As the years go by, we always face the end of life. Interestingly, in many families, it is often the husband who dies first, leaving the wife alone to face the loneliness of her old age. What is the reason behind this? Let's listen to the real voices of the three old people, and maybe we can find the answer from it.
1. Grandma Chen: A lifelong guardian
My name is Chen Guiying and I am 82 years old. My wife and I have been married for 60 years, and he passed away just last month. He has always been the pillar of the family, and no matter what difficulties he encounters, he is in the way. When he was young, he was busy working and taking care of his family, and after retirement, he still couldn't spare himself, helping with household chores and taking care of my food and daily life. He always said, "I will guard you until the last moment." ”
After his death, the home suddenly became empty. In the dead of night, I always think of his busy figure and warm smile. I understand that the reason why he went before me was because he had been silently guarding me until the last moment of my life.
2. Grandpa Li: The helplessness of health disparities
I'm Li Jianguo, and I'm 78 years old. My wife and I have never been in good health, but strangely, I always get back to health first. When I was younger, I suffered from high blood pressure and heart disease, but she has always been healthy. She has been taking care of me and supporting me all these years.
Last winter, I got sick again and was hospitalized. This time, she wasn't by my side as usual. It turned out that she had already died of illness a few months earlier. I was devastated and couldn't understand why she always went before me. Later, I realized that it was because she had been using her health to resist the invasion of illness for me.
3. Granny Wang: The influence of living habits
My name is Wang Xiulan and I am 75 years old. My wife and I are both retired teachers, and our lives have always been very regular. But he has a bad habit, which is to smoke. Even though I tried to persuade him many times, he couldn't quit.
A few years ago, he was diagnosed with lung cancer. Despite the treatment, his physical condition is still getting worse day by day. Looking at his painful appearance, I had mixed feelings in my heart. I knew that if he had listened to me and quit smoking, maybe we would still be able to enjoy life together. But it was too late, and he ended up going before me.
Conclusion: Cherish the present and spend your old age together
After listening to the true confessions of these three old people, it is not difficult for us to find that there are various reasons why the husband died first. Maybe it's because they've been silently guarding their wives, or maybe it's because of health differences and lifestyle habits. But whatever the reason, we should cherish the present moment and spend our old age hand in hand with our partner.
Life is short, and we cannot predict the future. But we can grasp the present, love with our hearts, and care for the partner around us. Let us cherish every time we spend together, so that our later life is full of warmth and happiness. Because in this world, there is nothing more precious than being with your lover until you grow old.
Epilogue:
As the years go by, many families will face a common question: why do most husbands die first? The true confessions of the three elderly people let us see the different reasons and the stories behind them. Whether it's caregiving, health differences, or lifestyle habits, we should cherish every moment we spend with our partners and fill every detail of our lives with love and care. Because in this rapidly changing world, it is undoubtedly an indescribable happiness to be able to spend our old age together. Let's work together to make this happiness last until the end of our lives.