Do you know what the older generation thinks now? Their attitude towards buying a cemetery has changed dramatically.
I remember that in the past, if an old man died, the family would definitely have to be busy looking for a cemetery and worrying about the tombstone. But this trend is no longer good, and many old people prefer to choose other paths. There are many reasons behind this, just look at what these old people have to say, and you will understand.
This change doesn't happen overnight, and there are so many stories behind it that we should savor. Time pushed back to more than ten years ago, at that time, every family thought that it was a matter of course to buy a cemetery for the elderly. If you think about it, isn't it a lifelong thing to buy this cemetery? More and more old people are starting to have new ideas.
Not many people really paid attention to this. The old man in the family said that he would not buy the cemetery, and the family thought it was a joke. But after a long time, this matter had to be taken seriously. There is an old lady who has a house full of children and grandchildren, but she said to her family: "After I die, I will be cremated directly, and the ashes will be scattered." As soon as these words came out, the family was in an uproar.
This is not an isolated case. More and more old people are starting to say that things after death are simple. Some elderly people even began to prepare in advance, writing wills, saying that they did not want cemeteries and did not let their children worry about this. They feel that they can be happy when they are alive, and things are simpler after death, so why drag their children down.
Economic pressure, that's a big problem. I remember one time, I was in the park listening to a few old people chatting, and they said that the current cemetery prices are simply outrageous. A small place can easily cost tens of thousands, or even hundreds of thousands, which is too stressful for retired old people. How could the money they had saved from a lifetime of hard work and thrift be used to buy a cemetery?
There is also an old man, who said it very thoroughly: "Our generation has experienced so much, how can there be so much exquisiteness." After death, it's all a piece of dirt, so why bother to make it so complicated. His words silenced the people around him. Thinking about it this way, he really said it.
Moreover, don't look at the old people nowadays, they are not the kind of people who only know tradition and don't know how to be flexible. Some elderly people began to pay attention to environmental protection, and they thought that wouldn't it be good if the cremated ashes could be returned to nature?
The old people said, "One generation is close, two generations are far away, and no one cares about the three generations." "What this means is, after a long time, who remembers whom? If no one takes care of the cemetery, won't it be deserted? In the end, won't it also have to be dug up? This kind of cycle makes many old people feel that it is unnecessary.
I remember a story told by an old man. He said he had a colleague who, with his wife, bought a small lattice at a well-known temple to put his ashes on. But not long ago, the temple said that it would be repaired, and they needed to bring the ashes back. Now it's okay, the children are busy, and they have to find a place to put it.
These stories and circumstances make people have to revisit this issue. Society is changing, concepts are changing, and the old people's ideas are naturally different. They are more rational, more realistic, and more aware of the preciousness of life. They don't want their children to bear a heavy burden on their own death, and they don't want their death to become a financial burden.
Such a change may seem incredible to some people who stick to tradition, but it is true. Although the path chosen by the elderly is somewhat inconsistent with the traditional concept, it is closer to reality and more reflects the care of humanity and the pursuit of quality of life. For them, the cemetery is no longer a necessity after death, but an option to choose from.
With the passage of time, we will find that these changes are not accidental, but the inevitable result of the development of the times. People are beginning to look at life and death with new eyes, to examine deep-rooted traditions. And these old people are the forerunners of this trend of thought. In their own way, they show us a new attitude towards life and a peaceful attitude towards death.
This change also reflects the deep thinking of the elderly about social resources. They know that every cemetery is a precious land resource. In today's growing population and increasingly scarce land, they are even more reluctant to occupy these resources. Their choice is also invisibly promoting the development of society in the direction of more resource-saving and environmentally friendly.
The changes we're seeing may be just the tip of the iceberg. This is not only a personal choice of the elderly, but also a microcosm of social change. Their actions silently affect the people around them, and perhaps in the future, we will see more people join such ranks. And these old people are using their practical actions to redefine the meaning of life and the value after death.
This change in the old people also makes us start to think about what is the dignity and value of life? Is it only by owning a cemetery that a person can he prove that he has lived? Obviously not. The dignity and value of life lies not in a piece of land after death, but in the fullness and happiness of every day while living.
This new concept of life and death is quietly spreading. In today's society, we need such a voice, and we need more people to think about this issue. The choices of the elderly may be able to provide us with some inspiration. They let us know that sometimes, the best legacy may not be a cemetery, but a spirit, an attitude towards life.