#头条创作挑战赛#问大家一个问题, do you think men are born with straightness? Actually, most of the time they are not.
I know that many girls have complained to me, saying, my husband is very straight, my boyfriend is very straight, and sometimes, I just hope that he will coax me to be fine, but he just can't get it.
For example, if I tell him about stomach pain, he says to drink more hot water, I tell him about low back pain, he says to drink more hot water, and I tell him that he is not feeling well, but he still drinks more hot water. Sometimes I really want to say, then you just go with the hot water!
He was always thinking about how to help me solve the problem, and sometimes when I said that I was not feeling well, he would try to make me laugh in a joking way.
But, a lot of times, women's feelings are different, women's feelings are always what they are, I hope you can care about me, I want you to see my feelings.
So, those who don't see our feelings, we call him a straight man. But are these straight men born? No, no. These so-called straight men are actually saved, and you can teach him to be a new man.
First of all, let's not blame men, because this is the natural thinking of men. Men's thinking is straight, their concept is to solve problems when they encounter problems, and what is the concept of women?
There is a classic case, you can feel it, a student told me before, and I laughed to death. It was she who told her husband, she said, "Husband, I had a nightmare last night and I didn't sleep well." ”
Just said such a sentence, guess how her husband responded, her husband said, "Yes, his face is yellow." ”
You see, the concept of a man is to follow your words. When you say this, what you may want to express is, husband, you see that I had a nightmare last night, and your treasure has a nightmare, and I haven't slept well, so you can coax me.
And most men's responses are either to say "yes, my face is not good", or "take a nap".
They always want to solve the problem, you don't believe you try it tomorrow morning, tell your husband that you didn't sleep well, see how he responds to you, just don't get too angry.
So what should we do in this case? It's very simple, just remember the "threshold effect", which is to teach him to be a new person little by little.
In fact, many times a man is not deliberately angry with you, but in his thinking, he thinks that he will solve the problem when he encounters it, and he ignores your feelings. So what to do? Teach him little by little.
For example, if you have a cold and are not feeling well at home, what are your needs? You may wish he could come home early to accompany you, or you would like him to buy you good medicine.
If you just tell him that I am not feeling well and have a cold, then he will drink more hot water and take some medicine at home. That's when you're going to feel very upset.
So, what are you going to do at this point? You're going to teach him how to do it.
For example, you can say to him: "Husband, I have a cold today, and I am yang again, I will sleep at home for a while, you can come back early to accompany me, and then help me ask at the pharmacy and help me bring some medicine." ”
And then when he comes home, you can still praise him, it's good to have your husband to take care of him when he's sick, thank you for being by my side, and so on.
In the same way, the next time you catch a cold again, then you can tell him directly: Husband, I don't feel well when I have a cold. He probably knew what to do.
If he still doesn't know what to do, then you just order him, and you say, "I felt better last time I had you by my side." "It's obvious, isn't it?
In fact, many times, a man doesn't mean to be angry with you, he really doesn't know.
Therefore, you need to set a rule for him, just like you have a cold, you need his company, what do you need, then you express this need, he will know how to do it, and teach him this rule little by little, understand?