Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Fate is like a bridge that binds two strange families together.
When two people are fortunate enough to be married, in fact, it is the two families that establish a closer relationship.
The two families, who have become in-laws because of their children, should take care of each other, support and cooperate with each other. In this way, a large family will go further.
It's just that some families have many drawbacks. It can be seen to judge whether a family is worth marrying, and the following points should be paid attention to.
02, family style, whether it is positive
I have a cousin who was originally talking about marriage. But suddenly, there was no progress, and the cousin and the man also broke up peacefully.
The cousin's parents found out that her subject's father was of bad character and betrayed the marriage many times. My cousin's boyfriend has also been in love with several girls before, and his attitude towards feelings is too casual.
My cousin's parents were very afraid that after she got married, she would fall into various emotional disputes, so they decisively stopped their marriage.
The family style of a family is very important, if the parents do not maintain the marriage well and do not know how to love the family, then the character of the educated children will have great problems.
It is difficult to walk into a family with a bad family style and want to change them. In addition, you may be wronged and fall into a lot of unnecessary troubles.
No matter how good the relationship between the young couple is, it will be quickly worn out because of all kinds of running-in. Rather than choosing to break up after hurting each other deeper, it is better to end it early.
Before your children get married, you can talk more about family matters with your in-laws. A careful examination of the other party's conversation behavior and etiquette can determine whether his family's family style is good or not.
A family with a good family style speaks decently, has a sense of proportion, and is cultivated.
03, the reputation outside, whether it is good or not
Sheng Minglan in "Do You Know" was photographed by Liang Han's mother, hoping that Minglan could be her daughter-in-law.
Minglan inquired with her grandmother and found that Liang Han was not a good person.
Previously, he had been in love with a woman who was pregnant.
The reason why Liang Han's mother was anxious for her son to marry a wife was because she wanted to have a wife, so that he could take a concubine and marry the woman.
Minglan knew that when she entered the door, she was bound to not gain a firm foothold, so she had to deal with this matter, and it would be difficult. And Liang Han is very attentive and has a bad reputation outside.
Later, her grandmother rejected the proposal on her behalf.
A person's reputation outside the home is not good, and it is necessary to be more cautious to establish a more intimate relationship with him.
If it is, the reputation of the in-laws is not good, it means that the family style of his family is not good, and the character needs to be considered.
When children get married, as parents, they should inquire about the people and things related to their family and listen to what others say.
The better the family, the better the family, will inevitably treat others appropriately and be recognized by others. Such a family deserves to be married.
04. Family, do you have any vices?
Shakespeare said, "Bad habits can always hinder you from becoming famous, profitable, and enjoying yourself." ”
A family has a bad life, often because there are too many vices.
For example, men are lazy, do not seek to be motivated, only know how to mess around, have no income, but have a lot of expenses.
Women have a bad attitude towards life, the house is not tidyed, it is messy, and everyone lives in a chaotic environment.
Even, there are men in the family who are patriarchal and machismo.
When children are about to get married, they should ask their in-laws whether they have bad habits and whether they are reliable.
In many cases, as long as one person in the family has bad habits, it will affect the whole family. If a daughter marries into such a family, she will also be greatly implicated.
Even, every day will face endless quarrels, and the family will not be at peace.
Family members have good habits and good morals, and they can often get along better, and they can also unite together and run the family well.
05. Summary
Shakespeare said: "An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of fighting and not being able to live in peace, on the contrary, choosing a satisfactory spouse will lead to a hundred years of harmony and endless happiness." ”
In the world of feelings, loving someone is always very emotional. From the bottom of my heart, I will feel that he is good at everything.
However, to get married, be sensible.
To treat yourself as a bystander, to inspect the other party, but also to understand his family style and family motto, to see if the other party's family gets along harmoniously.
Eliminate hidden dangers, reduce risks, and it will be less difficult to run in with each other, and the happiness index will be higher.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.