Sometimes, there is a tacit understanding between two people, a feeling that goes beyond friendship, but they dare not cross the line easily.
But as someone said, "There is no pure friendship between people of the opposite sex." Only by crossing the line can we see the true feelings clearly. ”
If you want to break through the relationship between men and women, perhaps the key is to "cross the line".
1. The courage to cross the line
You have a good relationship with a friend of the opposite sex, but when your relationship is about to cross the boundaries of friends, you are both hesitant.
Because you are afraid that once you cross the line, this beautiful relationship may deteriorate.
See a story:
Men and women are co-workers, and the two often work overtime and eat together.
Time is long, and love is deep.
They both found out at that time that their feelings for him went beyond the realm of friends, but neither of them said it, and it was not until later that the two had their own partners and had their own families that they unexpectedly learned the truth.
The moment they knew the truth, they cried and missed it.
"If we had been brave together, would it have ended differently. ”
This is a lyric in Jinsha's "The Myth of the Stars and Moon", I don't know the meaning of the song at first hearing, and then I am already a person in the song.
Maybe if you have the courage to be honest with your feelings, you will have unexpected gains.
2. The wisdom of transgressing boundaries
Ma Huateng once said: "The smartest person in the world borrows the experience of other people's heads and blood as his own experience."
The stupidest person in the world is not called experience by hitting his head and bleeding. ”
Crossing the line is not a blind impulse, it also requires wisdom, so many cases in life tell you that blind crossing the line will only make everything a mess of hemp rope and mess.
But when you realize that you have feelings for that person and prepare before you cross the line, a lot of bad things can be avoided.
For example, I once saw the plot of a movie:
The female protagonist and the male protagonist have been friends for many years, and the two often watch movies and chat together, at first it was actually the female protagonist who first discovered that her feelings for the male protagonist were not ordinary, but she was not in a hurry to confess.
She made plans for this, such as listening to each other's voices, such as supporting each other's work, such as appearing to comfort him in his most difficult times, and this time came and went, and the male protagonist gradually realized that the female protagonist's position in his heart was different.
So, the male protagonist took the initiative to pursue the female protagonist, and the female protagonist "reluctantly" gave the other party a chance, and the two upgraded from friends to lovers.
Sometimes, you don't know how to cross the line, start small, start with his life, and when he realizes that something is wrong, you have succeeded.
3. The art of transgressing boundaries
CCTV mentioned a sentence: "It's too late, it's actually just the right time." ”
Crossing boundaries is not only a science, but also an art that requires timing.
For example:
My brother-in-law was pursued by my sister on her own initiative, and my sister liked my brother-in-law for a long time, but she never said it.
Until one time, when the two of them were walking by the sea, she suddenly stopped and said to her brother-in-law, "I want to tell you something." ”
The brother-in-law was stunned for a moment, but then smiled and said, "Actually, I like you too." ”
Just the right amount of mystery, the right answer, the long-planned love, and the clear and unwavering perception.
The two people who love each other have completed the leap of friendship under such a beautiful scenery.
Breaking through the relationship between men and women, sometimes it is really not difficult, it only takes one time to cross the line, again and again.
With sincerity, you step into his world, slowly familiarize the other person with your existence, and slowly warm up the feelings.
After a long time, find a suitable time to say the love in your heart.
I believe that all the good things will come at this moment, as scheduled.