When I heard that I was going back to my hometown in the New Year, my cousin kindly invited me to her house early, saying that her brother, sister, son, daughter-in-law and two daughters would all come back for the Chinese New Year. What I want for the New Year is to be lively, how nice the people are, I gladly agreed.
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My cousin is the youngest daughter of my eldest aunt, she is beautiful and very smart, but among the three brothers and sisters, she is the only one who only studied junior high school, and she was suspended from school by her old mother to stay by her side, and she was not able to fly away from the countryside by marrying like her sister, let alone flying outside with her brother's own ability, she can only follow her parents to fulfill her filial piety.
Who made her the youngest daughter of her parents? It stands to reason that as an old girl whose parents were born in their 40s, she should be very precious. But the key is that when she was born, her brothers and sisters were already in their teens, and by the time she was in elementary school, her sister was already married, and by the time she was in junior high school, her sister had already taken her two children and followed her brother-in-law to Nanchang with the army. And my brother also went to Weihai, Shandong Province as a soldier.
In the eighties and nineties, when transportation and communications were not yet developed, my brother and sister were thousands of miles away from home, which was out of reach in the eyes of rural people. For the only little daughter who stayed around, the aunt stopped letting the little cousin go to school after her uncle fell ill, in order not to want her to leave her. When the little cousin turned eighteen, her aunt couldn't wait to give her a family affair in the village. The other party is a young man who has returned to his hometown after his parents died, but he is very shrewd, he is also a good person, and he has studied in high school.
This young man was a few years older than my cousin, and he really loved and cared for my cousin. The cousin was also very satisfied because he had studied in high school, and after the two fell in love and got married, her husband was like a son in front of his aunt and the old couple.
After marriage, the two gave birth to 2 daughters in succession, and later paid a fine to give birth to a younger son.
At that time, my uncle had passed away, and my aunt was in good health, so she helped my cousin take care of the children. My cousin has learned the trades of tailoring, she can make good clothes, and she is asked to make clothes for the elderly and children in the village, and she helps her mother to take care of the children and do housework at home.
And his cousin-in-law started a blow molding business in order to support a large family. He is away all year round, running around to contact business. Of course, his cousin and cousin are in the field to help him match up and contact business.
Under the hard work of the two people, the cousin's family is living a good life. They also built small buildings, and the key is that the three children are particularly good.
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My little cousin's biggest regret in my life is that I didn't get to high school. She said that according to her understanding, after high school, she might be able to be admitted to university, and I fully believe this. From the intelligence of her three children, it can be seen that the IQ of her cousin is not low.
My cousin didn't read a lot of books herself, and although her husband had studied in high school, he hadn't taken the college entrance examination that year, so he had a natural yearning for college. The two attach great importance to the education of their three children, and they hope to cultivate a few college students. But because there are many children and they are in rural areas, they have neither the money nor the resources to hire good tutors for their children like urban people. What they can do is to cultivate the habit of learning and helping each other from an early age.
Therefore, the cousin and his wife attach great importance to the enlightenment of their eldest daughter. When the eldest was only a few months old, they taught her nursery rhymes, and when the child was babbling, they taught her the "Three Character Classic". The little girl is very smart, she will teach it, the old man will be old, the second child will follow the old university, and then there will be the third child, and the third child will follow the two sisters to learn.
Their family is definitely big and small. The eldest was in the first grade of primary school, and the school was almost two or three miles away from home, and they would send the child to school when they were young, and when the second child was also in elementary school in the second year, they let the eldest take his sister to school. In the first few days, they also took turns for adults to send them, but then they simply let the boss of his family take the lead, take a group of children in the village (there are about 10) to walk together, and make three chapters of the law, no playing on the road, no fighting, no adults who do not know approach, and children cannot be left alone with strangers. My cousin-in-law will also select the most obedient children every semester and give them awards. If all the children do well, there is a prize.
Not to mention, this trick is very effective, not only to exercise the children's independent spirit, but also to encourage children to help each other. His three children are very popular in the village and school. And the most enviable thing is that the three children also have good grades.
The eldest of the cousin's family has the style of the eldest sister, she not only has to take her younger siblings to school, she is very serious in her studies, and her grades are among the best in the class. has a good role model effect of the boss, and the second child is naturally not far behind, she not only has to learn from her sister, but also catch up with her sister. The sisters not only chase me when they study, but also when it comes to taking care of their younger brothers, doing housework, and helping the children in the village.
There are two older sisters' demonstration effect, and the younger brother naturally follows suit. Moreover, the cousin and his wife were pleasantly surprised to find that this youngest son was smarter than both daughters. When his son was in the first grade, the eldest was in the third grade, and when he listened to the eldest sister tutoring the second sister's homework, he had already learned the first-grade course, and he could do the second-grade homework of the second sister effortlessly. Later, the elementary school teacher skipped her son by one level, and the younger brother was in the same class as the second sister.
Often, the eldest is explaining the problems after class to the second child, and the young is very leisurely pointing on the side, so angry that the second child can only redouble his diligence to make up for the gap with his younger brother.
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Later, the two elder sisters were admitted to the county middle school with hard work, and the younger brother effortlessly entered the top class of the county with the first grade in the county. In the three years of high school, the eldest sister was a year ahead of him, studying liberal arts, in order to prepare for the college entrance examination, she gradually had no time to take care of the studies of her younger siblings, and the younger brother naturally did not need the help of the eldest sister.
