The whole class was bullied! 46 parents signed a petition asking the 7-year-old boy to transfer to another school: can it solve the problem?
A few days ago, a parent group in the first grade of a primary school in Wuhan suddenly exploded, because a parent broke the news in the group that his child was bullied by a new boy named Xiao Ming who was transferred this semester.
According to the parents' description, Xiao Ming actually kicked the child's private parts three times, causing the child to come home in unbearable pain. The news was like a bombshell that quickly caused an uproar among the entire parent group.
Parents have said that their children have also been bullied by Xiao Ming, some were pushed by him at the staircase, some were hit on the head by him with a book, and some were even thrown by him with a pencil.
Some parents have also reported this situation to the teacher, and the teacher also invited Xiao Ming's parents to the school to communicate face-to-face. At that time, Xiao Ming and his parents were sincere, and they also wrote a letter of guarantee, promising not to bully their classmates again. Seeing this, the parents of the victimized children chose to forgive when they considered that they were only first-grade children, knowing that they could correct their mistakes.
However, judging from the current situation, Xiao Ming's behavior has not been reined in, but has a tendency to intensify. According to the feedback in the parent group, almost all the students in the class were bullied by him. An introverted and timid little girl also revealed under the questioning of her parents that she was bullied by Xiao Ming almost every day, and was even threatened with "not allowed to sue, if you dare to sue, you will kill her".
In addition, Xiao Ming's behavior in class also seriously interfered with the learning of other students. He will speak loudly and even walk around the class, making it impossible for other children to pay attention. Some parents revealed that because they were worried about being bullied by Xiao Ming, their children had become tired of school, and even said that they didn't want to go to school.
If it's just a playful fight between children, or some occasional minor physical conflicts, it's understandable that some children are more active. However, in just two months after Xiao Ming transferred to another school, he actually bullied the whole class without exception, which is by no means explained by simple children playing with each other. His behavior is no longer a simple child's play, it has become unsettling.
Although there are teachers in the school who are in charge of supervision, teachers also have their own work and life, and it is impossible to follow every student 24 hours a day. This makes parents feel extremely worried about the safety of their children. They are worried that if they don't take action in time, Xiao Ming may continue his bullying behavior, causing psychological and physical harm to more children.
In order to nip this potential safety hazard in the bud, the parents of the 46 students in the class decided to take joint action after in-depth discussion and careful consideration. They jointly submitted an application to the school, asking Xiao Ming to transfer to another school in the near future.
They believe that this is the only way to ensure the safety and mental health of their children. At the same time, parents have also proposed to install cameras in classrooms, hoping to increase the monitoring of children's behavior and ensure that similar problems do not happen again.
Speaking of Xiao Ming, his mother was also full of worries. She said that although the child was only seven years old, he behaved unusually stubbornly and was even taken to the hospital for a check-up. Doctors diagnosed ADHD, but did not recommend treatment or issue a certificate to do so. Xiao Ming's mother believes that the child may have hit someone because he longed for the attention of his classmates, but his expression was not mature and appropriate.
The school also felt very helpless about this. In the face of many parents jointly asking Xiao Ming to transfer to another school, does the school have the right to force him to transfer? The school is well aware that such a student is a potential risk in the class, and hopes to find a better educational environment for him. However, compulsory education is a right of every child and cannot be taken away by schools. If Xiao Ming's parents insist on not letting their children transfer schools, the school cannot take coercive measures.
What's more, after Xiao Ming transfers, will his problems be solved? If he still beats people frequently in the new school, will he face the fate of being asked to transfer again? Such a vicious circle may make Xiao Ming feel that he is not accepted by society, which in turn will lead to more serious antisocial psychology.
Some parents may propose to send Tom to a special education school. However, is it really appropriate to do so? Xiao Ming only suffers from ADHD, not has an intellectual problem. Sending him to a special education school does not seem very appropriate.
Transferring schools is only a palliative treatment. For children with ADHD, parents should pay more attention to it, actively seek professional psychological institutions for adjuvant treatment, and carry out medication under the advice of doctors.
During this period, the school can ask Xiao Ming's parents to accompany him throughout the study to reduce the harm to other students. At the same time, the school's teachers also need to strengthen the supervision, guidance and education of Xiao Ming, form a joint educational force, and help Xiao Ming return to the normal development track as much as possible. This is a process that requires the joint efforts of parents, schools and society, and I hope that through everyone's cooperation, Xiao Ming can gradually overcome his own problems and grow up healthy and happy.