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My name is Zhang Ying and I am 62 years old. At the beginning, I raised my son alone, and now he has a successful career and earns 40,000 yuan a month. Although I am old and in poor health, I still hope that my son can give me a little pension, 3,000 yuan per month. But my son said that he had his own expenses and could not give me so much money. As a mother, I was sad and felt that my son was too unfilial. I decided to write my own story and tell my heart, hoping that more people would understand my situation and that my son would be able to understand my situation.
My husband and I opened a small restaurant in the city, and although we were not rich, we were still living a fairly stable life. But when my son was just starting high school, my husband died of illness. Our family suddenly lost its breadwinner, and I had to quit my restaurant and start working to make ends meet. At that time, I had to take care of my elderly mother-in-law and support my son, who was still in school, and my life was even worse.
"Mom, you don't have to work so hard, I'm going to college soon, and I'll be filial to you when the time comes. "I remember when my son used to comfort me like that. Although he is still young, he is already very sensible and always tries to help me in any way. I once thought, with a child like my son, what else do I have to worry about?
But the reality is always so cruel. After my son went to college, my burden became heavier. I have to send him money every month and take care of my mother-in-law. In order to make ends meet, I had to look for a job again. At that time, I was running around and working every day, and I couldn't even take care of my own illness.
Fortunately, my son found a good job after graduating from college, earning 40,000 yuan a month. Our family's life has also started to improve. I took my mother-in-law to our home, hoping to take good care of her and let her live a stable old age. However, my son always excused himself for various reasons and was unwilling to give us some living expenses.
Once, I plucked up the courage to say to my son, "Son, you work so well and earn so much money every month, can you give us a little living expenses? "
"Mom, don't keep asking me for money. I have a lot of expenses myself, how can I have so much money for you. You and Grandma don't keep causing me trouble. The son said with a frown.
"But son, you don't know how difficult it is for us two old people to live every day. I'm not in good health right now, can you give us 3,000 yuan a month as pension?" I begged.
"3,000 yuan? Are you serious? Mom, how can you ask me like this? I still need to save money to buy a house and get married, how can I have so much money for you!" When my son heard my request, he immediately became unkind.
I felt so bad that tears welled up in my eyes. "Son, I brought you up, you went to school, and now that I'm old and in poor health, I really need some living expenses to maintain. Can you empathize with our situation?"
"Mom, you're really unreasonable. I'm also working hard for my own future, where can I get the money for you? You two old people, you should find a way to live by yourself, don't always rely on me!" The son shook his head and refused.
Hearing my son say this made me even more sad. I never thought that my hard work would bring him up, and now I would get such indifference. I said sadly, "Son, I just want you to understand our situation. We are two elderly people, and life is really difficult. You don't know, I'm worried about life every day, and my health has been bad. Can't you really come up with 3,000 dollars to feed us?"
The son was silent for a long time, and finally said coldly: "Mom, I know that you are in a bad situation now, but I also have my own focus in life. I can't spend all my money on you. If you are really struggling, then you can apply for the government's pension benefits. I can't give you 3,000 yuan a month, it's too much of a burden for me. "
When I heard my son say this, I immediately felt extremely sad and disappointed. I thought that if I raised him, he would be filial to me when he grew up. But now, he refused to give me a little living expenses. My heart was so painful that tears flowed uncontrollably.
"Son, how can you do this to me? I have brought you up, and I have never treated you badly. Now that I'm old and not in good health, can't you really give us a little living expenses?" I asked, choking up.
"Mom, I'm really sorry, but I really can't give you 3,000 yuan a month. If you two elderly people are really sad, you can apply for a government pension. I also hope that you can live a little better, but it is true that my current financial situation does not allow me to give you more. The son still said coldly.
I felt my heart tingle hard. My son didn't even want to give me 3,000 yuan, which made me feel as if I had been completely abandoned by him. With red eyes, I begged, "Son, please, can you give us 2,000 yuan a month? You see, I suffered so much for you. "
"Mom, I'm really sorry, but 2,000 yuan is too much of a burden for me. My current income still needs to be used to buy a house, get married, or something. I can't give you that much money every month. You two old people can figure it out for yourself, I really can't help you. My son still coldly refused my request.
My heart was in utter pain. My son wouldn't even give me 2,000 yuan, which made me feel as if I was worthless. I said sadly, "Son, I'm really disappointed. I thought you would be filial to me when you grew up, but now you don't even want to give me 2,000 yuan. I really feel so heartbroken, I have paid so much for you, and now you refuse to give me even this little money. "
Hearing my words, my son's expression seemed to change slightly. He was silent for a while, then finally sighed and said, "Mom, I know you're disappointed right now, but you have to understand my situation. I now earn 40,000 yuan a month, but I also have a lot of expenses and I have to save for the future. It's not that I'm disobedient to you, but I'm really powerless. I'll admit that I should also be more concerned about the lives of the two of you, but you must know that I am also facing a lot of pressure right now. "
Hearing my words, my son's expression slowly softened. He walked over and hugged me gently: "Mom, I know your current situation is not easy, but you have to believe that I will do my best to help you." I also hope that you can understand where I am now, and that you will give me some time to prepare for our future. "
I nodded, feeling my son's warmth. Perhaps, I was really too selfish to take into account his situation. We both have our own priorities in life, and I shouldn't always ask him to give me money. I am glad that I was able to communicate well with my son, let him understand my situation, and let me understand his difficulties.
