In a person's life, there is nothing more helpless than birth, old age, sickness and death. When the curtain of life slowly falls, the aftermath becomes a subject that the living must face. What should be done with these relics so that they do not become a burden to future generations?
Memories left behind
Times are changing, but the attachment to family is eternal. In our lives, the death of the elderly always brings a burst of sorrow, like the fall of flowers after the spring breeze, which makes people infinitely melancholy.
The objects they left behind are like a river flowing quietly, silently infiltrating our hearts. However, there are always things that we need to deal with carefully, and they may be clothing, personal belongings, or even outstanding debts.
First, let's talk about the worn clothes. They hung silently in the closet, as if the old man was still there, waiting tenderly.
But as time passes, colonies on clothing grow quietly, and damp memories become heavy. The space in our homes is occupied by them, and our hearts and minds are bound by these wordless narratives.
Sometimes, it may be okay to leave one or two as a memento, but if we let ourselves be drowned in this sea of emotions, then how can we welcome every new sunrise?
Let's talk about those personal special items, such as the elderly's watches, glasses, and even their daily crutches.
Each of these objects carries the breath of the elderly, and every touch is like walking through a tunnel of time, returning to those warm pasts.
In the end, we have to face the problem of debts left by the elderly. In our Oriental culture, the word "righteous debt" carries a heavy weight, and debt is not only about the exchange of money, but also about the emotional bond between people.
If the old man owes something during his lifetime, then as future generations, we should take this responsibility and repay every penny cleanly.
Any form of processing is not the same as forgetting
In the process of dealing with these relics, we need to have enough wisdom and courage.
Wisdom lies in discerning which memories are worth cherishing and which are burdens that should be let go;
Courage is embodied in facing reality and untying the shackles of emotion. This way of dealing with the deceased is not only a respect for the deceased, but also a kind of wisdom in life.
We can't allow ourselves to be caught up in endless sorrow, which will only cast a shadow over our hearts and lose sight of the other good things in life.
We need to learn to let go, learn to say goodbye, and learn to remember those who gave us love and warmth in a healthy way. Because, whether it was past, present or future, we need to have a relaxed mindset to face everything in life.
We need to understand that the relics of the deceased are a symbol, an emotional sustenance, not the whole of life.
We need to find a balance between remembrance and moving forward, not forgetting the way we came, but also courageously moving into the future. Such a life will not disappoint the hope brought by every sunrise.
In the process of disposing of relics, we can find many ways to remember our loved ones, while also releasing items that have a potential burden on our lives.
Remembrance with practical actions
For clothing and personal items, we can invite family members to tidy up together. Based on their relationship and memories with the deceased, each person chooses one or two items that are particularly meaningful to keep as a souvenir.
Leftover items can be donated to those in need, or disposed of appropriately. This not only reduces the burden on the home, but also allows these items to be reused by those who need them, renewing their value.
For those items that have high sentimental value but little actual use value, we can creatively repurpose them. For example, making the clothes of the elderly into small commemorative items, such as quilts, pillows or toys, not only preserves the memory, but also gives the object a new lease of life.
The debts left by the elderly should be dealt with legally and reasonably. If the economy allows, it should be repaid as soon as possible, and if conditions are limited, a settlement can be negotiated with creditors. At the same time, they should also learn to protect their rights and interests from a legal perspective and avoid unnecessary financial burdens.
In the face of the death of a loved one, psychological adjustment is equally important. Emotional grief can be dealt with through talking, writing, or participating in a support group, and seeking professional counselling is also a good option.
Most importantly, we should pass on the spirit and teachings of the deceased. Integrate their life wisdom and attitude towards life into our daily lives, and let their good qualities be reflected in our actions.
In front of the relics of the deceased, we are both guardians and inheritors. What we protect is the memories and emotions associated with these objects, and what we inherit is the spirit and vitality of the deceased.
We need to learn to find a healthy balance between remembrance and moving forward, so that life can continue to move forward between the warmth of memory and the hope of the future.
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