There is a saying that says, "Love is blind, but marriage is wise." ”
People are very easy to be excited, in this life, we will meet a lot of exciting people and things, which should be a good thing, after all, heartbeat is a positive emotion, which can make us feel happy.
But for a married woman, a good thing has become a tragedy.
How to deal with the complex issue of choosing love or family?
1. Recognize your emotions
Although some people feel the "heartbeat", they can't even figure out the real reason for their heartbeat.
Therefore, if you want to deal with this relationship, you must first recognize your heart.
For example, you can use divergent thinking to think: Is it because you are too familiar with your partner, so you have a sense of flatness?
In the past, downstairs in our community, there was a couple who ran a fruit shop, the two have been married for many years, although the life is simple but happy, but slowly the woman fell in love with a customer who often came to buy fruit.
This customer is obviously interested in her, always bring her some gifts or something, at first the woman didn't accept it, but then slowly got acquainted, and the relationship between the two became intimate.
It wasn't until later that the customer figured out what she wanted, but the woman was very entangled, because she didn't want to destroy the existing family, but she couldn't let go of her love for the male customer.
Later, she went to ask a friend for help, after all, the bystander was clear, and her friend analyzed her before she realized that she was not attracted to this male customer, but felt that life was too dull, and this heartbeat was an illusion.
After recognizing her own thoughts, the woman began to distance herself from the male customer.
In fact, there will always be a lot of temptation in a relationship, it may be the love of strangers, or it may be the dullness of life.
But in the end, really good relationships are built after various processes, and maybe when you recognize your feelings, your story will continue to prolong.
2. Keep your distance
When you find yourself in a trance, your first instinct should be to keep your distance.
Being able to have a family is your choice, and it is also your determination after your heartbeat.
You have to think that you were the one who was with your husband in the first place, and now you have a new love, which is a bad thing, and if you dare to take that step at this moment, then your life will be ruined.
You know, "The more beautiful things are, the more poisonous they are." ”
You think you've met your soulmate, but how can you be right when you meet someone at the wrong time?
There are arrangements in people's lives, and the heartbeats you encounter after you get married are actually your calamities.
Some people avoid it through thinking, although they have regrets but live well, and some people respond to the catastrophe in person, although they taste the sweetness but regret not being at the beginning.
So, if you don't know how to respond, keep your distance, after all, disaster can be avoided without starting.
3. Talk to people
When you're in a mystery and don't know what to do, you ask the bystanders.
From their minds, you will find out whether what you want to do will be accepted by the world.
You can talk to friends, family, or even your partner.
Just like the short video I saw on the Internet before:
A married woman meets a man she likes and thinks that the other party is her ideal type, and she is very entangled and doesn't know what to do?
Later, she went to talk to a friend, who analyzed the relationship between the two of them and told her the pros and cons.
She thought about it for a long time, and finally planned to talk to her husband about her situation, but her husband smiled and said that in fact, he felt that life was dull a long time ago, and he had met other women who made his heart fall for a long time.
But he chose to keep his distance from the other party and return to the family.
He said: "True love is not to covet a momentary novelty, but to choose a person and firmly identify with her." The reason why we feel that others are excited is because we haven't managed this relationship properly for a long time, and maybe we can choose a day to travel. ”
When the woman heard this, she was suddenly relieved.
Indeed, there are many things in life that you may not be able to figure out yourself, and although cuteness seems complicated, it can be handled simply.
If you don't know how to deal with it, talk to someone about it, and even if you can't solve the problem, it will ease your emotions and calm you down.
It is both a good thing and a bad thing for a married woman to meet a man she likes.
The good thing is that this incident tells you that there is something wrong with your original relationship and you need to save it in time.
The bad thing is that some people are not strong-willed, so they may choose to give up the current one and choose the so-called "true love".
You have to understand that Eros is very naughty and will always make you make a lot of choices before giving you real love.
And every time you choose, there will be a different ending.
If you want to be stable and want the so-called true love, then you have to recognize your heart, keep your distance from other members of the opposite sex, get along well with the current one, and believe that after a long time, you will be glad for every firm choice.