It is not so much that death is terrible, but that the bonds to the world before death are more distressing to him.
This boy, who has always been gentle and kind, finally decided to be "selfish" after hesitating for three hours, and he jumped from a tall building, and this year, he had just turned 28 years old......
When the tearful mother saw the 18-character text message left by her son Shang Yubo in her mobile phone, she fainted directly.
Why did he commit suicide after a successful career, and is his mother still so desperate?
Loneliness and freedom
People who are familiar with Shang Yubo say this about him, "He is a good person."
It is true that Shang Yubo is the kind of person who sticks a knife in both sides in his life, whether it is to his relatives or friends.
Although Shang Yubo is reluctant to take the initiative to speak most of the time, his personality seems to be very introverted.
But after getting acquainted with him, you will find that he is a boy who loves to laugh and is very good at taking care of people, so Shang Yubo has many good friends.
The reason why Shang Yubo has such a personality may have something to do with his experience when he was a child.
On May 31, 1983, Shang Yubo was born in Jingzhou City, Hubei Province.
Shang Yubo's parents are very open-minded, both engaged in artistic work, under the influence of his parents, Shang Yubo is also quite artistic, when he was a child, he loved to sing and dance, very lively.
Shang Yubo's parents were very business-minded, so they went to the sea to do business at an early age.
It was also from this time that they became busier and busier, and the time to accompany Shang Yubo became less and less.
Later, the family came to Shenzhen. The house is getting bigger and bigger, and the pocket money is getting more and more, but Shang Yubo is getting more and more lonely.
Because his parents threw him to the nanny most of the time, and Shang Yubo, who was bored, could only watch TV at home alone, which was not a good feeling.
Shang Yubo has not suffered in life since he was a child, but he lacks too much in the company of his parents.
It wasn't until he went to high school that life gradually became busy, and Shang Yubo gradually became cheerful.
At that time, Shang Yubo School formed a drama club. Shang Yubo is tall and handsome, his academic performance is very good, and his singing is good.
So he was arranged to play in the drama club to play a big play "Romeo and Juliet".
It was also this drama rehearsal that made Shang Yubo realize that he was indeed a little talented.
So although he did very well in cultural classes, he scored 670 points in the college entrance examination.
But Shang Yubo did not choose to take the path of studying, but filled in his volunteer to the Central Academy of Drama and became a student of the acting department.
Shang Yubo's parents have been free-range to him since he was a child, so they didn't interfere with him when Shang Yubo filled in the college entrance examination.
In this regard, Shang Yubo is free, but sometimes, excessive freedom makes Shang Yubo feel neglected, and loneliness always accompanies this teenager.
Whenever Shang Yubo has free time, he always likes to read quietly by himself.
The students of the acting department, most of whom are lively, Shang Yubo seems a little out of place in this group.
When other classmates went to audition to find a director.
Only Shang Yubo was quiet, did not fight or grab, and solidly entered the art world of performance, which also allowed Shang Yubo to accumulate very solid basic acting skills.
Because Shang Yubo is too quiet, his grades are really good.
So he didn't fight or grab, but he still served as a member of the study committee of the class. Because of his excellent performance in professional courses, Shang Yubo also won the "Excellence Award".
Shang Yubo's classmates include Zhang Xinyi and Niu Mengmeng, when they all started to take over the play.
Shang Yubo rehearsed the sketch over and over again in school alone.
Because Shang Yubo has a dream, that is, after graduation, he can enter the National Repertory Theatre and become a professional stage actor.
Unfortunately, in the end, Shang Yubo's dream did not come true, although he did not make it to the National Repertory Theatre.
Shang Yubo did not give up the stage of drama.
In his senior year, Shang Yubo invested in the creation of the drama "The Incident of the Bench", and his talent was fully displayed.
Since then, Shang Yubo has opened up a new world of his own, and he has frequently received invitations to perform all over the country.
Honor and sorrow
Shang Yubo never thought that he would become a popular star, but after receiving the invitation, he still performed step by step.
Because Shang Yubo has solid acting skills, he has also stepped out of his own style step by step.
In 2005, a "Army Special Combat Team" made the tall and handsome Shang Yubo familiar to the audience.
