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I believe that many people have had the experience of borrowing money from others, or being borrowed by others, but as long as money is mentioned, no matter relatives and friends, classmates, colleagues, comrades-in-arms, acquaintances, etc., almost without exception have encountered such embarrassment, that is, no matter what the reason for borrowing money, most of them will hurt their feelings. Especially if you fail to repay the money in time after borrowing money, there are many people who turn against each other and even meet in court.
The commonality of borrowing money is nothing more than the last resort in the face of temporary difficulties or special circumstances. Therefore, whether it is emergency or turnover, it is a way to let go of one's body or even give up one's self-esteem for help, and it is precisely because of this that the reality and normality of human nature will be tested. And many times, the hurt of feelings is also highlighted in the results of borrowing or not borrowing, and whether to repay or not. That is: no matter what kind of relationship, either you are worried that you will not repay the loan or even be cheated, or you will refuse directly if you suspect the motive of borrowing money, but the relationship must be broken.
So I'm not afraid of everyone's jokes, on the topic of why mentioning money hurts feelings, I have two real experiences. First of all, I was looking for someone to borrow money, in 2010, I was in urgent need of capital turnover due to the failure of my business, so I sought medical treatment in a hurry, and borrowed money from a few old classmates in the group of classmates who thought they were playing well, but what I never expected was that not only was they politely rejected for various reasons, but also lost face in the group of classmates, and was even misrepresented as a fraud. I had no choice but to ask my former colleagues for help, and as a result, in addition to only getting help from my relatives, I was embarrassed without exception, so during that time I really regretted and was very sad, and the biggest feeling at that time was to humiliate myself, and since then I have silently withdrawn from the group, even if I occasionally go back to my hometown for the holidays, I no longer contact any classmates. And for those colleagues who also rejected me, I no longer have any contacts. Because it is true, because of the problem of borrowing money, I not only thoroughly saw through human nature, but also completely realized the truth of God's help for self-helpers.
The second is the real experience of others borrowing money from me, when I was in Shenzhen in 2016, a friend who had known me for less than half a year asked me to borrow 5,000 yuan for rental turnover, although I had a sad experience in 2010, but I still out of kindness and trust, considering that even if I borrowed it and could barely bear it, I didn't think about when he would take the initiative to repay the money to me, but then three years later, I still overestimated his trust and feelings for him, he not only disappeared and blocked me, but also let me taste another taste of hurting feelings when I raised money。
It is the so-called standing to borrow money, kneeling to ask for debt. In short, in today's society, why does it hurt feelings when mentioning money, the main reason I have summarized is: in this real society where lending out is affection and taking back is the enemy, most people are very sensitive to the topic of money, most people are worried about being cheated, and most people have the experience of being rejected for borrowing money. So as long as you don't mention money, it's easy to say anything, and feelings are always there, but as long as you mention money, I'm sorry, it's all people who have come over, and it's really presumptuous! Unless the other party agrees with your use value, feelings are really not worth mentioning in front of money!
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