Conversation is a common way for people to interact with each other, as the saying goes: "A word makes people laugh, a sentence makes people jump!" This vividly illustrates the importance of the way of talking, talking is an art, so how can we make this art to the extreme, so as to achieve the ultimate goal of our conversation?
Hexagram structure diagram
The hexagram "Dui" tells you: what kind of conversation can achieve a mutually beneficial and win-win effect?
1. Hexagrams present joy and communication, and hexagrams reveal the principles of conversation
The "Dui" hexagram is the 58th hexagram of the 64 hexagrams in the I Ching. The hexagram "Dui" is the only hexagram in "Zhou Yi" that talks about joy, and this hexagram is the same hexagram: that is, the main hexagram and the guest hexagram are both hexagrams, and the hexagram is redeemed, and "Xia Ze and Shang Ze" are overlapped. Because Ze is water, the two Ze are connected, and the two waters communicate, showing the image of harmony between the top and bottom, unity, friends helping each other, and joy.
The hexagram "Dui" hexagram: "Dui: Heng, Li Zhen" in "Heng" is the righteousness of accessibility, "Li" is the righteousness of harmony, and "Zhen" is the righteousness of chastity. The whole hexagram expresses the theme of the joy of the hexagram "Dui". That is, when things are happy, they will prosper. However, we should not "redeem" (joy) for the sake of evil, so we warn people to use a harmonious and upright attitude and method in order to obtain joy.
That is to say, the hexagram of the "Dui" hexagram fully presents joy, and after the hexagram first expresses the joy, it also reminds people to uphold the virtue of being strong and healthy, embrace a gentle posture on the outside, and stick to the right path when communicating with each other, that is, "just in the middle and soft outside", just in the heart, there are opinions and principles in the heart, and in the soft outside, it is modest and kind, and respect for others. This is exactly the principle of conversation advocated by the I Ching.
An overview of the hexagrams
2. The rhetoric details the art and manner of conversation
"The ninth day of the first month: and dui, auspicious. That is, if you can treat others with peace and joy, you will be auspicious. This one emphasizes the importance of treating people with peace and joy when talking, especially when you are in a low position and have little status, and you should take the initiative to make friends with people. However, be careful not to be flattering, but to associate sincerely with people without asking for anything. Pay attention to the first time you meet people, you should behave kindly, generously, and decently, and do not leave the impression of stammering or scheming, so that you will get along easily and happily in the future.
"Ninety-two: Fu Dui, Ji, repentance. Meaning: Honesty and joy, auspiciousness, remorse disappears. This line points out that as long as you are honest and happy in your heart, you can get auspiciousness", explaining that when you get a sincere friend or a love, it is very auspicious, and you can enjoy this joy without regrets.
"Sixty-three: Come and redeem, fierce. The interpretation is: to come to seek pleasure, there is danger. The implication is that if the interaction is based on rhetoric and mutual interests, or if the purpose is to form a party for personal gain like a villain, it is not conducive to national stability and social stability, and it will inevitably attract danger.
Hexagrams and hexagrams
"Ninety-four: business, restlessness, and joy in the middle of illness. The meaning of this phrase is: to repeatedly think about the dangers of being too close to people, to be restless, and to eliminate the danger and evil in order to have a happy result. As long as the parable can resist the temptation (of villains, material things, etc.) and resolutely keep the right, there will be a good omen and it is worth celebrating.
"Ninety-five: Fu Yu peeling, powerful. That is: indulging in the clever words of villains, honesty and trustworthiness are stripped away, and there will be danger. It's a reminder to take stock of what you've been doing lately, and you'll pay a heavy price if you indiscriminately seek sensual gratification, indulge in eating, drinking, or trust people you don't know.
"Upper six: Quotation. The meaning of this phrase is to entice others to rejoice with oneself. This one warns everyone: thinking about eating, drinking, and having fun all day long, and wants to win over the leader and his assistant to have fun together, although the leader also likes this set, but he refuses to do it for the sake of work and image, and at the same time does not let his assistant participate. If so, you should check yourself, it's not good for you to be obsessed with it, it's time to do something right.
Hexagram legend
At the same time, this metaphor: maybe you have always liked someone and want to express your wishes to them, but you have not been able to achieve them, or have been rejected by them, then you are in a state of confusion, but do not give up, you can try to maintain the current intimate relationship.
3. Summary
To sum up, the I Ching's "Dui" hexagram tells us that only by using the correct way of conversation can we achieve a mutually beneficial and win-win effect. That is, to advocate the principle of "being rigid in the middle and soft in the outside" in order to achieve the effect of mutual joy;
For example, when talking, you should treat others in a peaceful, joyful, and honest manner, always check your words and deeds, refuse the temptation of money or goods from people with ulterior motives, avoid associating with villains who love to eat, drink, and have fun, make clever words, and even form parties for personal gain, and always maintain integrity and integrity, and do not harm the interests of the country or undermine social morality.
Hexagram analysis
In short, the wisdom conveyed by the I Ching's "Dui" hexagram is of great significance for achieving a mutually beneficial and win-win conversation. It also has strong practical value.
We should focus on harmony, communication and cooperation, pay attention to the interests and needs of each other, pay attention to integrity and trust, learn to listen and feedback, pay attention to details and courtesy. Only in this way can we achieve a mutually beneficial and win-win effect in conversation, establish a good interpersonal relationship, and achieve long-term cooperation and development.
At the same time, we should also continue to study and practice these wisdoms, constantly improve our communication ability and cooperation level, create more opportunities and value for our own life and career, and make our due contribution to the establishment of a harmonious society, the prosperity and strength of the motherland, and the well-being of the people.
Concept art of the hexagram
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