After this conversation, my relationship with my son seems to have become more harmonious. We understand each other and cherish each other more. I found that I was really stressed out by asking my son to give me money. We should understand each other and work together instead of pushing each other into a corner.
Since then, I have learned to care more about my son's life and offer to help him with some of his expenses. I will cook food for him and help him with some household chores. Seeing me like this, my son also took the initiative to buy us some daily necessities, and would often care about the physical condition of me and my mother-in-law.
Our relationship has grown stronger and better, and I have become more and more grateful for my son's care for us. Even if he can't give us 3,000 yuan a month for the time being, as long as he can do his best to help us, I feel very satisfied.
I understand that young people nowadays are also under a lot of pressure and they also need to prepare for their future. As parents, we should give our children more understanding and support, rather than blindly asking them to provide for us. Only by understanding each other can our family be more harmonious and happy.
Today, my mother-in-law and I are living in a tight situation, but they are much better. My son will often buy us some necessities and will take the initiative to help us share some expenses. He will also take time to spend time with us and take care of our physical condition. Although he can't give us 3,000 yuan a month for the time being, as long as he can do his best to help us, I am very happy.
Maybe one day, when our son has a successful career and a more prosperous life, he will take the initiative to give us some living expenses. But no matter what, I will treat him with the greatest understanding and tolerance, and our relationship will become more and more harmonious.
During this time, my life with my mother-in-law has been much better, although it is still quite poor. My son will often buy us some necessities and will take the initiative to help us share some expenses. He will also take time to spend time with us and take care of our physical condition. Although he can't give us 3,000 yuan a month for the time being, as long as he can do his best to help us, I am very happy.
Our relationship has grown stronger and better, and I have become more and more grateful for my son's care for us. I understand that young people nowadays are also under a lot of pressure and they also need to prepare for their future. As parents, we should give our children more understanding and support, rather than blindly asking them to provide for us.
One day, my son came home with an excited expression on his face: "Mom, I have good news for you!"
"What's the good news, son?" I asked curiously.
"Mom, I've been doing a great job lately, and the company has decided to give me a big raise! Now my monthly salary has reached 50,000 yuan!" The son said excitedly.
When I heard the news, I was immediately very happy. "Son, this is amazing! I'm so happy for you. You've worked so hard and you've finally been paid off. "
"Yes, Mom, now I have more money to be filial to you and grandma. I know that it is really difficult for you two elderly people to live, so I decided to give you 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses from now on. That's always okay, right?" The son said with a smile.
I couldn't believe it for a while, and I was so moved that tears flowed. "Son, this is wonderful! You are such a good and filial boy. My grandmother and I can live in peace now. "
Then the son said, "That's right, Mom." I've also been thinking about buying you a tiny house recently so you can have your own space. I don't think you guys are living with me right now. "
When I heard my son's words, I was even more moved. "Son, you're such a good boy. We're already satisfied, you don't have to go out of your way to buy us a house. As long as you can give us 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses, my grandmother and I will be enough. "
"Mom, you're welcome. I also want to make your two old people's lives more comfortable. When I find the right house, I'll buy it for you. So that you can have your own living space. The son said with a smile.
I hugged my son and said gratefully, "Thank you, son." I really appreciate you so much. The relationship between our mother and son will never change. "
My son patted me gently on the back and said gently, "Mom, I know that you and Grandma have had a hard time these years. But from now on, I will be filial to you. You two old people, just enjoy it!"
When I heard my son's words, tears welled up in my eyes again. I felt both relieved and guilty because I had doubted my son's filial piety. It turns out that he has been silently carrying our lives.
Since then, my mother-in-law's quality of life and I has improved a lot. With our son giving us 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses, we don't have to worry about life anymore. We can have regular check-ups and buy some nutritional supplements to regulate our body. We can also go out for a walk or visit the homes of friends and relatives often.
With financial security, our spirit has become more positive and optimistic. We often chat with my son and share the details of life. My son also comes to visit us and plays games with us. Our relationship is getting better and better, and I am really grateful to have such a filial son.
Maybe it's God's favor that my mother-in-law's physical condition and I are getting better and better. We both do a lot of exercise at home and cook nutritious meals from time to time. With the support of our son, we really live a comfortable retirement.
In this process, I also understood a truth: filial piety is not only about financial support, but more importantly, it is about caring for parents and understanding their situation and needs. I believe that as long as we take care of our families with sincerity, we will be able to reap a happy family life.