01, the daughter-in-law wanted to go back to her parents' house for the New Year and was slapped by her arrogant father-in-law
He died early in the morning, but some still live in the remnants of feudalism.
A father-in-law in Anhui slapped his daughter-in-law hard because he wanted to go back to her parents' house for the New Year, making her head buzz and tears couldn't stop flowing.
Looking at the aggrieved daughter-in-law, the father-in-law didn't realize his mistake at all, but angrily scolded his daughter-in-law for "the water spilled by the married daughter" and told her to "don't always think about running to her mother's house every day".
Seeing this, some netizens may say that this daughter-in-law must be not good, and she goes back to her parents' house every three or five times, which makes her father-in-law really unbearable.
In fact, the woman is married far away, her hometown is Guizhou, and she has only returned to her parents' home once in 3 years of marriage, and it has been two years since she last returned to her parents' home.
Although she is married, her daughter is always the heart of her parents, and it is natural for her daughter to go home to visit her parents, and her father-in-law is also a parent, so why can't she compare her heart with her heart.
The daughter-in-law did not have any rudeness to her father-in-law, but just said: "Even if I am old, I am also my parents' daughter, and I will definitely go home this year." ”
The daughter-in-law, whose biological parents have never moved a finger since she was a child, was slapped angrily by her father-in-law.
Maybe this father-in-law thinks that he is the head of the family, and his son and daughter-in-law have to listen to his arrangements, or maybe this father-in-law treats his daughter-in-law as a maid, worried that she will have no one to serve her when she returns to her parents' house for the New Year.
But no matter what kind of thinking and reason, as a father-in-law, he has no right to beat his daughter-in-law.
Not to mention the father-in-law, even if it is a biological father, he can not beat his daughter at will, and later the explanations such as the so-called emotional agitation and high blood pressure are pale.
In this way, the arrogant and domineering father-in-law slapped the originally harmonious and happy family.
Originally, this daughter-in-law in Guizhou was very filial and capable, and she kept the house in good order, not to mention, and was better to her parents-in-law than her biological parents.
Buy them gifts every once in a while, and be there for them whenever you have time.
It's just a pity that her parents-in-law may still be moved by her dedication at first, but after a long time, she deserves it, and even thinks that her daughter-in-law should do it.
Fortunately, the woman's husband is a sensible person and sees all his wife's efforts in his eyes.
When he witnessed his father beating his wife, he resolutely stood on his wife's side and supported his wife domineeringly.
He made an admirable decision to drive 1,600 kilometers to take his wife back to her parents' home in Guizhou, and also decided to sell his house in Anhui and settle down in Guizhou.
Of course, if one day his parents are old, he will come back to fulfill his filial piety, which is also the responsibility of a son to support his parents.
But the daughter-in-law made it clear that she would not come back, and she had no such obligation.
02, your sincerity and sincerity are not worthy of being scathing and mean
Personally, I understand this daughter-in-law's approach very well, because once the heart is cold, it will never be warmed back.
Take myself as an example, I can only do three words to my mother-in-law.
Living with her, keeping her fed, clothed, and accompanied by someone, but if you want me to be warm and caring for her, it is impossible in this life.
To tell the truth, the half-dead aunt of the neighbor next door, I can go over to chat with her every once in a while, help her to go to the yard to bask in the sun, and I am very worried about not going for a few days.
But I didn't want to say a word to my mother-in-law, or even look at her more, even though I lived under the same roof, she was the most familiar stranger in my eyes.
My attitude towards her today cannot be said to be self-inflicted, but also a cycle of cause and effect.
My family is relatively well-off, my husband's family is poor, but my parents are not poor and love rich, when I got married, they did not ask for a penny of bride price, but accompanied a particularly rich dowry.
Not to mention the TV, air conditioner, washing machine, sofa, complete sets of furniture, gas stoves, gas canisters, and even fly swatters, feather dusters.
25 years ago, almost all of the small county towns were self-built houses, and my husband's family had no money, so my parents took the initiative to lend money to his family to build a house.
Not only that, but the family also married a store that was open, and the store decoration and goods also cost a lot of money.
After marriage, I have never been stingy, not only to buy all kinds of daily necessities at home, but also to buy food and clothing for my parents-in-law, and I have never been too selfish.
Maybe it's too easy to get and don't cherish it, and even think that everything is as it should be, but the father-in-law is still very good, and the mother-in-law is hard to say.
