty and not very sensible, and he was knocking around with the gold bracelet, and her mother didn't care.

The best friend looked distressed, so she said to the little nephew: "Your grandmother's gold bracelet was bought by your aunt, it is your aunt's thing, if you knock it like this again, your aunt will take it back!"

As a result, when her nephew heard this, he grinned and cried, saying, "Grandma said that this thing is his, and he can play it as much as he wants." "

Her mother also got angry and said, "What are you fighting with your nephew about a girl who has been married?" All these valuable things on me belong to my son and my grandson!"

When my best friend heard this, her mentality collapsed. I didn't shed tears.

Her mother's words: "All the valuable things on me are my son, my grandson" hurt her very much.

While people are giving, they subconsciously expect to give back.

After so many years, the economic conditions are obviously better than her brother's best friend, and her parents said that her brother and sister-in-law are far away from work and want to buy a car, but they are short of money. She didn't hesitate at all, and directly took 100,000 yuan and bought a scooter.

When her little nephew was born, she gave 20,000 yuan. This is too little for her mom and dad. When her own child was born, her brother and sister-in-law bought a pair of small silver bracelets.

Since the year her parents retired, she gave her parents 2,000 yuan a month for pocket money, and later she learned that after her parents received the money, they would directly transfer it to her sister-in-law.

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She has been wronged a lot of things, but she still has no long memory of how she should treat her parents or her parents in the future!

I have a better memory than she has, so now my parents' attitude towards me has changed!

Originally, I was worried that my parents would be lonely at home, except for going to an average of twice a month, chatting with my parents through video surveillance almost every day a week, and I felt that I was doing my daughter's filial piety, and I was happy to do this for a few years.

When I gradually encountered more than once, as long as I spoke in the surveillance video, my mother's impatient tone, and the state of ignoring me at all, what should I do. And if my brother or my nephew called at this time, they immediately picked up the phone with a smile on their faces and chatted with them cordially;

When I also went home to accompany them for the Spring Festival, my parents let my husband and I choose vegetables and cook in the kitchen, while they and my brother and daughter-in-law's family chatted and watched TV in the living room.

When my parents entered their old age, they emphasized in front of me more than once that all the land they would deposit in the family house after a hundred years would belong to my younger brother and nephew, and it had nothing to do with me. Tell me, a married daughter, not to run back to her mother's house to grab property from her brother;

I completely believed in one thing: in their hearts, I was the daughter they had to do their parental responsibilities and raise someone else's family.

When my daughter becomes an adult and starts a family, for them, she is already a member of someone else's family, and she is an existence that they have to guard against.

Realizing this, I decided to reduce my devotion to them.

Surveillance video for half a month, it's good to talk to them once. Usually two people celebrate their birthdays, and I don't buy gifts separately anymore. Just buy some fruits, pastries and other things that they love to eat. No longer take the initiative to do their own thing.

Over time, they seem to know that I am deliberately indifferent to them.

Instead, they took me seriously, and when I talked to them again, they listened carefully.

When I go home, they don't always let me cook and clean up the house.

I usually know that when I look at my face, I start to think about my feelings when I speak and act.

I have always adhered to the principle of "if you are good to me, I will be good to you, if you don't take me seriously, I will also treat you as a grass".

This is true even for biological parents. I think that daughters who grow up in families with very strong patriarchal values must be sober:

Don't expect to let your parents take yourself seriously through your own efforts! The concept of people is very stable, especially for older people, and it is destined to be an obsession to look forward to the blossoming of the iron tree!

Appropriately reduce the amount of effort you pay to them, so that your heart can be more balanced.

If you can't do this, you can only be like my best friend, and feel aggrieved from time to time!