Preface
What kind of problems exist in marriage?
To be honest, there are many problems in marriage, and there are even many reasons for the failure of marriage.
Let's talk about the marriage problems of this young couple, in fact, they initially had a fake divorce, but no one expected that the fake divorce would eventually evolve into a real divorce.
Fake divorce due to buying a house
The meaning of a house for Chinese is not only to live in, but also to have a house in the true sense of a home.
The couple also wanted to have a home of their own, but unfortunately the husband's credit had problems and he couldn't apply for a mortgage and couldn't buy a house.
But they really want to have a house of their own, a home of their own.
If the relationship between husband and wife is in a state of existence, even if it is to buy a house in the wife's name, it will not be possible to get a loan.
They came up with a solution, that is, a fake divorce, and then buy a house in the name of their wife, so that they could get a loan.
As for the monthly repayment of the loan, it will be borne by the husband.
Thinking that they could have their own house in this way, the couple went through the divorce procedures and bought a house.
After that, the monthly payment of more than 7,000 yuan was borne by the husband.
At this time, they finally had their own house, but they didn't expect that the problem would arise after they had a house.
The wife went out to work and got a new love
Although it is said that it has its own house, the monthly supply of more than 7,000 yuan per month has brought a lot of pressure to the family.
The wife wants to help her husband relieve the pressure, so she has to go to Xiamen to work.
The husband was naturally very happy when he saw that his wife offered to go out to work to help him relieve his pressure, so he agreed to his wife to work in Xiamen.
I never expected that when my wife was working in Xiamen, she would meet a man.
This man cares about his wife very much, and he also understands the misfortune in his wife's marriage, as if he is an angel sent by God to save him.
Slowly, the wife had a good impression of the man who broke into her life, and she had feelings, and they came together.
The husband forced his wife to leave the man by self-harm
But the husband does not understand his wife's behavior, does not understand why she betrays him?
did something out of the ordinary, that is, by hurting herself to force his wife to turn back.
Seeing her husband cut her skin with a knife again and again, she relented and returned to her husband's side.
But she knew that she no longer loved her husband, and now she only loved the man who cared and understood her.
But the husband still wanted to save his marriage, so he forced his wife to break up with the man.
The wife, who didn't want to see her husband hurt herself, agreed to separate from the man, but asked the husband to give the man 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses before agreeing to separate.
In order to save his wife, the husband transferred 3,000 yuan to the man without thinking about it.
He thought that in this way, his wife would return to him.
In fact, this is just his wishful thinking, and his wife is still secretly in contact with the man, and even plays videos every night.
The husband was very sad and wanted to persecute his wife again, but the wife seemed to have made up her mind and was determined not to cut off the relationship with the man.
It's just because the man cares about himself and understands himself in life, but his husband doesn't care about him.
Problems in marriage
Freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and dripping stone is not a day's work.
Disappointment in marriage is not formed in a day or two, and it is also accumulated over time that there will be the final disappointment.
At the beginning of marriage, wives are full of expectations for their husbands, and they all think that they can bring them a happy life.
As time passed, the wife found that her husband didn't care about her feelings at all.
Let's just say that at home, my mother-in-law never needs my brother-in-law to do anything, but she always lets her wife do things.
This made the wife very dissatisfied, so she told her husband about the grievances in her heart.
The husband said to his wife very perfunctorily, "Mom told you to do things because she was closer to you."
The wife does not agree with her husband's statement, which is obviously because she sees that she is a bully, and also because her husband does not make decisions for herself, so she will ask herself to do things.
The more and more such things happen, the more and more dissatisfaction in the wife's heart.
Until one day, the dissatisfaction has accumulated enough, and then there is only disappointment.
disappointed, the wife has no expectations for this husband, and just wants to escape from this marriage full of disappointment.
At this moment, the appearance of this man was a booster to accelerate his wife's escape from the disappointed marriage, so that their marriage quickly came to an end.
The wife is not afraid of scumbags, and she wants to be brave for love again
At this time, the husband self-righteously thinks that it is his usual neglect of his wife and neglect of his wife's feelings that will make his wife have so much dissatisfaction.
He wanted to promise his wife that he would not do business again in the future, nor would he socialize again, and would definitely treat her well.
It's a pity that the husband still didn't grasp the point, thinking that the wife was just dissatisfied with his usual negligence, but in fact, the wife was most dissatisfied that the husband never stood in his own perspective to think about the problem for himself, and never considered his inner feelings.
Seeing that her husband still didn't understand the problem, the last straw in her heart was crushed, and she finally made up her mind to leave her husband completely, not even thinking about what would happen to her two children in the future.
When the husband saw his wife's resolute attitude, he completely understood that his wife was really dead set on divorcing him.
But he still didn't worry about his wife, afraid that the man his wife was looking for was not as good as himself.
And this man's performance did give her husband a reason to worry.
That is, this man is more concerned about when the living expenses of 3,000 yuan per month will arrive than about his wife's life.
For the sake of living expenses, this man also threatened, don't think I'm a bully, just want to lose my living expenses this month.
In addition to this, the husband feels that the age difference between his wife and this man is also a serious problem, that is, the wife was born in 1985, and the man was born in 1991.
The difference between the two is 6 years old, this is definitely a sister-brother relationship.
With such an age difference, it is definitely unreasonable to say that men are not greedy for something.
The most valuable thing for the wife now is the house, and the husband also thinks that this man will pursue his wife for the sake of this house.
The wife disagrees with her husband's statement.
She believed that the man's kindness to her was sincere, and he was not greedy for his own house.
And she also told the man that the house had nothing to do with her, and it was all reserved for her two children.
The man also promised that he didn't want to be with her for the house, but just for her as a person.
With this assurance, the wife firmly believes that she has found true love this time, and it is a true love that cares about herself, understands herself, and is worthy of being brave again.
Seeing his wife's resolute attitude, the husband finally gave up, knowing that no matter what he tried, he couldn't save his wife, so let her go.
In the end, the husband also hugged his ex-wife and sent his blessings, hoping that she really found the right person this time, not a scumbag.
summary
There are many problems in marriage, but what wives care about the most is the attitude of their husbands.
They want their husbands to care about them, to understand them, and to be able to stand in their own shoes and think about themselves in everything.
It's a pity that too many men in life don't care about their wives' feelings, and even think that as long as they bring a rich life to the family, it is enough, completely ignoring their wives' inner feelings, allowing their wives to accumulate more and more disappointments, which eventually leads to the failure of the marriage.