It's just that the second brother is a little struggling in the science class, but fortunately, the little brother is very powerful, and the second sister can ask him if he doesn't understand.
The three children are all in school in the county, and the cousin and his family are under a lot of pressure, but the children's future is expected, and parents are happy no matter how hard and tired they are.
The two of them worked hard to make money, and the three children studied hard in school.
Later, the boss played normally in the college entrance examination, was admitted to the Department of Finance of Chinese People's University, and studied for a bachelor's and master's degree, and after graduation, he worked in a bank in Hefei near home. Because of the eldest sister's demeanor that the boss has cultivated since childhood, she has a strong ability to communicate and coordinate with people, and now she is a middle-level banker. Her husband is a college classmate, a native of Hefei, and the two already have a baby son. The boss can be said to have a good family and a good job.
The second child played exceptionally well in the college entrance examination, entered the water supply and drainage major of Tongji University, and later studied for a master's degree in this school, and after graduation, he also went to the eldest sister's side, worked in Hefei, and got married and gave birth to a lovely little girl.
The wedding house bought by the two sisters is in a community, and they said that when their parents are old, they want the three of them to pay together to buy a small house for their parents in this community and take them with them to support the elderly.
And the cousin is the proudest of the youngest son. In that year, he was sent to Zhu Kezhen College of Zhejiang University for a bachelor's, master's and doctoral degree, and later went to the UK for exchange during his doctoral degree. After graduation, because his girlfriend worked in Hong Kong, he applied for a job at Huawei in Hong Kong, with a starting annual salary of 1.5 million, and it is said that he took 700,000 yuan at the end of last year.
No, as soon as the son and daughter-in-law came back for the New Year, they gave 100,000 yuan to their mother, saying that they were given a year's living expenses. My cousin was so happy that she couldn't stop laughing. She said that they are in the countryside, and they grow their own food, so where can they spend the money? But this is the child's heart, she saves the money, and then gives it to the child when she really needs it, or when she is really old and can't move, she can use it to support the elderly, and it can also reduce the burden of the child.
Of course, my cousin also has a heart problem, that is, although the son's salary is not low now, they can't help the son at all, the son and his wife have not bought a house in Hong Kong, and they don't dare to have children in order to fight for their careers. This is a hurdle in her heart that she can't get over. But her daughter-in-law is also a smart young man, and when she learned of her mother-in-law's concerns, she advised her mother-in-law not to worry about them, and they were going to buy a house in Shenzhen this year.
With the income of the two of them, it is a little difficult to buy a house in Hong Kong, but it is not a big problem to buy a house in Shenzhen. Because since the opening of the Hong Kong-Zhuhai-Macao Bridge, it is very convenient to travel back and forth from Hong Kong to Shenzhen, and they will live in Shenzhen at that time, and it is not difficult to go to Hong Kong to work. The key is that the cost of living in Shenzhen is not high now, that is, if you have children in the future, the elderly in the family will help in the past, and it is more suitable in Shenzhen.
The daughter-in-law's words made my cousin's heart flutter.
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On the second day of the Lunar New Year, the two daughters came with their respective husbands and children, and as soon as they entered the house, the eldest took out the clothes and shoes he bought for his parents, and the second brought cigarettes, alcohol and nutritional products. The two sisters also gave their parents red envelopes. The two cousins were so happy that they said yes.
The family of my brother and sister-in-law in Anqing heard that their nephews and nephews were back, and they also wanted to come over to have a look. The key is that the eldest sister's family, who has not returned to her hometown for many years, also came back from Nanchang to take a look. And I was invited by my cousin. My cousin's house was so lively that she had to open several tables of dinner. The two of them couldn't be busy, so they had to ask a few brothers and daughters-in-law in the village to help.
The cousin said that the three children had never held a banquet at home when they got married, and they had never been so lively, and this year was really the happiest year for the cousin. Seeing the happy smiling faces of his brother, sister and children and grandchildren, my cousin said that no matter how hard and tired this life is, it is worth it.
The people in the village were also attracted by the lively atmosphere of my cousin's family, and many people of the same age as my cousin came to greet us. Some young people who grew up with her three siblings also came over to do some homework.
I watched all this and was happy for my cousin from the bottom of my heart.
My cousin sighed during the banquet: People say that it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family, and knowledge may not be able to change fate, but I have only studied junior high school and my sister is an authentic poor family.
If it weren't for studying, these three children wouldn't have such a comfortable and decent life as they do now!
Of course, all this is also due to the attention of the younger sister and his wife to their children's education. The cousin eventually added.
My cousin's words attracted everyone's approval.
In my opinion, the cousin's two sons are commendable to the two daughters, they are not influenced by the traditional patriarchal thinking, so that the two daughters have received the same educational opportunities as boys, and because they know how to appreciate and motivate, and let the children help each other to learn, forming a good family style and learning style, which benefits the children for life. And this is really what makes me especially admire my cousin and his wife.
Don't look at the cousins, both of whom are farmers, but they are really good at educating children. Looking at her 3 children, not only can they read, but they also have strong work ability, and the key is that they also have good interpersonal relationships with others in society and family, which is rare. More importantly, these sisters and brothers know how to be grateful, can understand the difficulties of their parents, and can help each other, which is not envied by many urban people.
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