Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Some people, like cats who have nowhere to warm on a cold winter night, especially crave love and warmth.
Most of the people who "lack love" do not have a happy childhood, and they have not experienced the feeling of being cared for and trusted. I hope I can make a lot of friends and have a lover who will be with me for the rest of my life.
Men, like women, also crave warmth and desire to be loved. Men will also show a "lack of love".
If a man treats you like this, it is a manifestation of "lack of love".
02. In front of you, it is very humble
A buddy who looks very ordinary, with small eyes and a big nose, for which he has always had low self-esteem. At the age of thirty-four or five, I found a partner.
He spoils his girlfriend to the bone. I will definitely report when I go out, send her many messages every day, and care about whether she has eaten or not, and whether her work is going well.
When his girlfriend takes him to meet his friends, he always refuses, afraid that he will not be approved by them.
To talk about it, go and meet her parents, relatives, and friends. He brought gifts to each of them, and the whole person was very nervous.
After a meal, he either served tea or poured water, and rarely sat back on the stool.
His humble appearance made his girlfriend feel very distressed. said that it would definitely be doubly good to him and give him more security.
When a man lacks love, he will become very humble and please everywhere. Because I am afraid of losing, I try to perform and pamper you.
Regardless of men and women, they rarely feel warmth, and once they are loved, they want to hold on to this love tightly, and try their best to be good to you, afraid that they will lose.
Zhang Ailing said: "If you like someone, you will be humbled to the dust, and then bloom." ”
In front of you, he can't help but be courteous, he pleases you at every turn, and gives you whatever you want.
Even if you give him very little, he is very content, and will give everything for you to keep this little warmth.
03. I'm afraid that you will be angry, so be careful to please you
A man who lacks love will please you with his heart and maintain a relationship with his heart.
If you have a good impression of him and give him a little love, he will give you more emotions in return, and he will treat you as the only sustenance.
If there is a dispute between you, no matter who is right or wrong, he will compromise first and apologize to you.
He is afraid that you will choose to leave because you are angry, and subconsciously takes care of your emotions.
In his eyes, life can go on without you. You are still happy to pursue your dreams, make new friends, and have more possibilities in life.
And if he loses you, he loses all the color in this world. Without you, life is only boring, and you can no longer find a reason to be happy.
A man who lacks love regards you as his salvation, and it is easy to become obsessed and blindly cater to you.
When you are angry, he will panic and use his housekeeping skills to amuse you. For you to become without a bottom line and principles, even lose yourself, and just want to keep you by his side.
It has been said, "The one who truly appreciates you is the one who appreciates your pride, not your pretense of humility or pretense of likability." ”
If a man is like this, encourage him to be optimistic and not always embarrass himself.
Feelings are balanced and mutually respectful, so that they can get along comfortably and love for a long time.
04. I rely on you very much and have a strong desire to control
Xie Wei in "Ning An Like a Dream" likes Jiang Xuening, he can't see Jiang Xuening and Yan Lin laughing and playing, and he is even more jealous that her heart belongs to Zhang Sha.
The lack of love made him crazy and jealous, and confessed to Jiang Xuening again and again.
In order to save Jiang Xuening, he smashed his favorite piano, ruined his hand playing the piano, and almost died because of her, so that Jiang Xuening could not repay it for the rest of his life.
knew that Jiang Xuening and Zhang Sha met on a rainy day, and chatted for a long time. He began to go crazy, wanting to trap her by his side for the rest of his life.
A man who lacks love is particularly possessive, and will regard the opposite sex who approaches you as an enemy, and does not want anything to ruin your relationship.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "If I don't love you, I won't miss you, I won't be jealous of the opposite sex around you, I won't lose my self-confidence and fighting spirit, and I won't be in pain." If only I could not love you, that would be great. ”
After going through many hardships and tribulations, he will treat you as one of the few sunshines in his life.
Leaving you don't know how to live, just want to hold on to you.
Like, as long as he can be with you, he is willing to give up anything. I am very dependent on you and longing for your love.
05. Summary
People who lack love are distressing. However, it is often because of "too much force", which leads to a lot of pressure between the two people.
In the face of a man who lacks love, a woman should guide a man to love correctly and give enough love and warmth. At the same time, both men and women need to know how to protect themselves and find the right way to get along.
Manage love, don't please at every turn, be too humble, don't suffer from gains and losses, and don't let the desire to control because of the fear of loss. If two people don't get along well, love can't last long.
If you love, you must learn to grow and learn to love well.
Improving yourself, having a stronger ability, and releasing your own personality and charm will make women more fascinated and excited.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.