Whether you want to admit it or not, a woman who is the lover of a married man also has material requirements.
There are mental factors as well as economic considerations.
Where the money is, there is love, if the man does not give you the slightest amount of money, it means that he does not care about you at all, and may even just treat you as a bed.
But in real life, there are always some women who have become lovers who are very depressed about this question: why is that man not willing to spend money for me, and how can I make a man pay more?
Women always think that when they are both in love and have an intimate relationship, men will naturally be willing to pay.
But men's ideas are very different, and the vast majority of married men are actually reluctant to spend money for women outside of marriage.
One
People are selfish in their bones, and when they pay the cost, they will definitely think about the benefits first.
Men, in particular, will make a clear distinction between sex and love. A woman outside of marriage, for a man, is just a freshness and excitement of life, and if she can do it with sweet words, she definitely doesn't want to pay a penny more.
For women outside of marriage, Lao Zheng has spent some money, but not much, and it is basically spent at the very beginning, and when the relationship between the two people tends to stabilize, they can not spend it without spending it.
Once, a woman outside of marriage wanted to buy a consumer-type medical insurance, more than 1,000 yuan, and wanted Lao Zheng to pay for it, but Lao Zheng also directly found a reason to refuse.
Lao Zheng thought very clearly in his heart:
Extramarital feelings are just to take what they need, and fools will be used as ATMs. It is not easy to make money in this society, and you have to support your own family, of course, it is impossible to spend a lot of money on a woman outside of marriage.
Two
Speaking of spending money on women outside of marriage, Lao Zhou said bluntly:
The running prey has been taken, which hunter have you ever seen that still keeps releasing bait?
In the early stages, men will naturally spend some money to impress you, which is driven by hormonal impulses and desires.
But after the real relationship, the novelty is gone, and the willingness to continue to pay is not so strong. If a woman makes excessive demands beyond the original agreement, the man will naturally refuse and may even retreat.
Lao Zhou's relationship with an extramarital woman is out of physiological needs. And the two have agreed in advance that they only seek temporary happiness and do not disturb their respective lives.
But men say that if they go to the kidney, they will only go to the kidney, and women, once they go to the kidney, they are easy to get distracted.
After getting along for a long time, women outside of marriage began to ask for more, hoping that Lao Zhou would provide physical energy, and that Lao Zhou would have material contributions and emotional companionship. The more the woman asked, the more upset Lao Zhou became, because everything was already beyond his imagination.
So slowly, Lao Zhou faded away from women outside of marriage. Although life and theory are very harmonious, which makes Lao Zhou a little reluctant, he must make a choice in the face of practical interests.
Adults, it's all very realistic.
Three
Between him and women outside of marriage, Lao Zhao paid some in the initial stage of getting along, but after that, it has always been women outside of marriage who are sticking upside down.
Regarding this kind of behavior similar to eating soft rice, Lao Zhao did not feel inappropriate, but was complacent:
A woman's willingness to spend money for you shows that she cares about you, loves you, or has higher expectations for you. It's all a sign that you're attractive as a man.
However, Lao Zhao is also well aware of his intentions for women outside of marriage.
To put it simply, in addition to being distracted by Lao Zhao, the bigger goal is to get on top by making emotional investment.
Lao Zhao saw it in his eyes and remembered it in his heart, but he didn't show it.
Of course, he couldn't let a woman get her wish. This is the bottom line he has set for himself.
In the eyes of men, the best lover is one who comes and goes when he is called, is well-behaved, sensible, and obedient. When they were together, they were two strangers.
Once the bottom line set by the man is crossed, the man will stop the loss at any time.
A man who has an affair outside of marriage is, in the final analysis, a man who has no sense of responsibility.
He neither loves his wife at home nor a woman outside of marriage, he only loves himself.
Therefore, it is wishful thinking to expect a married man to give time and money to love for you.