There is a cat who often likes to climb the owner's stairs. This can be a headache for the owner, as he needs to spend a lot of time and energy cleaning the stairs. In order to stop this behavior of cats, owners often drive it away. However, the cat holds a grudge because of this and deliberately soils the owner's stairs, as if in revenge.
The owner thinks the cat is so stupid, doesn't he understand that if he doesn't climb the stairs, the owner will feed him?
In this way, this situation continued for a whole year, and the problem of the cat and the owner was never resolved. The owner consumes a lot of time and energy because of frequent cleaning, and his heart has been in internal friction.
Eventually, the owner realized that the root of the problem might be his own perception. He began to reflect on his understanding of and the way he treated cats' behavior. Perhaps, the cat is not deliberately making trouble, but has its own needs and ideas.
So, the owner decided to change his perception. He began to feed the cat often and stopped driving it to climb stairs. Surprisingly, the cat also seems to feel the change in its owner, and it no longer deliberately soils the stairs, but is content to enjoy the owner's feeding.
This simple story tells us a profound truth: many times, the inability to communicate and contradictions between us and others actually stem from differences in cognition. When we look at things from our own perspective, we tend to come to different conclusions than the other side. If we just stick to our own point of view and don't try to understand the other side's position, it will be difficult to solve the problem.
In real life, such examples abound. For example, in a parent-child relationship, parents may think that their children should study hard, while children may prefer their parents to give them more freedom and understanding. If both parties are unwilling to empathize, communication becomes difficult.
Similarly, team members may have different understandings and perceptions of tasks and priorities at work, which can also affect team collaboration and efficiency. The best solution can only be found when everyone can fully understand each other's point of view.
So, how do we deal with this cognitive difference? First, we need to learn to listen. It's not just about listening to the other person, it's about understanding their perspectives and needs. Through questions and discussions, we can gain a deeper understanding of the other person's thoughts, which can lead to fewer misunderstandings.
Second, we need to keep an open mind. Don't easily dismiss other people's opinions, but try to think from their point of view. In this way, we may discover some new perspectives and solutions to problems.
Finally, continuous learning is also very important. By constantly expanding our knowledge and experience, we can more easily understand the perspectives of others and better cope with various cognitive differences.
Summary: Cognitive differences are unavoidable, but we can alleviate the conflict by changing our attitudes and methods. When we strive to understand others, respect their perspectives, and actively seek consensus, we build better communication and relationships. Just as the owner ends up living in harmony with his cat, we can also find more harmony and beauty in our interactions with others.