Ladies and gentlemen, before reading, I would like to remind you that although this article is interesting and philosophical, it is for entertainment reference only, and you should not be superstitious!
"People are in good spirits when they are happy", and adding joy to the family often makes people rejoice. As Du Fu wrote in his poem, "But seeing where his wife is sorrowful, he is ecstatic in the poems and books", and the joy when the happy event comes is overflowing and difficult to suppress.
There are two sides to everything in the world, and some things that seem to be festive may hide hidden worries behind them. It's like the old story of Seon's lost horse, when Seon's horse was lost, and people came to comfort him, but he said, "Why can't this be a good thing?" Later, his horse not only returned, but also brought back a horse of the Hu people.
Good things and bad things can be transformed into each other, and there may be unknown hidden worries behind happy events.
In the Tao Te Ching, it says: "Blessings and misfortunes are relied upon, and misfortunes and blessings are lurking." "Even seemingly pure joyful events can have hidden disadvantages.
As the ancients said, "happiness begets sorrow", and excessive joy can sometimes lead to unexpected tragedies.
"There is no such thing as a free lunch", and any seemingly easy happy event may come with a corresponding price.
Let's talk about the "happy events" that appear in the family, in fact, they may be the five situations of "worry".
Yixi: A sudden windfall
"There will be no pie in the sky", the crystallization of the wisdom of our ancestors, warns us that there is no good thing in the world that is not earned for nothing.
However, when a large windfall suddenly comes, like a rainfall from heaven, people are often easy to get lost in this unexpected joy.
Thinking of the ancient legend of Shen Wansan, who became rich overnight, but it also caused endless troubles and disputes. His story tells us that the sudden windfall is not always gospel.
Nowadays, when someone gets rich overnight because of a jackpot or an unexpected inheritance, this seemingly pie falling from the sky may actually be sugar-coated cannonballs.
As revealed in Crime and Punishment, the temptation of wealth is often accompanied by moral tests and inner struggles.
The ancients said: "A gentleman loves money and takes it in a good way." "In the face of a sudden windfall, we should keep a clear head and be wary of the pitfalls. You must know that "people are not rich without windfalls, and horses are not fertile without night grass", but we should understand the truth that "windfall is easy to obtain, but happiness is difficult to enjoy".
Therefore, when the windfall comes, we need to be careful about this unexpected surprise with a heart of awe. Don't be blinded by immediate interests because of small mistakes, and ignore long-term planning and inner peace.
Let's take a look at a story:
Wake up from a dream and find the truth
In the ancient land of China, there is a place called "Yougu Town". The inhabitants of the town live in harmony and live a plain and quiet life. In Yougu Town, there is a young man named Xiao Chuan, who is a person who likes to daydream, always fantasizing about one day encountering a windfall from heaven and living a life of fine clothes and fine food.
One day, Ogawa heard from the old people in the town about an old legend that there was a pie in the sky called "Yunwai Cake", which was made by the gods, and anyone who was lucky enough to eat it would get infinite wealth and luck. After hearing this, Ogawa felt that this was a great opportunity for him to change his fate.
So, he put down the work in his hand and stayed on the top of the mountain all day, looking up at the starry sky, looking forward to the legendary "cloud cake" falling from the sky. Yet, day after day, night after night, nothing happened except for the occasional few clouds that drifted by.
Ogawa's family and friends are worried about him and urge him to give up on this unrealistic fantasy, but Ogawa is stubborn and convinced that his wait will pay off.
Until one day, a well-traveled Taoist priest passed by Yougu Town, and after hearing the story of Xiaochuan, he decided to wake up this obsessive young man. The Taoist priest found Xiao Chuan and said to him, "Young man, do you know that 'Heaven rewards hard work'? If you really want to live a good life, you should keep your feet on the ground and create with your own hands. ”
After the Taoist priest finished speaking, he took out a seed from his sleeve and handed it to Xiao Chuan: "This is a magical seed, as long as you water it with your heart, it can bear the most precious fruit in the world." But remember, it takes your hard work and sweat. ”
Ogawa took the seed and thought for himself. After thanking the priest, he returned home and planted the seeds in his backyard. From then on, he no longer daydreamed, but carefully tended this magical seed every day. Watering, fertilizing, weeding...... He does everything himself.
Finally, on a crisp autumn day, the seed blossomed into a beautiful flower and bore a huge fruit. The fruit exudes an enticing aroma that attracts onlookers from all over the village. Some people recognize this as an extremely precious "golden fruit" and are willing to pay a high price to buy it.
With this golden fruit, Xiaochuan not only earned a lot of gold and silver, but also won the respect and praise of the villagers. He deeply realized the true meaning of "pie in the sky" and "hard work to get rich". Since then, he has become more industrious and pragmatic, leading the villagers to work together to reclaim wasteland, grow crops, and raise livestock...... As a result, the town became richer and more prosperous.
