After Gu Jasmine and Zhu Jincao got married in "Little Day", their parents have not been very good at dealing with each other. Zhu Jincao's mother, Zhang Shanya, is a conservative woman, she thinks that women should be diligent and thrifty, and should put their husbands and children first, while Gu Jasmine's mother Wu Yulan is an open-minded and avant-garde woman, who not only lives like a spring breeze herself, but also teaches her daughter to live her own life.
Gu Jasmine and Zhu Jincao's married life is not as happy as they imagined, their family of four is crammed into a set of more than 50 square meters of one bedroom and one living room, the husband and wife sleep on bunk beds, and the big and small things in the family are often interfered with by their in-laws. In order to get rid of this situation where a small family has no autonomy, Gu Jasmine filed for divorce from Zhu Jincao.
After the divorce, although Zhang Shanya and Wu Yulan competed with each other to marry their children, in fact, Zhang Shanya has been matching and hoping that the young couple will remarry, while Wu Yulan has been encouraging Gu Jasmine to leave Zhu Jincao completely.
Zhang Shanya will probably never understand why Wu Yulan, who is also a mother, is not afraid of her daughter's divorce, and even encourages her daughter to divorce.
Jang Shan-ah's marriage.
Zhang Shanya is actually a woman who has been bound by marriage for a lifetime. Since marrying Zhu Dali, she has taken serving her husband and raising children as her full responsibility, although she also has a job, but she never let Zhu Dali interfere in housework, and she has to ride back to cook for her children after work.
This kind of dedication, if it can be seen and appreciated by her husband, it would be fine, but Zhu Dali is a complete machismo, he not only thinks that Zhang Shanya does these things within his bounds, it is natural, but also thinks that women in the world should be like this.
Later, after their son Zhu Jincao got married, Zhang Shanya often accused his daughter-in-law of not being a woman who lived a life, and Zhu Dali often took out the style of the head of the family, demanding that his wife, son, and daughter-in-law all obey him.
Not only that, Zhu Dali still has many vices in his marriage, he often abuses Zhang Shanya, every time Zhang Shanya is beaten, he will continue to serve him like no one. Zhu Dali's domestic violence also had a great impact on his son Zhu Jincao's character, so much so that Zhu Jincao was still very afraid of his father in his 30s.
Zhu Dali also cheated, Zhang Shanya knew it, but he didn't dare to say anything, so he could only endure it silently.
is such an unbearable marriage, Zhang Shanya has never had the idea of leaving in her life, even in the end, she mustered up the courage to divorce Zhu Dali, it was for the sake of her son, and she wanted to divorce without leaving home.
Zhang Shanya said: "I've lived with him all my life, where else can I go?"
is just such a sentence, it is enough to see that so many years of marriage have already made Zhang Shanya a woman without self. In this life, she has lived for her husband and son, and she has never lived for herself.
She attaches so much importance to marriage and hopes that her son can have a complete and happy marriage. For Zhang Shanya, divorce is a failure, a shame, and a helplessness, but it is not the fulfillment of herself.
Wu Yulan's marriage.
I have always felt that Wu Yulan is the happiest woman in the drama "Little Day". Although Wu Yulan is in her fifties, she does not have the sense of old age and vicissitudes of life on her face, from her, we can feel a passion and love for life.
Wu Yulan's marriage is very loving and warm. Husband Gu Demao not only cooks and does housework at home, but also knows how to protect his wife and daughter.
There is a scene in the play where Zhu Dali goes to Wu Yulan's house to make a noise, because Wu Yulan and Zhang Shanya teamed up to deal with green tea Gao Xiajing, Zhu Dali felt that Zhang Shanya had lost someone to him, and ran to Wu Yulan's house to make a big noise, Gu Demao came out in time to protect his wife, and Zhu Dali kept asking Gu Demao to educate his wife.
In this stark contrast, we can find that Wu Yulan's marriage is ten million times happier than Zhang Shanya.
is also a woman, Wu Yulan not only did not lose herself because of marriage and childbirth, but also made herself better and better in her married life. For the sake of her daughter, she retired and came to Shanghai with her husband, and paid social security in a friend's company, and used her quota to help her daughter buy a house when the time came.
Wu Yulan did not let herself go around the kitchen all day because she had to take care of her husband and children, she enrolled herself in the university for the elderly, studied photography, developed her own interests and hobbies, and also pulled Zhang Shanya together to give Zhang Shanya a chance to show her talents.
It was also under the influence of Wu Yulan that Zhang Shanya realized for the first time that she had never lived for herself, and she had the courage to file for divorce.
In Wu Yulan's concept, marriage should be a maintenance of perfection, not a constraint and constraint, if marriage can not make a person better and happier, then you should get rid of such a marriage and stop the loss in time.
So when Wu Yulan saw the grievances Gu Jasmine received in her in-law's family, she would support her daughter's divorce and hope that her daughter would not jump into the quagmire of the Zhu family again.
Thoughts determine destiny.
"Little Days" Zhang Shanya and Wu Yulan are both mothers, both love their children deeply, and they both hope that their children can live happily. However, Zhang Shanya feels that her son can only be happy if she maintains a complete family and marriage, but Wu Yulan feels that her daughter can realize herself and not be wronged, which is happiness.
So what Zhang Shanya is thinking about is letting her son remarry, but Wu Yulan is not afraid of her daughter's divorce. Wu Yulan even told Gu Jasmine that even if she would not remarry in the future and live alone all the time, she would fully support it.
Perhaps in Zhang Shanya's eyes, Wu Yulan is a less responsible mother. But in fact, it is because of the influence of Wu Yulan's thinking that Gu Jasmine was able to live in an environment like the old Zhu family without losing herself because of their suppression and constraints. Otherwise, Gu Jasmine is likely to be another Zhang Shanya.
Many people think that the sad situation of Zhang Shanya's life is entirely because she married a man like Zhu Dali. However, it is the mind that determines a person's fate. Zhang Shanya was unfortunate when she met Zhu Dali, but her misfortune was more caused by her own ideology.
Imagine if Wu Yulan met Zhu Dali? Wu Yulan would never have been able to marry a man like Zhu Dali. Even if she gets married for a while, she will not hesitate to divorce and stop loss, she will not feel that divorce is a shameful thing, and she will not feel that she should marry a chicken and a dog and endure it for a lifetime.
Because Zhang Shanya herself recognized the superiority of men and the inferiority of women, and she had a wrong perception of marriage, she would choose a man like Zhu Dali, and she would be willing to be under Zhu Dali's repeated mental control, and even become Zhu Dali's "accomplice".
A woman's happiness or misfortune is never in the hands of men, but is determined by her own thoughts.
When a woman feels that she can give up her ideals, goals and pursuits for the sake of her family, her husband and children, and feels that she should wronged herself to please her husband and in-laws when she gets married, then she will lose herself more and more.
Women, whether married or not, should learn to live for themselves. Marriage should not be a constraint for women, and a good marriage, for both men and women, should be a fulfillment that will make each other better.
About the author: Xiang Xiang Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write, focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television, as well as the analysis and solution of problems in the emotional field, I hope my words can accompany you warmly.