The following year, Shang Yubo cooperated with a group of celebrities Cecilia Cheung and others to perform "The Singer of the World".
Although Shang Yubo is not the leading actor, no matter which role he plays, he can always interpret the role perfectly.
Shang Yubo is serious, conscientious, he can act well in every play, and the audience is familiar with this actor.
In fact, when filming, Shang Yubo was very stressed, because he was too perfect for himself, and Shang Yubo always picked the script over and over again.
When others don't film and go to rest, Shang Yubo is still there to study the script, and he often stays up late, and over time, Shang Yubo's sleep problems become more and more serious.
Shang Yubo is a very sensitive person, every time he performs, he is not satisfied with a little detail, he asks the director to reshoot.
That is, because he is too demanding of himself, Shang Yubo's work pressure is much greater than that of others.
As Shang Yubo has received more and more honors, he reached the peak of his acting career in 2009.
Especially after starring in the idol drama "Du Lala's Promotion", he became popular with the role of Li Hongming.
On the one hand, Shang Yubo is familiar with the audience and tastes fame, but on the other hand, Shang Yubo is becoming more and more sad.
He realized that he might be sick, because at this time he couldn't sleep without sleeping pills, and when he was alone, Shang Yubo didn't even feel that it was interesting to live.
In this case, Shang Yubo took the initiative to come to the hospital. As it turned out, he guessed correctly, and after diagnosis, Shang Yubo suffered from major depression.
In 2009, depression didn't seem to be taken seriously by so many people, and many people even thought that depression was moaning without disease.
But only Shang Yubo himself deeply realized that this mental illness seemed to be more painful than the health disease.
When he couldn't sleep at night, Shang Yubo could only vent the unhappiness in his heart by hurting himself.
Shang Yubo is a kind person, he can't bear to hurt anyone with a sad heart, so he can only hurt himself.
Ending with "Rebirth"
After learning that he was sick, Shang Yubo was also actively treated at first. But the treatment of depression is not that easy.
On the one hand, Shang Yubo has a very busy job, and on the other hand, his mental state is becoming more and more stressful with the increase in work.
Shang Yubo tried countless times to save himself.
For example, he once invited his mother to accompany him on a trip. For another example, he once told his assistant, "I really want to get rid of depression as soon as possible." ”
Shang Yubo is a major depressive disorder, which is difficult to treat and easy to relapse.
On October 25, 2011, Shang Yubo finally did not resist the invasion of the disease, and after wandering on the roof of the building for 3 hours, he left a text message, and then jumped into it, ending it all completely......
"My death has nothing to do with anyone else, and I don't have to blame anyone. ”
This is Shang Yubo's last words to those who care about him, until the end of his life, he is still thinking about others.
As everyone knows, the mother who was in pain fainted directly after seeing her son's deathbed text message.
Shang Yubo's mother, whose name is Mao Aizhen, is a great and strong mother.
After being sad and sad, seeing that the outside world had been gossiping about the cause of Shang Yubo's death, she began to think deeply about why her son suffered from such an illness, but he was still misunderstood.
She began to try to understand what depression was, and she used another way to keep herself busy.
After investigation, she learned that the world of real depressed patients is so dark, and many people think that depression just can't be opened.
In fact, it is uncomfortable to get this disease, and that kind of discomfort is really not something that ordinary people can bear.
People with depression do not have it for no reason, it is likely that they do not want to talk about it in their hearts and are unwilling to talk to others.
After a long time, it becomes depressed, and slowly I become depressed and can't think about it, feeling that there is no meaning in living in the world, and finally seeking death to end my life.
Mao Aizhen walked into the group of these depressed patients, and she also decided to do something meaningful to make her son's death no longer so sad, and she wanted to use her son's experience to save those depressed patients.
In 2012, Mao Aizhen founded the "Shangshan Public Welfare Foundation", which is the first public welfare foundation in China dedicated to the treatment and prevention of depression.
She wiped away her tears countless times and went out in public to tell her son's story as a reminder to the families of people with depression that they can love them more.
Mao Aizhen, who is busy, uses her practical actions to let her son in heaven rest in peace, and also make the world less troubled by depression......