Erxi: A sudden visit from a nobleman
"Wouldn't it be nice to have friends from afar?" is a saying of the ancients that expresses our joy and expectation for visitors from afar. However, when there is a sudden visit from a noble person in the family, and the noble person shows excessive enthusiasm and even throws up some seemingly tempting cooperation or investment opportunities, we need to be extra careful.
Looking back at history, there is no shortage of stories of calamity caused by gullibility. For example, Lu Bu during the Three Kingdoms period was once confused by Chen Gong's excessive enthusiasm and finally fell into a predicament.
This warns us that when faced with a surprise visit, we must be cautious about judging the true intentions of a noble person.
"The Yellow Emperor's Neijing" has a saying: "False evil and thief wind, avoid it." The "false evil and thief style" here can also be extended to those things that seem beautiful but may bring harm.
When a noble person's sudden visit brings an attractive opportunity, we should remain vigilant and make a prudent choice just as we avoid evil and thieves.
Modern people often say, "There is no such thing as a free lunch." This quote reminds us that any good thing that seems easy to come by can come with risks and costs. Therefore, in the face of the enthusiastic visit of a noble person, we should keep a cool head and not be deceived by the superficial enthusiasm.
We must protect our own interests and happiness, so that we can be invincible in complex interpersonal interactions.
Three joys: children are successful in their studies
"Hope that the son will become a dragon, and the daughter will become a phoenix", this is the ardent expectation of every parent in the world. When a child succeeds in his studies, enters a prestigious school, or wins an award, the joy of the family goes without saying.
There is a cloud in the "Book of Songs": "If you cut it, you can learn it, and if you think about it, you can grind." It means that the sophistication of knowledge needs to be tempered a lot. The children's academic achievements are the result of their tireless and diligent learning.
However, there is also a folk proverb: "The rafters that come out of the house rot first." "The higher the achievement, the easier it is to become the target of public criticism.
As revealed in Crime and Punishment, human nature is complex, and when a person is too good, he often invites the envy and resentment of others. Therefore, "when the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it, and when it is piled up on the shore, the flow will be turbulent, and if it is higher than the man, the crowd will not." ”
While we are proud of our children's achievements, we should also teach them to be humble, not to be complacent, and not to boast about their achievements.
Be a low-key person and do things in a high-profile manner.
While sharing the joy of our children's success, let us also remind them to keep a normal heart and move on.
Four joys: Sudden recovery from illness
"Illness comes like a mountain, illness goes like a thread", this old proverb expresses the speed of illness and the difficulty of recovery. However, when the disease suddenly healed, as if it disappeared overnight, the family was filled with joy and happiness.
The joy at this moment is like the hearty dripping of "the spring breeze is proud, and you can see all the Chang'an flowers in one day".
But in this time of jubilation, we need to remember the ancient adage that "when things go wrong, there must be demons".
If the disease suddenly disappears without systematic treatment, there may be hidden hidden worries behind this sudden "happy event".
Is it a misdiagnosis of the disease, or is it a cover-up of the truth, or is there some other unknown variable in the body? All these require careful consideration.
In ancient and modern folk customs, the cure of illness is often regarded as the favor of God, but the "Yellow Emperor's Neijing" warns us: "It is better to prevent it as soon as possible after the disease has become a cure." ”
In the face of sudden recovery from the disease, we should remain vigilant and not take it lightly. It is advisable to go to the hospital for a follow-up and diagnosis in time to ensure that the body is truly recovered.
"Be careful to sail the ship of ten thousand years. "On the road to health, we need to remind ourselves to keep our bodies attentive and caring.
Five joys: old friends who have been reunited for a long time
"It is enough to have a confidant in life", this is the inner emotion of many people. When you reunite with old friends after a long absence, the joy is like a flower blooming in spring, which is refreshing.
In the midst of this joy, we also need to be vigilant.
We often say to children: "The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the heart over time", and the passage of time often changes many people and things. Years of separation may make old friends who were once familiar become strangers, and their appearance and excessive intimacy, enthusiasm, and even some unreasonable requests or suggestions should arouse our vigilance.
As the famous foreign book "The Weakness of Human Nature" said: "Beware of those friendships that suddenly heat up." "When facing old friends who have been reunited for a long time, we must not only miss the past friendship, but also see the reality in front of us.
"Crime and Punishment" also reveals the complexity and changeability of human nature, and people can change for various reasons, even to the extreme.
Therefore, the old adage that "the heart of harming others is indispensable, and the heart of guarding against others is indispensable", which still has profound practical significance.
Although we are reluctant to hurt others, we should always be vigilant against possible harm.
In the face of sudden visits and abnormal behaviors of old friends, we should remain calm and rational, not blindly follow, and should not easily disclose personal information or make decisions that are detrimental to our own interests.
The ancients said: "Blessings and misfortunes depend on them, and disasters and blessings depend on them." ”
In the face of happy events at home, we should not only be happy, but also remain vigilant and rational, and not be confused by the superficial joy and ignore the hidden worries behind it.