When we are in love, we always feel that the relationship between two people, as long as they truly love each other, is enough.
But when I got married, I found that there was no real love in this world at all.
In fact, when many people choose a marriage partner, they go for love.
But with the passage of time and the tempering of life, love will also become family affection, plus many trivial things in life, love will slowly fade.
But it doesn't mean that two people don't have feelings. It's just that feelings in marriage depend on mutual tolerance, understanding and support between husband and wife.
Some people get married because they love each other, but not all of them make it to the end.
After all, in a good marriage relationship, it should be from love to family affection, and then from family affection to love.
Only in this way will the marriage get better and better.
- When two people are together, it's actually more of a habit
I don't know when we started to pay more and more attention to the sense of ritual, even if it is a bouquet of flowers or a gift, we want to be unique. Perhaps because life is too ordinary, we need these external things more to improve the happiness of life.
For example, some people will give each other a bouquet of roses on Valentine's Day, some people will buy each other a gift for their wedding anniversary, and some people will go to the movies together on the weekend.
Of course, these are some small details of the sense of ritual, but these are the simplest, most rustic love.
But some people have made the sense of ritual a habit. They always feel that these are dispensable, and there is no need to take them so seriously.
In fact, this is the manifestation of whether two people are suitable or not. He's not there when you need him, and he's not there when you need him. Therefore, the most feared thing in love is to get used to each other, but not to love each other.
- Love or not can be seen in the details
Getting married is a very simple thing, but after getting married, it is not as simple as imagined. is like what is said in the TV series "Dear Yourself": "Marriage is not 1+1=2, but 0.5+0.5=1." That is, two people each remove half of their personality and temper, and then make up a complete self. ”
Of course, marriage and love are two different things, love can only have love, but marriage has to face firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, food, clothing, housing, transportation, childbirth, etc. If a man doesn't love you, then he won't give you in those ways.
Those loves that seem romantic and warm are actually not that good. True love is when a man is willing to give you all his love.
Therefore, if you want to judge whether a man is sincere to you, you need to see whether he is willing to give everything for you. Even if he can't speak sweet words, it can be seen in the details.
- If you want a good relationship, you must understand each other
In marriage, two people have different living habits and lifestyles, and it is inevitable that quarrels will occur.
When one party finds out that the other party is not very good at taking care of people in life, they will start complaining about the other person and not understanding themselves, and the two people will often quarrel over this issue.
But in reality, this kind of quarrel does not help the marriage at all, but will affect the relationship between two people.
A truly wise woman will not lose her temper directly with each other in the event of an argument.
Because women know that the most important thing in marriage is understanding and tolerance.
There is a good saying: "Between husband and wife, there is no overnight feud." ”
But when two people quarrel over trivial matters in life, they must learn to communicate and solve problems.
is like the female guest of "Love Defense": "He often says that I don't understand romance and have no interest." His circle of friends only has jobs and children, and there is no me at all. ”
But she never thought that it was she who did something wrong that caused the other party to have such a misunderstanding.
Because she only considers problems from her own point of view, she has not learned to empathize. That's why I feel that he is very cold and ruthless to himself.