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"Grandma, what story are you telling me today?" I put my arms around my grandmother and rubbed her cheek, and she always had endless stories to tell.
"Let me tell you a story from my own experience today. Grandma smiled and said, "About the incident when I came back to your house ten years ago." "
Grandma's words brought back memories for me. Ten years ago, my grandmother suddenly left our house to live with my uncle. I was only six years old at the time, and my grandmother was the closest person to me, and I was saddened by her sudden departure.
"Grandma, why did you leave us?" With tears in my eyes, I hugged my grandmother tightly and refused to let go.
"Grandma has her own troubles, and you will understand later. "Grandma wiped away my tears and gave me an affectionate hug.
One day, ten years later, my mother suddenly received a call from my uncle and learned that my grandmother was coming back.
"Mom, what do you think?" My dad asked cautiously.
"What's the matter with her? After all these years of ignoring her, she wants to come back?" My mom threw down the spatula in her hand and walked out excitedly.
I've never seen my mom so angry. She is usually gentle and considerate, but at the moment her face is full of anger, and I feel a little scared. I know that the relationship between my mother and grandma has always been strained, but I don't know exactly why.
What kind of complicated feelings did my mother have about my grandmother? Why was she so angry? I couldn't figure it out.
"Dad, explain to me why Grandma left us, and why is Mom so angry?" I asked.
Dad sighed, it seemed that this was an unspeakable past.
"Your grandmother left our house for the sake of your uncle. Your uncle's husband and wife are not very good at business, and their business has been very stretched. Grandma saw that they were pitiful, so she offered to go to the uncle's house for a while to help take care of the children. "
"But why is it so long?" I asked, puzzled.
"The situation at your uncle's house is worse than you imagined. When my grandmother went, she found that they had a large amount of foreign debt, and the family was so poor that they couldn't afford anything. Grandma stayed to help pay off the debt, and lived there for ten years. Dad said helplessly, "Your mother has always blamed Grandma, thinking that she only cares about Uncle's family and turns a blind eye to us." "
I thought so, I see. I began to put myself in the shoes of my grandmother and my mother. Grandma is for the sake of the whole family, but it also makes my mother feel cold. As a daughter, my mother does have some grievances; But as a mother, grandma had to be poor.
Just as I was immersed in my thoughts, there was a commotion outside the door. I followed the prestige, only to see my grandmother and mother staring at the door, looking tense.
"Mom, you're back!" Mom's tone was sarcastic and her expression was angry.
"yes, I'm back. Grandma stubbornly looked back at her mother, her eyes like torches.
"Leave us like this for ten years, don't you want to go?" Mom scolded, "Now that you want to come back, do you think we're going to accept you happily?"
"I'm doing it for everyone's good!" Grandma also glared angrily, "Your uncle's family is so difficult, how can I turn a blind eye? "
"You're so willful! You don't take us seriously at all!" Mom scolded excitedly, her eyes gradually moistened, "Do you know how much I have missed you over the years? How many times have I needed you by my side? But you have left us ruthlessly!"
My heart struggled with contradictions. Intellectually, I can understand my grandmother's suffering, but emotionally, I can understand my mother's pain too well. One is a biological mother and the other is a kind grandmother, and I have a deep love and respect for both. Seeing them so tense made my heart feel like it was being torn apart, and I was in great pain.
"That's enough, stop it!" I stood up desperately and shouted to stop the argument.
Mom and Grandma were startled by my cry and both turned their heads to look at me. I watched my mother calm down, the anger in her eyes gradually dissipated, replaced by a sense of relief and exhaustion.
"Mom, sit down and catch your breath first. I helped my mother to sit on the chair and patted her on the back to comfort her, "Don't be so excited, have something to say." "
Grandma's eyes were also moist, and she stepped forward and hugged her mother tightly: "I'm sorry, I'm too selfish." I'm only interested in helping my uncle's family, but I ignore your feelings. "
I looked at the scene in front of me, as if I had traveled back in time and seen the scene when my grandmother left many years ago. It's just that this time the roles are reversed. It's the grandmother who is comforting the mother, not the mother crying and holding the grandmother like before. I realized that my mother had been burdened with guilt and regret over the years, and my grandmother had been tormented by guilt.
It was in this touching hug that I figured out a lot of things. The relationship between family members is fragile and needs to be cherished with sincere love; But at the same time, family members are not taken for granted, and they need to be tolerant of each other's shortcomings.
I stepped forward to join in this hug, and three generations hugged each other and cried, and the long-lost family affection came to my heart. We began to sincerely apologize, pour out our inner frustration to each other, and dissolve the estrangement and mustard that had been estranged for many years.
"I'm sorry, Mom, but I was too headstrong to ignore your feelings. Grandma said sobbing.