I have to be busy in the store every day, a few days a month from the wee hours of the morning, but she can't see you working hard, only that you sleep lazy and don't do much housework.
She never works herself, but she is very picky, she doesn't do it and says you don't do it, and blames you for not doing it well.
Obviously, the house has at least half of my contributions, and in her eyes I am an outsider.
Everything in the house is hers, my family can't go, my friends can't go, no matter who goes, they won't have a good face, and they will blatantly rush out, and ordinary people can't think of words to open their mouths and scold.
My mother-in-law had this attitude when my mother-in-law was rich and I could make money, and then when my father had difficulties in doing business and I failed to invest, she was even more cynical and humiliated.
Her vitriol is no less than the slap of the woman's father-in-law at the beginning of the article.
It's just that she is stingy with her grandson to the extreme, she doesn't even bring much of her own grandson, and she has never bought a bag of milk powder or a piece of clothing.
It is no exaggeration to say that my mother-in-law did not have any friends, her neighbors did not like her, and all the relatives of my father-in-law's family did not want to associate with her, and she brought me pain and hurt.
The only trace of warmth was on the third day of my caesarean section, when she came to the hospital and saw my feet exposed, went up and shook it and said, "It's a little cold." ”
What I can't let go of the most is that I have been kind to my mother-in-law with all my heart and lungs, and I have never had the slightest selfishness, but my mother-in-law has calculated everything about me in terms of money.
03. The Cycle of Cause and Effect Everyone is responsible for their own actions
In my life, I will never forget the face of my mother-in-law asking me for money, as if I owed her.
That year, my father-in-law was seriously ill, and it happened that my parents' business and I were in financial difficulties, but I still borrowed money with interest from my friends, and my husband left home early to go through the hospitalization procedures for my father-in-law.
And I only kept 120 yuan for myself and my son in case of emergency.
At that time, I was only in my twenties, and I had not yet experienced the sinister nature of the human heart, and I did not know that in the eyes of my mother-in-law, I was a never-ending ATM.
On the first night of my father-in-law's visit to the hospital, she viciously asked me for money, and my hideous face made me stunned and cry silently when I called my parents.
My dad sent me a sum of money overnight, and I cried all night with my baby in my arms.
The next day, in order to spare my father-in-law from the bumps of public transportation, after all, it was a four- or five-hour drive, and my father specially found a private car.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law blocked me in the bathroom again and continued to ask for money: "What about the car money? ”
Since I was a child, I was held in the palm of my parents' hands, and they never taught me to be careful about money, and when I got married, I was told to be good to my in-laws.
I treat my in-laws as a family from the bottom of my heart, and I pay for the family wholeheartedly, but unfortunately I don't care about it doesn't mean that others don't care, and my good to others may not be exchanged for others' good.
When the father-in-law was alive, he could still make the mother-in-law restrain himself, and after the father-in-law died, the mother-in-law became even worse.
Because of her, I have been suffering from insomnia for several years, and I finally fell asleep, and I also fought and quarreled with her, and what I couldn't do in reality was all vented in my dreams.
In this way, she continued to do it until I hated and disgusted her from the bottom of my heart, and I no longer had any mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affection for her.
If it weren't for my husband's loyalty, honesty and reasonableness, and his kindness to my parents, I would have divorced a long time ago.
If it weren't for the early death of my father-in-law, my mother-in-law was completely unwilling to take care of herself (not unable to take care of herself), and my parents insisted that I not hold a grudge against my mother-in-law, I would have asked my husband to leave this house a long time ago.
Until now, I can't figure out why my mother-in-law is such a selfish and cold-blooded and ruthless person, and I am so angry that I can't sleep when I think of what she did before.
Now she is already old, and she no longer has the arrogance and domineering of the past, I sometimes feel that she is very pitiful with her waist, and I want to be affectionate to her, but I really can't.
What I can do is to teach my son to be filial to his grandmother, even if I still reject her from the bottom of my heart, and I am not bothered by her out of sight.
What I can still do is to take her as a warning in my heart, and all the suffering I have suffered will never let my future daughter-in-law taste the slightest.
I always hope to compare hearts to hearts for hearts, and no one's contribution can be taken for granted.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions, and when you slap your daughter-in-law to the fullest, you should anticipate what will happen.