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The in-laws were originally two families who didn't know each other, because the marriages of the children were linked.
The in-laws are married because of their children, and they are also destined because of their children.
If the in-laws get along well, then the children's marriage will be longer, and the children's marriage is also related to the parents of the two families.
Because marriage is not about two people falling in love, but about two families.
Therefore, the in-laws have a special relationship, and they need to pay more attention to getting along, get along well, pay attention to proportion, and learn to pay attention to their eyes to avoid making themselves suffer losses, and also to avoid implicating their children's marriages.
No matter who you are in-laws with, you must keep these three hearts, otherwise you will suffer a big loss, you must remember.
1. When it comes to money, keep an eye on it.
Get along with your in-laws, even if your family is rich and has a good income, you must pay attention to proportion, don't mention how much income you have in front of your in-laws, and hide it in your heart.
Even if the in-laws know that their family conditions are good, let the in-laws think about it if they love it, and don't take the initiative to say it.
In fact, some in-laws are full of interests, and even their children have to calculate, and they will not really deal with their in-laws at all, but want to get money from their in-laws, or borrow money, or want their in-laws to help.
In "Ode to Joy 5", David's mother is so worried about the property of David's girlfriend's family, knowing that David's girlfriend's family is very rich, she tries all kinds of methods and tricks to pester David's girlfriend, or directly contact this prospective in-law's family, so that they can pay to help her tide over the difficulties in business.
But in fact, David's mother still has a small treasury, and she has money, but she doesn't take it out to tide over the difficulties for the company, but she is calculating the money of her in-laws, so in the face of her in-laws, you have to pay attention to things involving money, don't be careless, see the other party's purpose clearly, and don't be deceived by the other party.
Second, pay attention to things to help.
About the in-laws asking you for help, it may be that the family came to you to do things, you had better not agree easily, even if you agree, you must be prepared, put the ugly words in front, if it is a big event, you have to sign an agreement, otherwise something happens, the in-laws will shirk the responsibility to you, then you can't be justified.
In these years, people's hearts are unpredictable, even if they are in-laws, it is possible to shirk responsibility when they encounter things, and some things, if they are not easy to refuse, then they must keep a good eye in order to let themselves have a way out.
In "Ode to Joy 5", David's father planned to go abroad, and before going abroad, he transferred his assets, but he couldn't bear to let his son have nothing, so he secretly left the house for him as a way out.
And David's father didn't want his mother to know, so he wanted to ask David's girlfriend's parents to help transfer the house to the name of the prospective in-laws, and leave it to David later.
David's girlfriend's parents are fully prepared for this matter, even if they help, and sign an agreement, they will not blame themselves for anything that happens, which is also very wise.
Therefore, in order to avoid some harm and loss, it is wise to keep an eye on it from the beginning.
Third, how the in-laws behave, do a good job of understanding.
The marriage of children is actually a big event, and it is also a very happy thing.
When a child says that he is going to get married, as a parent, of course, it is necessary to understand how the parents of the other family are.
If the other party's parents are too strong, or even have a bad character, love to lose their temper, and even have a hands-on behavior against their family, then as a parent, they are actually afraid that their children will enter such a family.
If the other party's parents still have a criminal record, then they don't want the child to come into contact with such a family, for fear that the child's life will be unhappy, that the child will suffer, and that the child will be harmed.
If the other party's parents are very peaceful people, even if it is an ordinary family, then the parents are open-minded and kind, and if they can get along in harmony with each other when they enter such a family, in fact, life will get better and better.
An overly strong family is actually a pit, which will be pressed step by step, and it is easy to make the child's married life full of contradictions.
In short, no matter who you are in-laws with, you still have to know more before marriage, some people are actually very good at acting and disguise, and it is very important to see each other's personality clearly and protect their children from lightning.
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