Synopsis: A video blogger witnessed her 3-year-old daughter being pushed and picked out at school, but she was timid and didn't fight back the whole time, and took the initiative to comfort herself that her classmates were in a bad mood, so she did it.
The blogger came back to communicate with the child's father, and the two comprehensively considered the premise of the recent frequent school bullying incidents, and the father decided to use the on-site restoration simulation method to teach his daughter to fight back bravely in this situation.
The video originated from the Internet, invaded and deleted~
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Parents who have children or are planning to have children, I think they can watch the video, and I will briefly summarize a few key points of Dad's teaching:
When someone wants to push you, you have to shout: You can't push someone!
You're not beating someone, you're protecting yourself
You have to hit him until it hurts, so he won't bully you next time!
Fourth, when he cried, you went to the teacher and told the teacher that you had reminded him, and he was still beating, so you hit him back.
The father repeatedly emphasized that "you are not beating, you are protecting yourself", the purpose of this sentence is nothing more than to inform his daughter that this behavior is justified, and to shoot in order to protect herself from harm is not to hit someone, this is the premise of establishing the correct three views, so that children can distinguish the difference between fighting back and actively hitting others.
Dad emphasized that it hurts, which is an effective means to stop illegal harm; Dad stresses that you can't hit someone first, which is to help children establish the correct three views that people don't offend me and I don't offend others; Dad stresses that you must have the ability to take the initiative to explain yourself afterwards and not be framed by others.
As a father who also has a kindergarten daughter, after watching the video, I very much agree with this father's approach, which is reasonable and reasonable.
But clicking on the comment area found that netizens were divided into two camps for this approach: agreeing with the fight back and thinking that this education method is not appropriate. The two sides had a heated discussion, let's take a look!
The netizens above think that they should fight back, but it is difficult for some kind children to learn to fight back. Even if it's simulated at home, but when you encounter a real outsider, you won't do it.
I understand this netizen's mood very well, that is, the children who are bullied are often kind, timid, and soft-hearted children, and they are children with strong empathy ability, and they would rather bear this kind of grievance themselves, for example, the blogger's daughter actually mentioned that the other party beat her because he was in a bad mood.
Kind children will easily forgive others, and this may become a reason for those "bad boys" to bully, because I bullied you, and you are still making excuses for me, and I don't even have to bear any cost of beating.
Therefore, based on this, I suggest that parents should repeatedly emphasize and educate kind children to fight back, because hitting back will make the other party face threats, one is to effectively avoid themselves from being harmed, and the other is to change a "bad boy", so that when he is very young, when he has not caused a big mistake, he will stop losses in time and know that his "arrogance" will have to pay the price.
There are also some netizens who think that they should not fight back, this kind of education is wrong.
Netizens who hold this point of view mainly feel that if he is taught to fight back, he may not be able to define whether he is beaten or beaten, because many times there are different reasons, and he can't tell who the conflict is caused by.
So if a teacher says no, you can tell the teacher first. But not fighting back and telling the teacher is not effective in hindering the harm in the moment. Of course, I can understand the teacher's original intention, and I definitely don't want to escalate the conflict, after all, as the guardian of the school, he has to take responsibility for serious consequences.
I don't know what everyone thinks about this?Will you teach your child to fight back?Or do you have a better way to educate, let's talk about it in the comment section!