"It's because we're so selfish that we only care about ourselves and forget about your hardships. Mom choked up and apologized.
I know that even if I have made mistakes, as long as I tolerate them with love and repair them with sincerity, the family can eventually come together again. Home is our last safe haven, always as warm as ever.
And just like that, Grandma returned to our house. She still kept those lovely habits, telling me stories and preparing me a hot lunch as she used to. With my grandmother by our side, our family was filled with laughter again.
One day, I said to my grandmother, "Grandma, I've grown up a lot over the years and experienced a lot of things. Would you like to hear my story?"
Grandma smiled and nodded, and I began to tell her about my upbringing. When it comes to moving places, grandma will wipe away tears from the corners of her eyes; When it comes to happy things, my grandmother laughs with me.
"Grandma, I finally understand now. I said, "Although there will inevitably be conflicts in the family, as long as you heal with love, you will definitely be able to regain family affection." I'm glad you finally came back to us. "
Grandma gently stroked my face with her wrinkled palm, her eyes full of love: "Yes, home should be together." Our family should always be united and care for each other, which is the greatest happiness. "
Since then, our family relationship has become more harmonious. Mom and Grandma regained their mother-daughter bond, and three of us were happy and would get together every weekend to share the bits and pieces of life.
Sometimes I look at my grandmother's smile of relief, as if to say, "Although we have gone through some detours, we have finally found our way home." "Yes, home is our eternal haven, always warm.
One night a few days later, I was reviewing my homework in my study when my mother knocked on the door.
"What's the matter, Mom, you don't sleep so late?" I put down my book and asked with concern.
"What's the matter, Mom, is there anything else you have to do with your grandmother lately?" I asked tentatively.
My mother was silent for a moment before she said quietly: "Actually, I have always felt guilty about my grandmother's affairs. "
"Guilty? why?" I asked, surprised.
"When my grandmother left, I was very angry and said a lot of nasty things to her. Mom's eyes dimmed, "But she was under so much pressure for the uncle's family, but I only cared about my own feelings and didn't understand her situation at all." "
I remembered my mother's angry look when my grandmother left, and I did say something very hurtful. Grandma, on the other hand, never held a grudge against her mother's words, and still regarded her mother as the pearl of her palm.
"But Mom, you were also impulsive. I reassured, "Grandma, she can understand." "
"I know. Mom sighed, "But this kind of guilt has always haunted me and lingered." Grandma was so kind to us, but I hurt her, I'm so sorry for her. "
I looked at my mother's self-blame, and my heart was mixed. It turned out that for the past ten years, she has been feeling guilty and suffering. I never thought that the other side of the matter was like this.
"Mom, don't think so. I said firmly, "Grandma, she never blamed you, and you don't have to blame yourself so much." It is normal for everyone to be in a different situation at that time, and it is inevitable that there will be disagreements. The important thing is that now that we're back together, you should be relieved. "
"Mom, listen to me. I insisted, "Grandma, she is the most forgiving and kind person. Even if you said something hurtful, she never took it to heart. You see, when she came back, she cared for you as much as ever, and did not complain at all. This is Grandma, whose big heart embraces all the mustards and barriers. You should also be like her, let go of your past obsessions and cheer up again. "
My mother was deeply moved by my words, she wiped the tears from the corners of her eyes, and finally a smile appeared on her face: "You're right, I shouldn't always put a hat on myself." Grandma is the greatest person, her tolerance and love, I should learn well. Thank you, you relieved me. "
I happily hugged my mom and thanked her for her understanding and maturity. At this moment, I seemed to see a little change in my mother's heart. She seems to intend to be like her grandmother, with a broader mind, to tolerate the imperfections of the world and forgive the mistakes of others.
"Mom, this is your favorite mung bean cake, I made it for you. Mom put the plate in front of Grandma and looked at her expectantly.
"Oh, that's great!" Grandma happily praised again and again, "You are so sweet." "
As she spoke, she eagerly tasted it. Seeing her grandmother's satisfied appearance, her mother's eyes became extremely soft. I've never seen my mother so considerate and attentive to my grandmother.
"Mom, I actually have something to say to you. Mom organized the language and said solemnly, "I said so many ugly things to you back then, I was too impulsive, I'm really sorry." You've always been thinking about your family, but I'm only looking out for myself and not understanding your situation at all. You are the greatest and most tolerant person, and I should learn from you to treat those around you with a tolerant heart. "
Grandma was deeply moved by her mother's sincere words, and she stroked her mother's cheek with her hand, her eyes full of love: "Silly boy, when have you ever said something nasty? You are my dearest people, how can I blame you? You are the greatest pride of my life. "
"Alright, alright, don't say any more. Grandma shook her head again and again, "Let it pass." Now that we are reunited, we must cherish each other and heal each other's wounds with love, which is the most important thing. "
Mom nodded and hugged Grandma tightly into her arms. I was outside the door, watching this warm scene, and my eyes were moist. Yes, the feelings between family members are the purest, even if there will be some discord, but as long as you repair it with love, you will definitely be able to find the final destination.
