I was scared into a cold sweat! The concept of parenting, which was praised by the whole Internet, realized that it was a scam......
I read an article the other day, and it really me off.
The article probably says this: no matter how good an education is, it is not as good as a good mother.
At first glance, it sounds like a compliment to your mother, but if you taste it carefully, you just put your mother there.
Fucking emotions determine the character of the child
Fucking scholarship determines the fate of the child
Fucking cognition determines a child's life
I just want to ask: What about the child's father?
Is it an ornament hanging on the wall with his father?
These so-called "brick families" don't know what they think, day by day, these men and women are opposed, when has raising children become a woman's business?
Modern society has put too many shackles on women
It has to be said that modern society puts too much pressure on women.
Fertility pressure, workplace pressure, and family pressure are simply the three mountains that weigh on the heads of contemporary women.
On the outside, I hope you can be radiant, take charge of yourself, and it is best to have face in front of others;
At home, I hope you can teach your husband and children, decathlon, and be gentle with your husband.
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But the child alone can make a mother collapse.
I saw the daily routine of an ordinary stay-at-home mom on the Internet before:
Get up early to make breakfast for your child, then send your child to school, and come home to prepare lunch.
At noon, I went to pick up the child again, and finally put my daughter to sleep, and after a while, I had to send my son to school.
Take the kids to the park and come back to cook dinner and clean up the house.
It's like a spinning top for a day, spinning non-stop.
And what about the husband, who was still drinking in the middle of the night, and couldn't wake up drunk.
I don't want to admit that this is the daily routine of most stay-at-home mothers.
The point is that the fatigue is not enough, many people have to overcome their self-esteem, experience the embarrassment of taking money from others, endure accelerated aging, and social disconnection, and finally get a sentence:
"Didn't you do nothing at home?
The hard work of stay-at-home mothers is hidden in trivial daily life, and it is difficult to be seen, and working mothers also have their own hardships.
Send the child in the morning, and then accelerate the sprint of 100 meters to check in, the child leaves school early in the afternoon and has the help of the elderly, but going home at night to tutor homework can directly make you doubt life.
A mother who is angry and crying when she is tutored with homework
Write three lines in an hour for an essay, and if you don't know, you think you want to create a three-line love letter?
10 + 3 = 13, 10 + 8 = 18 I said it 1,800 times but I don't understand, I can't hold back after enduring the pain of breast nodules and constantly doing psychological construction with myself, and finally I feel a little strange when I have an emotional breakdown.
Not to mention all kinds of hand-copied newspapers, punching cards, and shooting videos, these homework seems to be assigned to parents, and when I want to lie in bed after a tiring day, I really doubt my life in the face of a bunch of punch-ins.
When I met a child with a headache and brain fever, the hospital registration queue was the end of the world, and Thanos destruction mode was opened
And women in the workplace also face the topic of how to balance the workplace and family.
To be honest, how can it be balanced, it's just that there is no choice but to be forced to stay up.
And in the end, as the pressure on the family increases, many enterprising working women have to give way to the family.
Childbirth has become the first major obstacle to mothers' career promotion, and raising babies has become the second biggest killer of mothers in their pursuit of work.
The future of the career that was interrupted by childbirth is uncertain, and the first factor in finding a job in the future is not salary and development, but becomes: leave work early, have free time, and ask for leave.
During the Chinese New Year this year, I attended a class reunion and found that many female classmates had retired early......
Although no one stipulates that it is necessarily the mother who sacrifices her career, the traditional pressure of society still puts more pressure on women, and many end up becoming women who naturally dedicate themselves to the family.
In reality, there are many widowed marriages, and this kind of remark that everything is decided by the mother throws everything on the mother.
No one says that they are conscientious, and a little problem is all accusations, who is not crazy?
Reality plays out, and there is no harm without contrast
In contrast, a full-time housewife with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan has recently rushed to the hot search.
The reporter interviewed an amateur occupation on the street, interviewed a woman, and learned that she was a housewife.
At first, the answer was quite normal:
I haven't been to school for more than ten years after graduating from university.
It's all up to her husband.
Hearing this was a little sympathetic, but the answers that followed exploded more and more -
How much does it cost in a month?
In terms of family expenses, it is not much, 30,000.
What about the job?
Dancing, traveling, playing the piano, eating, drinking, and having fun, occasionally seeing the baby, very occasionally, mainly my parents take me, I am about one or two days a month
Where have you been now?
More than 50 countries, my goal is to play the world by the age of 60
Don't bring your family?
If you don't bring your husband, who will take him to make money? I don't bring my children, it's too troublesome!
What is the hardest part of this job?
...... (long thinking and silence) doesn't seem to be, my mother-in-law is very good to me, and my husband is very good to me......
Life always has to be a little frustrated, right? (The host is about to break the version)
If you have to talk about setbacks, sometimes it's not good to play the piano?
……
How old is this year?
40。
Off-screen, you can feel the interview's host shattering gently.
I don't give this example to advise everyone to return to the family, but to compare, look at the stay-at-home mother in front, the difference is not a little bit.
Look at this clear look, this looks like a face in his 20s.
It turns out that women are not emotionally stable, have harmonious families, and are young and beautiful, as long as these things are not just pushed to their mothers.
It's not just moms at the heart of the problem
Mom's mood is stable and unstable, it depends on what dad is like.
A knowledgeable mother must have a responsible father,
A wise mom has to have a dad who can make money.
To raise a good child, in addition to having an excellent mother, you must also have a father who loves his daughter-in-law.
But I have to admit that in the real world, many men are absent in the family.
Including in the background of our official account, the output of educational dry goods, parenting content, the vast majority of the audience, are mothers, and fathers are a scarce species.
When all the pressure in the family is focused on the mother, when everyone has a collapse, the mother is also a human being, and she can't carry all the grievances on her shoulders alone, and she can't bear all the instructions and obligations.
As a father, I also sincerely call on all fathers to give mothers a little more understanding and take more responsibilities that belong to the family.
The quality of a family can only be supported by two people together, one person will always tilt when he is strong, and two people can go further together.
Moreover, what really makes a family feel happy is actually a large part of the father's dedication.
Father's love is the mother's respect, the mother's respect is the son's peace, the son's peace is the family's peace, and the family and everything is prosperous.
I also want society not to put so much pressure on mothers, modern women have to bear too much, everything for their children is attributed to them, and they need to work together.
Besides, children are thousands of people, and one monkey is one tether.
We plant our causes, and when the time comes, we will see how the flowers bloom and how the trees grow.
Do your own thing, you don't have to be a perfect mother, but I hope you become a perfect self.