As the saying goes, many parents hope that their children will become talents, and they will be excellent and promising.
Why do some people still say that sometimes children are too promising, which is not necessarily a good thing for parents?
The 66-year-old aunt said frankly: It wasn't until I saw the old age of the neighbor next door that I realized that raising my children too well is really not necessarily a good thing for parents.
Narrator: 66-year-old Aunt Xu
Aunt Xu is 66 years old this year, her neighbor is about the same age as her, and the two have a son, who is particularly good.
Since childhood, he has been praised by others, and when other children can only cry, the neighbor's children can already memorize ancient poems and count.
After going to school, the child's grades were always among the best, and later he went to a good university and studied abroad.
At that time, the conditions of the neighbor's house were not particularly good, but in order to meet the children's requirements, they still decided to sell the house in the city to make up for the children's tuition, and the couple was left with only a small house in the suburbs, and they had to commute for more than 3 hours every day.
At that time, the people around me who knew about it thought they were stupid, with such a large investment, the children may not be able to earn it back in the future, and if they still settled abroad, then it would be a problem to provide for the elderly.
But the neighbor couple felt that it was worth it, as long as the children were willing to study, they would provide for it no matter what.
Later, after their children graduated from graduate school abroad, they found a job, and their income of 10,000 or 20,000 yuan per month was converted into RMB, which doubled.
Seeing that this child is so promising, everyone is envious again, raising the child so well, the future of the two of them will be no different.
The two neighbors will be really happy, after all, who doesn't like others to praise their children?
In a flash, the two members of the neighbor's family have retired, and the old people who are about the same age as them are basically grandparents. But the neighbor's children are in their thirties, and there is no movement, and all the life is work all day long.
I rarely go home on weekdays, but after going out for so long, I came back twice in total, and I went abroad again after less than a month.
The children are not around, and the life of the neighbor's old couple after retirement is very boring and boring. They also want to hug their grandson, so they call their son from time to time.
I want my son to find a partner to marry quickly, but every time I call, my son will complain that they worry too much, and say that whether they get married or not is their private matter, and let the neighbors leave it alone. When the real fate arrived, he got married himself, and this thing could not be done by urging.
The neighbor did not give up the idea of holding his grandson because his son said this, and still called from time to time to urge. Maybe it's because the phone calls are too much, and their son is impatient, so he simply doesn't answer the phone or hangs up after saying a few words.
And their son never took the initiative to call them, the distance was so far that they couldn't reach it, and although the three of them were the closest people in the world, they were slowly becoming similar to strangers. There is no news all year round, and I can't see it, so it's sad to think about it.
Two years ago, the man in the neighborhood was sick and needed surgery, and the danger was still there.
However, the attitude of the neighbor's children broke the hearts of the old couple.
I made dozens of calls a day, but no one answered, and it wasn't until the next day that the neighbor's child called back, saying that he was busy with meetings and didn't look at his phone, and he was busy with work during this time and didn't have time to rush back.
gave the neighbor 200,000 yuan, let her take good care of his wife, and when he was done, he would come back to see his parents, and there would be no follow-up.
In fact, what the neighbor wanted was not money, but from his son's concern and greetings, but unfortunately this hope was disappointed.
Later, the neighbor's children came back, but not to visit their parents, but to go through the immigration procedures. He said that he was used to life abroad, that he was very comfortable abroad, and that he planned to settle down there.
Hearing that the child said that he wanted to emigrate, the neighbor asked his son: You have immigrated, what should we do?
Unexpectedly, the child said: You will stay in the country, and if you go there and are not familiar with the place, it is better to be suitable for you in the country. When I went abroad, you didn't speak a foreign language, you couldn't live at all.
Their children never thought about living with their parents, nor did they think about what their future parents would do in their old age, and their parents were not young, and all they wanted was to be reunited as a family.
It is useless to persuade the old couple of neighbors to persuade their son, he still has an attitude: I make my own decisions, and I don't need my parents to worry about it.
Facing the loss of their son, their hearts are painful, although they have a pension, a house and a car, but there is no way to be happy.
Although they didn't say anything, every time I watched the neighbors staring at other people's children, I knew in my heart that they regretted sending their son to study abroad.
From my neighbor's experience in his later years, I suddenly realized that raising children too well is sometimes not necessarily a good thing for parents.
When the children are out, the parents will be happy, but when the children are out, they are far away from their parents, and even the feelings are weak, so it is not beautiful.
Write at the end
The deepest love of parents for their children is to hope that they can be successful and promising. But in the deepest part of their hearts, they also hope that the child is healthy and safe, and that they can be by their side, not far away.
Even if they don't live together, they can have a meal from time to time, and they can come back with a phone call when they have something, this is the happiness that the old man wants.