Since then, Mom's attitude towards Grandma has changed a lot. She is no longer the self-respecting person she used to be, but has learned to be tolerant and considerate. Every time I see her intimately preparing snacks for her grandmother, or taking care of her grandmother's daily life, I can feel the breadth of her heart.
Once, my grandmother accidentally broke a vase, and my mother didn't say a word, and immediately squatted down to help clean up the debris.
"Mom, don't move, let me come. Mom said and cleaned it up herself.
Looking at my mother's attentiveness, I was deeply touched. In the past, she might have rebuked her grandmother for her carelessness, but now, she has learned to be tolerant and understanding.
It was at that moment that I realized the importance of family reconciliation. A warm and harmonious family requires everyone to have a broad mind and a humble attitude. Only by tolerating and understanding each other can we resolve the contradictions and mustards in the family, so that the family affection is still as warm as ever under the washing of the years.
I watched my mother and grandmother get along happily, and I had mixed feelings. They have overcome years of estrangement with tolerance and love, and I am sincerely happy for them. At the same time, I am also reflecting on my attitude towards my family.
I'm starting to hate some of my past practices. For example, when my dad bought a new TV, I blamed its brand and price; For another example, when my mother's food was not to my taste, I pushed the plate away, and the whole family was alarmed.
Thinking about this, I feel how naïve and selfish what I am doing. Mom and Dad work hard for us, and we should be considerate and grateful, not critical and blamed. But I always blindly pursue perfection, impose my own ideas on others, and have no empathy at all.
"Haven't I reflected on myself for a long time?" I thought to myself, "The pursuit of so-called 'rationality' and 'objectivity' has left behind the most precious aspects of human nature." "
Yes, the most important bond between people is tolerance and understanding. Without these, even intimate relationships would be in jeopardy. I am reminded of a saying: "Forgiveness is great because it gives you the courage to face the imperfections in life." "My attitude towards my family in the past lacked this kind of forgiveness and humility.
"I must correct this practice. I made up my mind, "From now on, I want to be like my grandmother, with a broad heart to tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of my family, and to resolve conflicts in the family with an empathetic attitude." Only in this way can our home be harmonious and beautiful, and never be broken. "
Just as I was making up my mind, my father suddenly pushed the door in a hurry, looking very excited.
"What's wrong, Dad, what's going on?" I asked hurriedly.
"Someone is coming! Something has happened to your brother!" Dad shouted anxiously.
My mother and I looked at each other, and our faces turned pale. Hurriedly ran out with his father, only to see his younger brother lying on the ground, unconscious.
"What's going on? Hurry, get to the hospital quickly!" Mom screamed in panic.
Fortunately, I arrived at the hospital in time, and the doctor said that the situation was not too bad. It turned out that the younger brother accidentally fell while playing basketball, causing a slight concussion. After a simple treatment, it was quickly fine.
Dad also breathed a sigh of relief, hugged her mother and comforted her: "It's okay, the child is fine, don't worry too much." "
Looking at my mom and dad with a sense of relief, I realized one thing: it turns out that the love between family members is so pure and deep. In the face of the distress of our loved ones, we will empathize, we will feel the pain of it, and we will even feel that our lives have been torn apart.
It is because of this selfless love that we will love and tolerate our family members wholeheartedly. Just like my grandmother, who did not hesitate to sacrifice her happiness for the sake of my uncle's family; Just like my mother has learned to be tolerant and understanding now, and to heal the rift between her and her grandmother with love.
The relationship between family members is fragile and needs to be cherished with sincere love; But family love is also great, and it can give us endless strength and courage. It is precisely because of the love of our family that we will not fall and get lost in the trough of life; It is because of the love of our families that we can pick ourselves up and move forward in the face of difficulties.
I looked at my brother sleeping peacefully on the bed with mixed feelings. If something really happens, our family will suffer an unbearable blow. It is the love between family members that makes us care so much about each other's safety; It is precisely this love that will allow us to cherish the present together with tolerance and understanding.
At this moment, the grandmother walked in on crutches, and she was relieved to see that her brother was safe and sound.
"Look, grandma, it's all because we're in a hurry. The mother smiled embarrassedly, "Fortunately, the child is fine." "
"yes, you're all too worried. Grandma nodded, then looked at me, "Do you understand? The reason why family members are tolerant and tolerant is because we have the purest and most selfless love between us." "
I nodded, deeply touched. Yes, the love of family is broad, and it can dissolve all mustards; Family love is also a source of strength that gives us the courage to face life's imperfections.