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Preface
When he was three years old, his parents chose to separate after their relationship broke down, and the custody of Xiao Lizhi was awarded to his father. Later, his father left the mainland for Hong Kong, but Xiao Lizhi was left in the mainland, and it was not until he was 20 years old that he got the opportunity to go to Hong Kong. When applying for jobs, I am often disliked as "old-fashioned" and "have never seen the world......
How did some earthy wisdom play their bad cards step by step and live their own wonderful life?
And my grandmother depends on each other
What Li Zhi wants to slowly heal with decades after becoming famous is the misfortune of her childhood.
Born in 1961, she ushered in the first hurdle in her life three years later: her parents divorced. Many people think that children can't remember what happened when they were young, but it's actually not true.
These feelings before the age of three are memories that are formed in infancy and can be retained forever.
Before the age of three, Xiao Lizhi's parents were in a state of quarrel for a long time, and they didn't care much about her. When her parents' relationship was shattered and unsustainable, they chose to divorce. And Xiao Lizhi's custody was also awarded to his father.
"There is no grandmother to this day", this sentence in "Chen Qing Table" is the truest and most appropriate portrayal of Li Zhi's childhood.
If his father had taken on his own responsibilities and played the role of "father" well, maybe Xiao Lizhi's childhood would not have been so bitter.
But it backfired.
Soon after the divorce, my father embarked on a solo journey to Hong Kong. Before leaving, he promised Xiao Lizhi: "I will take her to Hong Kong, and the father and daughter will live together." ”
But that's not the case.
After her father left, Li Zhi often fantasized about receiving a message from her father asking her to pack her belongings and go to live in Hong Kong. But after waiting for 17 years, her father did not mention anything about letting her go to Hong Kong.
For the past 17 years, Lizhi has been living with his elderly grandmother. In the vast world, only grandparents and grandchildren depend on each other.
Therefore, the warmest part of Lizhi's childhood memories belonged to his kind and elderly grandmother. And the lack of father's love and mother's love is an unattainable luxury in Lizhi's life.
Out of place with the outside world
In this particular period of the last century, "divorce" has been labeled as spurned. When it comes to divorce, people don't think that it is a brave pursuit of a new life, on the contrary, everyone agrees that it is a thing to blame.
Li Zhi has experienced the pain of the trauma of her parents' divorce since she was a child, and no one around her understands her. When I was in school, the boys in the class took pleasure in bullying Li Zhi when they found out about it.
After being treated unfairly for a long time, Li Zhi slowly became silent. The more she was silent, the more damage was inflicted on her.
It's like a vicious circle - Lizhi's silence is labeled as "eccentric" by the outside world, resulting in Lizhi having few friends.
And Li Zhi, who has no friends, doesn't know who to confide in with thousands of thoughts, so he has to swallow them all by himself and don't talk to outsiders.
Before the age of 20, in these years when you need to rely on adults to survive, everything you experience has become the background color of Lizhi's life.
Go to Hong Kong and study abroad
At the age of 20, the man with the title of "father" finally fulfilled his promise and took Li Zhi to Hong Kong.
It sounded like it would be a turning point in Lizhi's life, but her education was not high, and it was difficult for her to find any decent work at that time. After several rounds, Li Zhi finally found a job as a sales clerk.
Li Zhi's parents are both engaged in art, so the artist's genes make Li Zhi dream of "art garden rivers and lakes".
She decided to go to the audition.
However, the judges' evaluation of her as "too rustic" greatly frustrated her self-esteem.
Perhaps the grass that grows tenaciously from the cracks has a very strong vitality, and Li Zhi, who does not admit defeat, understands that only by improving himself first can he have a chance to change his future.
With this in mind, Lizhi begged her father to let her study abroad, and eventually, she was offered the opportunity to study at the University of San Francisco.
After completing his studies, Li Zhi returned to Hong Kong and began to work his career.
In the same year, she won the crown of "Miss Asia", changing her rustic appearance in the past, appearing in the public eye with a new attitude, and gaining widespread attention and love.
For a time, the name "Lizhi" spread all over the place.
Not satisfied with the status quo, Li Zhi set his sights on the film industry. In the early days of his transition to the film industry, Li Zhi was subjected to countless ridicule and disdain. During the filming of the movie "Tiger Guard", he was beaten miserably.
After surviving all the suffering, you can usher in the spring of wisdom.
This strong girl has always been criticized by the outside world, and many people jokingly call her a "film and television vase". But these voices did not knock her down, and in the years that followed, she starred in many classic movies one after another, and cooperated with major well-known movie stars such as Chow Yun-fat, Zeng Zhiwei, Jackie Chan, Stephen Chow and other popular stars.
A happy life with Jet Li
If you recall the emotional experience of her life, Li Zhi should not hesitate to say that Jet Li is the most important man in her life.
In fact, before meeting Jet Li, Li Zhi and gambling king Stanley Ho also had an encounter. At an awards ceremony, gambling king Stanley Ho was deeply attracted by Li Zhi, who had black hair and a bumpy figure at the time.
The gambling king, who is over 60 years old, even spent a lot of money just to dance with Lizhi. even moved the idea of marrying Li Zhi as the fifth aunt's wife.
But Li Zhi's beauty made the other four aunts and wives walk on thin ice, so they teamed up to make Li Zhi stumble. The gambling king Stanley Ho, who took pity on the jade, saw that Li Zhi was bullied like this, so he could only give up the idea of marrying Li Zhi and going home to marry Fang Ze, and left Li Zhi a breakup fee of 70 million.
Perhaps missing the gambling king Stanley Ho was the most correct decision made by Li Zhi. Because Lizhi's true love is at the next corner, quietly waiting for Lizhi to open it with his own hands.
Jet Li was a married man at that time, but Li Zhi's smile made Jet Li crazy. He was so fascinated by Lizhi that he even sacrificed his marriage for this.
After breaking up with the original partner, Jet Li launched a fierce pursuit of Li Zhi like artillery fire.
The first few failed relationship experiences made Li Zhi retreat, and she did not immediately agree to Jet Li, but made a ten-year appointment with the other party.
In the past ten years, Jet Li has had ups and downs in life, but he has always adhered to his commitment to Lizhi. Finally, ten years later, Li Zhi was moved by Jet Li's true feelings and agreed to Jet Li's marriage proposal. Bringing up this relationship again many years later, both of them have no regrets about what they did in the past.
At this point, Lizhi's life has been very complete. In the end, fate still has a trace of mercy on this girl who is as strong as a weed.
epilogue
There is a saying that "the good wind relies on its strength to send me to the clouds." It is precisely because of Lizhi that he firmly grasps every opportunity in his life that he can completely change his life that he can see at a glance.
If you say I'm a native of the country, I'll go abroad to study, suppress me in the movie, I want to prove my strength, let you be a kung fu superstar, I won't move, I have to prove your sincerity, I am willing to entrust myself to you.
This is the inspirational life of Lizhi!