Today's hot topic: Parents who like to preach, but can't provide any help to their children, are they too incompetent?
I swiped a video today, about a 24-year-old boy who just graduated from college, and had a serious conversation with his father at home, and his father probably meant to say: You have graduated from college now, not a child, we are getting older and older as parents, and the family conditions are not good, and we can't give you much help, and you will have to rely on yourself for everything in the future...... The whole conversation atmosphere was very tense, which caused huge psychological pressure on the guy, and the old father in the video was full of powerlessness and worry during the conversation!
The original video is below, which can be watched here↓
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After watching this video, some netizens said: The father said a lot of heavy topics, but it has no practical meaning at all, it will only invisibly increase the pressure on the child and shorten the distance between him and the child.
Some netizens said: This father didn't say anything serious, just a normal communication between men, the son is not poor for his father, and he should have his own plan in his twenties, and there are few opportunities for heart-to-heart communication between father and son in this life, please cherish it!
Let's take a look at what netizens have to say about this matter.
Maybe it's because he is like this that he will tell the child to work hard and not to be like him.
The father just voiced his own worries, not expecting to put a burden on the child's mind.
In fact, the father also has a sense of powerlessness in his heart, and he is unwilling to let his child be mediocre.
What this father said may not be right, but he also has a good heart for his children.
The essence of the problem lies in the fact that parents themselves are not up to the same level, and they do not require their children to meet their expectations.
There is no one to guide you in life, and when you figure it out, you will have doubts about the world.
From their own point of view, this may be the safest, after all, life is not a TV series, life is very real.
This is determined by cognition, and many things they don't know how to do, they just say what they think.
It's not that the requirements are high, maybe young people just want to be encouraged and motivated, rather than listening to the big truth!
In fact, the children know all the things they are talking about, and there is really no need to emphasize them repeatedly.
This is the normal state of parents in ordinary families, and they can't give substantial help, so they can only talk about the truth.
When the child grows up, the parents always feel that it is time for them to do something for the family.
Maybe that's what Dad wants to express in his heart, and it's hard to say it directly.
The classic mantra of parents: You look at other people's children......