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It is the common wish of every parent to hope that their children will grow up to become a talent, get ahead, and glorify their ancestors.
I have the same wish as everyone else, when the child was born, I hugged him tightly in my arms, carefully looked at his cute little appearance, smiling and full of joy. I have a son, and I am a father! I really don't know what words to use to describe the excitement at that time.
Looking forward to the child's rapid growth and hope that the child will become a dragon, I am no more than others. Now that thirty-six years have passed, looking back on the past, who knows the pain and happiness, joy and joy in the long years?
From the first day I became a father, my own suffering began.
It is necessary to serve the wife in confinement and take care of the baby in infancy. At that time, my mother-in-law was serving the confinement child, but because the high blood pressure was too high, it reached an astonishing 180, and I couldn't work harder anymore, for fear of accidents, and after a few days, I was sent to my wife's second sister's house, and the arduous task of serving the confinement could only fall on my shoulders.
I've never served in confinement, I can only learn and work at the same time, and a big man is often busy. Thanks to my wife's good temper, who commanded me to do this and that, I finally got on the right track day by day, and started changing diapers, washing diapers, emptying basins, and making confinement meals... Wait for work. Don't say it, the work in the future will be better and better, and I will take good care of my wife and son, and I will gradually get praise and praise from my wife. Seeing my son growing up day by day, my heart blossomed with joy.
From my son's learning to toddler, my son has grown up and grown taller day by day under the care of my wife and me.
Since then, I have gone to kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, high school, and then to university, all of which are inseparable from the hard work and careful training of my wife and me. From eating, dressing, to paying for tutoring classes, more than ten years have been like a day, and the children have slowly grown up.
Especially during the child's learning period, we strive to provide the child with a quiet learning environment.
When the child is studying, the TV at home is not watchable, I have quit smoking, try not to bring relatives and friends to the house, mahjong has not been played, the banquet is rarely placed at home, and even walking is light-handed.
I once saw a cartoon in a magazine about a child studying under a lamp, and a mother with her shoes in her hands passed by the child's window and walked to the door of her home. And the husband is waiting for his wife to put on his shoes outside the door and go out together.
Looking at it, I laughed dumbly. This situation, how familiar it is, is a vivid portrayal of me and my wife.
Picking up and dropping off children from kindergarten to primary school is also the biggest thing in the family. I only remember when I was in kindergarten, because of a delay in time, my son sat in the kindergarten and cried.
When the child reaches the third grade of primary school, he says that he has grown up, and he says that he will not let his parents pick him up and drop him off. But one evening, it had been a long time since school ended, and my son had not come home yet, and I was very anxious. I hurried to the school and saw that only one classroom was still lit, and only my son was still studying.
I saw my son, and a hanging heart fell to the ground, but I felt sorry for his young age, such a heavy homework task, don't tire out your brain.
My son left the classroom with a sense of responsibility, and did not forget to close the open windows, turn off the lights, and lock the door before going home with me.
When my son was a day student in elementary, junior high and high school, he ate and lived at home, and he rode his bicycle to and from school, and once almost had a major accident.
It was one evening in the fall of 2003, and he was in his first year of high school at Xingtai No. 1 Middle School. I made dinner and waited for him to come home. But 20 minutes have passed according to the normal school time, and there is still no sign of the child, so I am a little anxious. Hurriedly came out of the house, followed the child's route home, and looked for it all the way. I finally saw my son, and saw that he was walking with difficulty on his bicycle.
When I got closer, I realized that the bicycle was crushed by a car, but fortunately it didn't hit anyone. I quickly picked up my bike and walked to a repair station to repair it. While repairing the car, I felt scared. Luckily, luckily, it's really terrible. Luckily, it only hit the front wheel of the bike, which broke the tire. My son's bike tops up, and the car runs over the front wheel of the bike. In case, in case, I really don't dare to think about it.
The son was lucky, but a male classmate in the same class as him was not so lucky. After being hit by a car, he was rescued in the hospital for three days without being rescued, and at the age of 16, a vigorous 1.78-meter-tall boy lost his precious life in a car accident. When his mother came to the classroom for the last time to collect the child's school supplies, she couldn't help but cry loudly with her child on the stool she was sitting on.
When my son came home and told this sad story, my wife and I couldn't help but moisten our eyes. Poor baby, poor mother, the pain of losing a child is the most unbearable tragedy in the world. The pain of a lifetime, which parent can bear it...
Because of my son's talent, as well as my wife's dedication and correct guidance, my son's academic performance has always been among the best. From elementary school to high school, I never had to worry about my poor academic performance. In the warm family environment, after the unremitting help of my wife and me, my son lived up to expectations, and in June 2006, with a score of 637 points, the first place in the class and the 9th place in the school science, he was successfully admitted to the Department of Chemical Engineering of Tianjin University, majoring in bioengineering.
My son was leaving home for the first time to go to university in Tianjin, and my wife and I were reluctant to give him up and escorted him all the way to Tianjin.
In the first and second years of his freshman and sophomore years, he won two national scholarships, each with 8,000 yuan each, a total of 16,000 yuan, and also received an award certificate issued by the Ministry of Education. In November 2008, he represented Tianjin University in the World Collegiate Chemistry Competition organized by the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and won the bronze medal.
In May 2010, he was admitted to the University of New Hampshire to study for a doctorate.
On July 19, 2010, when my wife and I dropped our son off at the T3 terminal of Beijing Capital Airport, my eyes gradually blurred with tears as I looked at the back of my son pushing his suitcase and gradually moving away.
My son is gone, and I don't know when I can meet again? I hope that my son will be Jackie Chan, and the dragon has gone away, what more can I ask for? I really hope that my child will be safe, healthy, and happy all the way. My mother is worried, and when I am a father, I still have mixed feelings, and I want to wear it...
Later, I also wanted to open it. Since the child is so talented, why not let him go and fly away to pursue his dreams?
When parents do their jobs well, do a good job in family life, eat well, raise a good body, and be happy every day, let their son relax, don't worry about the family, the family is happy, isn't that the biggest dream we pursue?
It turns out that as long as the thinking is correct, everything will go smoothly. After his son studied abroad, the marriage event was also decided, and the object was his high school classmate, or the front and back table, and he was also from Xingtai.
On May 25, 2014, the two held a grand wedding in Xingtai, accompanied by their daughter-in-law after marriage, and the two took a plane to the United States together. This time, I didn't have to send it from my parents, and my son was accompanied by his beloved, and my wife and I smiled happily.
In 2017, my son graduated with a Ph.D., and in May 2018, he came to Madison, Wisconsin, from New Hampshire to start working.
In June 2021, the good news came that my daughter-in-law was pregnant. Serving the confinement has become a top priority. However, at the time of the pandemic, my wife and I were unable to go to the U.S. Embassy in Beijing for visas, so we had to make an appointment with the U.S. Consulate in Shanghai. I was really lucky that the visa went through.
From my first visit to the U.S. in May 2022 to my second visit to my son's house on March 31 this year, I have welcomed my two precious granddaughters. One left and one right, accompanied by two granddaughters, the family lives happily together, I enjoy a rare family fun, tired and happy.
The family was reunited and separated. Reunited again, separated again. How many times have I experienced joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows. Maybe this is life in reality, and it is the arrangement of fate.
Since he chose to let his son fly away, he had to accept the separation between his relatives. I don't know the truth that you can't have both? Those unforgettable pains and joys seem to have become yesterday's stories and into beautiful memories of the future...